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Spawn Camping lmao
Trolling the respawn
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Lmao this one sent me
The same dried up old photocopier next to the fake plant is the spawn beacon.
This one got me crying
That’s fucking hilarious. Good shit, mate.
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I totally agree. Pry a dissatisfied bored one away from his wife
In my 50s, recently separated but get on with my ex. Fit, good job, etc. Would I date? Yes, but don’t really want another full-on relationship yet. Reasons. I’m keen not to freak my kids out and I also don’t want to live by somebody else’s rules or expectations for a bit. Finding someone who can work with that seems difficult.
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im single and 50, and not really sure im looking for a full time relationship any more. Ive had the kids, and now even though at times would like a special person to share things with i also keep myself quite busy with my own activities and pursuits. Which all tend to be solo things. No longer do the dating sites, try to keep my eyes open and attend social activities so that if i do happen to meet someone it’s in a more organic way but it sure is tough!
Yes, I'm somewhat the same as you. I'm not necessarily looking for an immediate serious relationship, take it slow as I like my space and independence. It either develops into something more meaningful or it doesn't.
All the best 👍
I have a married friend and occasionally around xmas they used to have a somewhat party/bbq once a year and would invite a large group of people, couples and singles over . It was a great way of meeting people. They no longer do them but looking back can recall the beginnings of a few relationships at those parties. Was so much better compared to a bar or club as it wasnt just a roomful of strangers. No idea how the kids of today do it!
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Good observations, thank you.
I totally understand the assets issue. I'm very protective of my house, too and am wary when guys seem overly interested in the fact I own my home.
Well, if you are advertising the fact that you own a home......maybe something that you could keep to yourself while on the dating scene.
It's hard not to mention it, especially about a couple of dates. It naturally comes up in most conversations as to whether someone rents, flats, shares or owns their own home.
Surely you could organise a "contract out of any interest in assets held before relationship" agreement if you met someone you were actually interested in?
Yes, it would definitely be something I would do for sure, so it's not a deal-breaker for me at all. But, I guess for some people, it is especially if the other person has no valuable assets such as their own property and there's the worry of being ripped off.
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Out of curiosity- how old (young) are you?
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Did you deliberately leave out the 1?
What do women in their 40s or 50s have that women in their 30s lack? I mean, from your point of view/preference
menopause
edit: idk if this is sexist or something, I'm just having a joke. Sorry if it offends you
Nah bro, not offended. Some women get into perimenopause in their 30s though 😬. Guys have to face male pattern baldness, we get to be Godzilla for a few years
52
No not you lol. The youngfulla trying to chase you
Hahaha. I see 😊
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Maybe when I'm in my 90s and you're in your 70s hahaha.
Nah man, not blaming you at all
cougar lover or sugar mama ?
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As a well off married male in his fifties in good shape. Not fat, bald or grey. If my wife died, I’d never remarry or even date. That part of my life is over. It would even be worse if they wanted children or had children they still need raising. I’m glad that I had children, but I will not be doing that again. For the first time in many decades I’ve put myself and my wife first. What time I have left is for us and if she goes first then just me.
What’s wrong with being bald 🥹
Exactly , it peeves me off that it is acceptable to use baldness as a term of abuse, when it is a completely natural thing. Men cannot accuse women of being fat, even though that is something they have some control over.
Yet it seems socially acceptable to rubbish bald men, as if they are somehow inferior when it is completely natural and something they have no control over.
Well men constantly accuse women of being fat tho.
Nothing if you have the head shape for it! (I don't)
More prone to sun damage.
There is nothing wrong with being bald. I was just describing myself as someone who looks younger than his years. However the irony is that I feel all my years and some more. Just shows looks are deceiving
Thank you for being honest and upfront.
What about physical needs?
At my age not much needs in that department. I really just do it, to keep my wife happy. Makes her feel wanted and keeps her self esteem up. Which is more than enough reason for me to oblige. She’s an attractive women and I remind her of that every day.
Ohhhh, that's a shame.
I couldn't be with a man who didn't have a high libido.
lol I’d be complete disappointment to you. I wish you well on your search
Thank you 😊
Sounds like you should date younger men ain’t nothing wrong with being a cougar lol
Went to wedding recently of couple that met in their 50s.
They meet through cycling. Lots of MAMALs and some are single and relatively normal, other than the weird passion for getting up early and cycling around Auckland.
But cycling is relatively social as you can chat on rides and normally there is coffee and brunch afterwards.
