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Any INFJ obsessed with their home? "I want to go home" syndrome.
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Do you ever get that feeling when you hit a certain point driving home after having to go somewhere and even though you’re not home yet your close enough to home that you suddenly feel relief and comfort like when you get home?
Yes! I love being at home. I feel safe here. It’s quiet, just me, my cats and a little garden. Bliss.
You just described my feelings so well! I didn’t have this sort of feeling when a few years ago when I’d been travelling across continents, but now that I’m older I feel like it only hits me now how far we actually can be from what we consider home.
Yes yes. Home is where the heart, solitude, and peace are
Oh, that should probably go on a shirt, or even better a hoodie. Less explanations, just point on the words.
Yup yup, I sometimes want to go outside and 90% of the time I just instantly want to go back. Home is like the most freeing, comfortable, independent place to be, many things to do, do them when I want, no pressure
Yup. Dread leaving it, always counting down the time until I can return lol
It probably depends on what your environment is. I live in a sardine can apartment. I have had better living circumstances, and the way that I Iive now is lesser than all of the years before. I actually prefer to spend my time at work. I am fortunate to have autonomy in my work environment.
So I don't think that it is necessarily about home, but about being in a place where you can experience peace and have freedom. If you have a home life where you are subject to other people, it's possible to have a preference for work.
The worst scenario that makes me want to jump off a cliff, is having a bad home life and work life, because you have nothing to look forward to, except for escape. I have been there, and INFJs need a refuge. Refuge and home can be synonymous, but it's not always the case
I love the comfort of my home. That's where I'm at peace, comfortable, safe, and free. That's where I can get alone time and do whatever I please. I could spend the rest of my life home.
Prob more an introvert thing. Had to sit with my kids in homeschool meetup today for 3 hrs. 3 hrs in a lunchroom with prob 50 other parents and kids all being loud and chatty, I started sweating near the end and couldn’t wait to get home!
Just can’t quite feel relaxed anywhere else
Always. I get to work from home, so I literally never want to leave and when I do leave, it’s a beeline to get back home. I don’t have social anxiety, I enjoy what little time I am out and about but it’s just not as euphoric feeling as being home.
Home is my safe haven it's where I'm most myself lol
Interesting - thought this was a cPTSD symptom but didn't think about infj aspect of it
Yup!!! My home is my safe place, my comfy place and my drama-free zone!!! I live alone (widowed) with 4 cats and am retired. Currently working (slowly) on the redo of my laundry room. Later this year or early next year I will be replacing all my kitchen cabinets and countertops, plus a few appliances but not changing the overall layout. I can do as much or as little as I want, no judgements and only music, tv or meowing to make noise. It’s heaven to me!!!
Ooooo whats your enneagram?
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I'm a 6w5 as well. Though I still enjoy going out and doing things. My night just has to end at home, sitting comfortably on my couch with my husband. If it doesn't, I'm gonna be grumpy about it.
That would explain it then 😆 You're probably 6w5 like meee.
Yes, yes and yes
Oh no, I love to be out and about!
Just trolling. Wanted a different first line to every other single comment in here!! 🤣
Yes, I love my home. I'm very much a home body. Even when I'm being adventurous (exploring my inferior Se), it's always to come home at the end of the day.
My wife is happy to explore (INFP) but is a homebody as well. We match nicely in so many ways. She's more adventurous than I am, but still enjoys coming home. I think I'd burnout with anyone not like that.
Yes! Always have been like this
Great title
Yeah. And luckily my mum and I both have this same trait. So everytime we get invited to like a family gathering me and mum would always leave together usually within 5 minutes after our bellies are full and if the host doesn't have good food we'd just vroom right back home lol. My dad however is a party king. So we just leave him there. Mum and I could never understand what's the fun about 20+ human in a regular sized house.
Oh I suddenly remembered this. So as a horny teen gay boy I got curious about orgy once so I accepted an invitation only to immediately have my boner softened and my blood frozen seeing all those people and them acting creepy towards me. There were just too many. I've never retreated from somewhere faster than that time lol.
I said "Yes" out loud after just reading the title lol. It's my safe space and I enjoy my own company. I used to be insecure about it when people asked me things like "What do you do with all that time?" or "Wouldn't you rather be doing something exciting???" or "Life is short!" But now, I'm just like, nah, I know what I'm about.
Also I love this lyric - Not everybody gets the chance to live a life that isn't dangerous (Afraid of Heights by boygenius) - it reminds me how incredibly lucky and grateful I am to have the choice to go home, especially with all the suffering going on in the world. There are stranger things than spending your time at home, on your own terms.
I absolutely love my home; it's my sanctuary. I don't particularly prefer company either.
It annoys me when just about every Thursday people ask "what are you doing this weekend?" or "where are you going this weekend?"
I get out when I feel the urge, yet I enjoy just being with myself doing whatever in my own home.
Gen X only child
I started working from home in 2021 after being in the service industry for 14 yrs. I don’t know how I survived that. Will never work in person 100% of the time, ever again.
