This is a place to discuss dating and relationships over 40. It's not a place to push gendered agendas; it's not a place to talk about all the reasons not to date; it's not a place to talk about everything wrong with dating people over 40; and it's not a place to talk about everything that's wrong with your target gender. This is a sub that intends to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.

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We have a [Discord chatroom](https://discord.gg/YU9w72pQB5) for general discussion and dating conversation.

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Please familiarize yourself with our community. Violations may result in posts or threads being locked or deleted, and/or posters being suspended or banned. This is not an exhaustive list; moderators have full discretion and if you are sanctioned for something that you "didn't know," honestly, we're all adults and it's probably something that you should have known.

***CONTENT 1:*** Posts and replies that do not support the Dating Over Forty mission may be removed and/or locked at moderator discretion.

***CONTENT 2:*** It is expected that posts contain an actual question or, at the very least, a discussion prompt. It's also expected that posters participate in their own threads. Posts may be removed at moderator discretion. The weekly sticky update post will be for subreddit updates from moderators AND personal updates from posters.

***CONTENT 3:*** There will also be a weekly sticky post for selfies, photos, and other images. Posts in the subreddit should be text-based, not image-based.

***CONTENT 4:*** We have compiled [a wiki of (very) frequently asked questions](https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/wiki/index). If your post can be answered with a wiki entry, we may refer you there and lock the post. 

***NO SEX/GENDER GENERALIZATIONS, NO DOUBLE STANDARDS, NO PROJECTION:*** Men are people, women are people, everyone in between is people. Let's talk about the people in our lives as individuals, not stereotypes.

***NO BOYS'/GIRLS' CLUBS:*** No promoting, language, linking, or crossposting to or from gendered subs, including but not limited to The Red Pill, Female Dating Strategy, MGTOW/WGTOW, etc.

***NO RACISM:*** Don't call people names, and if they happen to be of a different race from you, please especially don't use that against them. It's below you, and it is miles below them. Treat everyone as an equal here.

***NO SOLICITING:*** No "seeking" posts. No creeping.

***NO BODY/SEX SHAMING:*** You can and should like what you like, but if you don't find certain physical acts or attributes appealing, there's no need to share that with us. This also includes having/seeking sex outside of serious, monogamous relationships. Equating casual sex to prostitution will earn at least a time-out.

***NO AGEISM:*** This is a subreddit for people in their 40s and beyond. We're not going to host discussions about why people in their 20s and 30s are so much more attractive than people in their 40s and 50s. It's not a universal truth, it's not kind, and it's just not appropriate here. Adults should date other adults; the end.

***NO DOCTORING:*** Focus on how you relate to a person and not what label you think they should wear. No diagnosing mental or physical ailments and no recommending treatments. No speculating about fertility, menopause, ED, or "porn sickness". No COVID misinformation.

***NO SELF-PROMOTION:*** Bloggers, writers, dating coaches, etc. are welcome to participate as individuals but must clearly identify their affiliation on any self-promoting links. In addition to the remedies above, moderators may assign a flair to a thread or a poster.

***NO CALLOUTS:*** Issues with another poster or with subreddit moderation will only be addressed through modmail. No linking to/from other subs or brigading either, please.

***NO POLITICAL DEBATES:*** Sometimes it's hard to separate politics from life and love, but this isn't the place to campaign.

***BE CIVIL:*** I already said be excellent to each other. In lieu of that, don't be antagonistic. That's a dick move. 

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**RECOMMENDED SUBS**

/r/FriendsOver40 

/r/40something

/r/datingoverthirty

/r/datingoverfifty

/r/R4R30Plus

/r/R4R40Plus

/r/lgbt 

/r/trans

if you think your sub is compatible with ours, feel free to contact us and we will be happy to link you.

<div class="md">This is a place to discuss dating and relationships over 40. It&#39;s not a place to push gendered agendas; it&#39;s not a place to talk about all the reasons not to date; it&#39;s not a place to talk about everything wrong with dating people over 40; and it&#39;s not a place to talk about everything that&#39;s wrong with your target gender. This is a sub that intends to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.

~~~

We have a <a href="https://discord.gg/YU9w72pQB5">Discord chatroom</a> for general discussion and dating conversation.

~~~

Please familiarize yourself with our community. Violations may result in posts or threads being locked or deleted, and/or posters being suspended or banned. This is not an exhaustive list; moderators have full discretion and if you are sanctioned for something that you &quot;didn&#39;t know,&quot; honestly, we&#39;re all adults and it&#39;s probably something that you should have known.