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It's "mamil" and it stands for "middle aged man in lycra"
I meant MAMIL - Middle Aged Man in Lycra. Even a Wikipedia article on the term so thought it was well known
I am one myself, Gen-X have road bike (including one with motor, one without).
Awesome, thank you.
As a former (female) cyclist, I agree it’s a fantastic way to meet men!
And it’s a great sport all round - I miss it so much. There are just too many cars on the road now and I’ve hit the road literally enough times already, so had to give it up.
I'm my 50 year old husband drops dead im going to sign up to this veritable meat market in spanx
Me and my 50ish buddies do mountain biking, we love it and the only danger is really yourself and what you choose to tackle, you're going slower and are better protected, but TBF I'm not sure how many accessible tracks there are in Auckland.
That’s the only downside with MTB: you have to drive for ages to get to where you do it.
Still, it’s an option I haven’t yet ruled out completely. Am just getting my life together a bit while I mull over which sport to get into next.
Come to the velodrome and/or forest…
Honesty thats me, but see zero value in a relationship. There's just no benefit after a certain age.
Most older single guys I’ve met are the exact opposite: looking for someone to take care of them, which is why I nope out
I hear ya.
I'm beginning to become disillusioned, which isn't a good feeling as I'm still young. I don't want to write myself off as single for the rest of my life as I hope to live for several more decades.
I'm struggling to meet guys who are ready to date. Lots are still not over their ex (either still hold feelings or very bitter despite a long separation period).
I don't blame any single guys wanting to start a family and therefore looking for a younger woman, that's totally understandable. It's just becoming harder to find any guys that are uncomplicated, relaxed, and ready to date.
I deleted 3 replies. Nothing wrong with being single at our age, nothing wrong with not wanting to be single. 😁
Just to share the sentiment. Dating apps didn't work for me either. Good luck with the search.
Thank you 😊
We exist
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Yes, I agree. We're not perfect either.
Was chatting to a friend earlier and perhaps we're too assertive (in a positive way) we want to be treated as equals and meet someone that isn't needy or cocky, we're not willing to settle for the sake of being in another miserable relationship. We're sorted our heads out and have a clear idea of what we want. Unfortunately, some people don't work on themselves, they blame their ex and never self-analyse or take responsibility.
I'm beginning to become disillusioned, which isn't a good feeling as I'm still young.
Its hard not to become disillusioned - and dating apps are really doomed to fail by design - if they really worked itd be counter productive.
But spare a thought for guys its even harder.
Men generaly think with their little head rather than their big head - no one disputes this. Most woman say to me guys on apps are just so thirsty etc and sound suprised till i explain why.
There are litteraly thousands of female profiles on multiple dating sites that are simply being used to promote the owners onlyfans or fansly etc. Some of these profiles are beyond provocative.. So you end up with allready horny males flicking through peofile after profile becoming more and more aroused and when they do match or connect or whatever some of these guys are so desperate they loose their shit.
We just have to accept that if your dating in the lake of decency its actually a very shallow pond - whereas if you have no standards and dont mind human excrement then your lake is an ocean.
Don’t worry, we’re out here. I’m single, 50M in Auckland and ready for a relationship. Apparently I’m a catch according to my female friends.
Also find it a struggle to meet women who are ready to date, or have a true relationship.
Not trying to hookup with you OP, just letting you know what you’re looking for is out here
Companionship and sharing the burden! I'm 52F, been single for about 6 years? Over it now. I want my person! So over my family expecting me to be alone at every thing. I want to pool resources and go exploring!
Guys I know, been there done that and don’t want that drama, guard is up too, don’t think they ever could again.
They go out to the pub for a drink occasionally.
Bunnings, probably.
They’re out riding their Harley’s!
It’s true I ride and have met a lot of genuine men in their 50’s who are tired of the bullshit and just want to ride. If you rode a motorcycle and had a good attitude you’d be snapped up quick.
Most of them are just starting with their younger model.
Like diCaprio, except she probably hasnt started university yet (not that she needs to now)
Bingo
They are with women in their late 30's early 40's 🤷♂️
I know 3 single guys in their 50s
- Mommas boy, entitled baby. Creepy, Married once and she divorced him within months
- Fat, mommas boy with a God complex... far too narscissistic to ever appologise or be emotionally available
- Fat, never had a relationship, extremely awkward
The rest are married
Yep.