I am. I seldom leave my home, sometimes I get cabin fever and take a walk. If I had a friend whom liked what I like I'd leave, but they just watch tv. All my real life friends are boring and don't like reading
yes and no, i love my room its decorated and its my safe space but I love travelling and rather explore than staying in my room for months on end even though thats what im used to, the only thing keeping me back is money
Yup all the time
if "home" is my bf, then yes
Yup. People are stupid out here
No, but then again it's probably got something to do with the fact that I can't stand my family most of the time
Yes, in part, it's my autism
Me finding my home is more spiritual. I don't fit in where I grew up and it's beginning to affect me mentally and emotionally. I feel like I'm in a cage. So my home is temporary, barely suitable for what I need.
Yes I like my home. I usually can stay in for 2-3 days at a time keeping myself busy and not seeing anyone
I’m with you on this one. I feel like even when I go somewhere, the thought of coming back home excited me even more. That’s the beauty of travelling and seeing the world. I’m glad I’m not the only one because I already thought I’m leaning towards being a Si user. I love my home because of my family and my safe space, as everyone had said. I’m not particularly connected to spaces, but I am very connected to all memories made in these spaces and that’s why I value home so much.
Absolutely. Any time I leave for any reason, my focus is always upon how soon I can return home. I frequently catch myself repeating over and over in my head, "I just want to go home." It's like my involuntary mantra.
Yeah, but my home is a person who has withdrawn and we’ve not spoken in over a month now
Yes, I was like this a LOT in college.
And 😂 at "I want to go home" syndrome. We now have a name for it.
definitely. the one place I can be completely myself - human or mammal - because I am alone. Comfortable feeling
Hard no.
But then, I moved around a lot as a kid, and "home" was always very turbulent for me back then. If I wanted peace and emotional stability, I stayed away.
YES. I went away to college and we lost our home before I graduated. I’m home sick, literally sick over it, constantly. All I want to do is go home, or at least be near my home and the people I love. I’m not homeless, I have an apartment, but I feel homeless - financially trapped so far away from everyone and everything that matters to me.
considering i don't actually have a safe space ( even at my own home) i still have it because yeah staying at one place is suffocating if it's not good. so my 'home' is literally the public transport where i feel more safe and seen lol
I have been shamed for it for half my life but it is my safe space especially after everything life has thrown my way. It’s hard to meet people like me cuz they are always at home like me. I am accepting that I am going to be spending most of my life with very little in the way of social interaction and I am okay with it now, 20 years ago mot so much.
Yeah you know in harry potter hermione has a bag and she pulls a tent out of it and can put a spell around it so no one can see them. I’d love to explore and then just pull out my home whenever but so no one can see my home or me a🤭😂
My house is my safe place. My peace. All of my fur babies are there. I'm greeted with love the second I walk in the door. Why wouldn't I rather be there than out in public???? Let me go home and read with my cats!!
I want to be at home enjoying my rent. My cats are here and all of my things. It’s my safe space.
Not obsessed, but every once in a while, there’s an urge to go back to the source. Once you realize home is truly where you make it and find peace in building it within, the longing isn’t a torture.
Yes, I love home
Yes. And the contractors are coming next week. Where is my zombie cabin
Genuinely if it wasn't for bodily functions and needing to eat, i would never leave my bed
Oh yes! I love going out and having new experiences and such, but home is where I can be absolutely myself. I also use it to describe something/someone great "...feels like home" 😄
Omg yes! I‘ve always felt bad because I‘m not the typicial „travelling is my passion“ person. I just want to be home. I love home. All of my hobbies can be done from home and nobody can invade my space. It‘s probablby good I own a dog so I gotta leave the house 3x a day. Else I would just stay in until I die haha.
I work from home. The few times I leave, I miss being home within the first hour.
Yes
Now that I have my own place: YEP. Before though due to abusive households I wanted to stay out of the house but I knew there was a home waiting for me and I had to build it.
Yeah i get a weird feeling when away from home
Every single time! My husband & my daughter are both extrovert enjoys hustle bustle of people whilst me dreading on the side thinking when can i go home and sprawling on the bed reading my books. I always miss home. I can go out but 2-4 hours tops. Then i will go straight home. My bed.
No, absolutely not, my whole life has been spent running away from home
I’m more “I want to go to the rink,” & then after my sessions, “I want to go home & skip traffic”
This goes hand in hand with my fear of being perceived lmaoooo
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I always want to go home. And if I don't...then there's something wrong. Very recently moved to a new house because of it.
💯 just me and my cats and my hamster living in our own bubble
Home is my sanctuary. There is nowhere as good lol
There's no place I'd rather be.
Yes, always. I can be anywhere at anytime and I still think about home. If something feels too difficult to go through or people are mind numbingly loud and obnoxious, I just think of my bed and pillow and I calm down instantly. Like "it's okay, just a while longer, you'll be seeing home soon." 😂 I used to do this routine daily where I'd kiss my pillow and say "I'll be back, babe" and get back home and say "gosh babe, I'm back! I missed you!"
lonelinessmax
Yes. Because home is where I get to take my bra off
Yes my home is my safe space, there’s no better place.