CONTENT 1: Posts and replies that do not support the Dating Over Forty mission may be removed and/or locked at moderator discretion.

CONTENT 2: It is expected that posts contain an actual question or, at the very least, a discussion prompt. It&#39;s also expected that posters participate in their own threads. Posts may be removed at moderator discretion. The weekly sticky update post will be for subreddit updates from moderators AND personal updates from posters.

CONTENT 3: There will also be a weekly sticky post for selfies, photos, and other images. Posts in the subreddit should be text-based, not image-based.

CONTENT 4: We have compiled <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverforty/wiki/index">a wiki of (very) frequently asked questions</a>. If your post can be answered with a wiki entry, we may refer you there and lock the post. 

NO SEX/GENDER GENERALIZATIONS, NO DOUBLE STANDARDS, NO PROJECTION: Men are people, women are people, everyone in between is people. Let&#39;s talk about the people in our lives as individuals, not stereotypes.

NO BOYS&#39;/GIRLS&#39; CLUBS: No promoting, language, linking, or crossposting to or from gendered subs, including but not limited to The Red Pill, Female Dating Strategy, MGTOW/WGTOW, etc.

NO RACISM: Don&#39;t call people names, and if they happen to be of a different race from you, please especially don&#39;t use that against them. It&#39;s below you, and it is miles below them. Treat everyone as an equal here.

NO SOLICITING: No &quot;seeking&quot; posts. No creeping.

NO BODY/SEX SHAMING: You can and should like what you like, but if you don&#39;t find certain physical acts or attributes appealing, there&#39;s no need to share that with us. This also includes having/seeking sex outside of serious, monogamous relationships. Equating casual sex to prostitution will earn at least a time-out.

NO AGEISM: This is a subreddit for people in their 40s and beyond. We&#39;re not going to host discussions about why people in their 20s and 30s are so much more attractive than people in their 40s and 50s. It&#39;s not a universal truth, it&#39;s not kind, and it&#39;s just not appropriate here. Adults should date other adults; the end.

NO DOCTORING: Focus on how you relate to a person and not what label you think they should wear. No diagnosing mental or physical ailments and no recommending treatments. No speculating about fertility, menopause, ED, or &quot;porn sickness&quot;. No COVID misinformation.

NO SELF-PROMOTION: Bloggers, writers, dating coaches, etc. are welcome to participate as individuals but must clearly identify their affiliation on any self-promoting links. In addition to the remedies above, moderators may assign a flair to a thread or a poster.

NO CALLOUTS: Issues with another poster or with subreddit moderation will only be addressed through modmail. No linking to/from other subs or brigading either, please.

NO POLITICAL DEBATES: Sometimes it&#39;s hard to separate politics from life and love, but this isn&#39;t the place to campaign.

BE CIVIL: I already said be excellent to each other. In lieu of that, don&#39;t be antagonistic. That&#39;s a dick move. 

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RECOMMENDED SUBS

<a href="/r/FriendsOver40">/r/FriendsOver40</a> 

<a href="/r/40something">/r/40something</a>

<a href="/r/datingoverthirty">/r/datingoverthirty</a>

<a href="/r/datingoverfifty">/r/datingoverfifty</a>

<a href="/r/R4R30Plus">/r/R4R30Plus</a>

<a href="/r/R4R40Plus">/r/R4R40Plus</a>

<a href="/r/lgbt">/r/lgbt</a> 

<a href="/r/trans">/r/trans</a>

if you think your sub is compatible with ours, feel free to contact us and we will be happy to link you.
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This is a place to discuss dating and relationships over 40. It's not a place to push gendered agendas; it's not a place to talk about all the reasons not to date; it's not a place to talk about everything wrong with dating people over 40; and it's not a place to talk about everything that's wrong with your target gender. This is a sub that intends to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.

<div class="md">This is a place to discuss dating and relationships over 40. It&#39;s not a place to push gendered agendas; it&#39;s not a place to talk about all the reasons not to date; it&#39;s not a place to talk about everything wrong with dating people over 40; and it&#39;s not a place to talk about everything that&#39;s wrong with your target gender. This is a sub that intends to be positive about dating, sex, and relationships over 40, and that includes being positive or at least civil towards all genders and life stages.
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