In the past, I have asked friends and colleagues whether they know any single guys, and they all say they wouldn't recommend any of them for similar reasons as yours above.
Sorry I didn't mean to be discouraging.
I do know one guy who was single until 40, joined a cycling club, and got married within a year.
So join a mixed sports club for a sport you enjoy.
I know that if i was ever single again, that's what I would do.
No, it's all good.
I posted under another comment, hearing the "older woman" part has discouraged me. It makes my feel ancient. Younger guys don't realize how it makes women feel. It's a real turn-off (for me in particular).
Hmm fair enough. 🤔 I guess it's intended to mean "women who aren't the same age or younger than them" but I can see how being called "older" is a bad thing.
I'll keep that one in mind though.
Also, many younger men like older women. I'm one of them. My wife is 5 years older than me and all my girlfriends and my ex wife are older then me too.
Less drama, not retarded...
So don't limit yourself to guys your age either.
It's ok, you could just say they can't cook, and became fat due to lack of commitment to anything from a Diet to an exercise regime.
I think you’ll find the problem to be this: Emotionally available, sorted, single.
It’s like the cheap, fast, accurate problem with jobs. You can usually have 2 of these 3. Nigh impossible to have all 3. So my guess is the pool of men that has each of those 3 qualities is rather shallow
And probably gets shallower with each decade. It was hard enough to find a guy with all 3 qualities in my 30s, and you can be sure I'm keeping him - it would be too hard to start again!
What about some younger people you come across or may even work with? They may have an uncle or family friend they know who is ready to mingle?
So hard getting out there are there any social evenings like quiz nights, paint and wine nights, or even fundraiser events you could go out to?
I do ask every so often, but I don't like to mix business with pleasure, especially if things went pear-shaped.
I've joined Meetup groups, but noticed that a lot of events have mostly women signed up to attend.
I find even for people and men in the 40s it's extremely hard out there.
Maybe find a hobby or something and meet people through that ? Friend of a friend perhaps ?
Yes, I will.
Have focused solely on the usual dating sites, and while I met some nice guys and dated a couple, it obviously hasn't lead to anything substantial.
I need to cast the net wider and meet in the real world.
I think that would be the best option, I mean app and sites can work but you will have to sort through alot of rubbish to find a sliver of gold and then hoping it will go somewhere. Best of luck 👍
Thank you
What hobbies do single men in their 40s & 50s have? Like where would you meet these guys?
Golf is popular with middle age to older men. Gym maybe, depends on what kind of man she wants.
4 criteria here. Realistically you should drop the age one then choose two of them lol.
Thank you,
I don't actually mean to suggest younger men . I completely understand your reasoning for that. I'm a man and I think young men are fucking idiots, at best. I'm sorry , that comment was probably a bit flippant.
It's just that only those three attributes matter, because you are in the market for that bracket - so it's a given.
And all three, especially at that phase of life is a unicorn.
No, you weren't flippant at all. Makes total sense now, thank you. Wise words.
51 yo, match your criteria. I'm in my own bubble with close friends and work group. The last two people I dated were through the work network. I guess that's the problem - as we get older our social groups narrow.
Yeah, it’s rare to meet someone new outside of your established circle. For them to then also be single, age-appropriate, decent-EQ, interesting and interested… …feels like long odds.
They're looking for girls 10 years younger.
Fit single guys in their 50s have generally been burnt after a marriage with someone of a similar age. Most don’t want to repeat as they consider dating woman of their own age akin to kissing their mother. These men fall into 3 categories. 1. Enjoy the single life, friends & hobbies; they tend to pay for play when required. 2. Find a hot younger MILF 3. Enjoy the novelty of traditional gender roles in a relationship with a younger Asian.
I think you've hit the nail on the head there. Have to say I agree fully.
Who dosnt love a woman that knows what she wants .... Good luck 😃
Thank you 😊
Try supermarkets? That seems to be only place these days without being to straight forward and maybe I’m a guy and if a woman came up to me started a random conversation in the store it’s either hit or a miss and I think people genuinely connect when you having real life conversations in this day and age
Funny you should say that, I saw a guy a while ago in the local supermarket. We keep locking eyes as we moved throughout the shop. I deliberately joined his queue, however, he was several people ahead of me and he left afterwards. I was secretly hoping he was outside going to approach me. It was obvious we were attracted to eachother, but, alas he didn't. I've been back regularly to do my grocery shop and haven't seen him since.
Yeah see that’s more like it, if you intend to go on dates and dating sites or whatever to meet someone specifically then you have an expectation and usually your mind is set on how it should it be just from experience. But I guess for some people it works and others like yourself it’s opposite or a fail but places supermarkets and your park or shopping centres like it’s totally random and gives you some sort of hope
Overseas years ago, some supermarkets had specific evenings during the week known as singles nights. Apparently, if you placed bananas in your trolley facing upwards, it indicated you were single 😀
Grey Lynn New World 1999. My flatmate would always go to the Thursday night sesh.
Hahaha that’s a new one, I’ll give it a go
I would totally think like that too. I remember in the late 1990s the grey Lynn new world had singles night on Thursdays after 6pm
I'm here
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Give me 20 years
Cool. I'll wait for you :) 😀
Unless you were the lady in the Jetts gym this evening, then lets not wait🤣
Hahaha......no, sorry that wasn't me.
(Go for it though, with her, you never know)
Mid 50s, single for a little while now. Permanently off the market because I’m caring for my Dad. I think you might find a lot of people in our age group doing similar, both male and female.
I wish you luck, in my opinion there’s a paucity of good men in nz. I’ve lived in london for 90% of my life and having moved here have found it a very insular place with a lot of unreconstructed men who have fixed ideas of gender and sexuality, but maybe that’s on me. I know if I became single I’d just concentrate on BJJ more and date internationally as it’s 2 degrees of separation here.
Thank you 😊
Go join the Facebook pages for crew to go sailing on people’s boats. Or learn to ride a motorbike and join in on the social riding scene where people will travel in groups to a restaurant or cafe and back home again.
Generally speaking there’s heaps of single men doing both of the activities, and not many women
Join a club like a tramping club so you get to spend time with fella's before anything else happens.
I (51m) have also found the dating apps to not be worth my time.
I recommend finding events and activities you enjoy and go to them on a regular basis. At the very least you're likely to find some great, deep friendships. And, you're likely to come across some single guys here and there that might lead to dating (or whatever you're looking for).
There are many events in the "events" area of FB. There is Meetup.com where you can find a huge amount of groups that relate to almost any interest. Halls/event centers often have flyers hung up that mention events and classes. Any of those might help in meeting new people. Maybe it's not the guy you're looking for, but it might be that you find a friend who just happens to know a great guy. At the very least you might find some really fun activity you enjoy. I've just started this year to learn acro-yoga (partner acrobatics on the ground). And it's great, with a great group of people! Go see what you can find that interests you. :)
On a side thought... I, and many other men, aren't always good at reading social cues (especially if it's someone we're interested in), and we don't want to come across as a "creep" so we tend to be cautious or slow when flirting. Hence, many of us are fine (or quite happy) when a woman is willing to start a blunt (but kind) conversation with us to find out how we feel. So, if you are interested in someone, go ahead and take a chance with asking them how they feel or if they would like to explore the connection more.
Awesome, thank you for the great advice 😊
Trying to date women in their 20s and 30s 😂
Go look for single guys pushing their trolleys around the supermarket, single guys got to eat too.
p.s not MANY married men would be doing the weekly shop by themselves. So safe to say they could be single pushing that trolley around.
You can spot out if they’re doing the shopping for a partner too by if they’re constantly checking between the phone and a product to see if it’s exactly what their partner told them to get
52 year old single male here in Auckland.
Im either riding motorcycles, at the gym, working on my house, fishing or having great Dad/Daughter time.
We are out here! We are real.
Women in their 50s are sexy asf - from a 34 year old, man.
I won't disagree with you on that.
So we have lots of sexy, confident, sorted women looking to meet guys in their own age bracket, and unfortunately, there are very few around.
They are all shagging 20-30 year olds
Many guys in their 50s are probably waiting for house prices to rise so they can sell up and disentangle themselves from a relationship without losing too much $$$.
men in their fifties who're single will be either divorced or never married. There is likely a high percentage you should avoid
There’s nothing wrong with either of those. They don’t necessarily indicate there’s something terribly wrong with a guy.
Marriage isn't as popular as you think
People can grow apart, turn into psycho nutjobs or cheaters at any time, some of top causes of divorce, leaving a scarred, but usually good quality person single.
So only have to avoid 50%, not what I'd call a high percentage.
What’s the youngest guy you’d consider?
Possibly 48, but honestly, I prefer a guy 50 and older. Guys in their 40s have told me before they like dating "older women". Hearing that (several times) made me feel ancient and as if I was a cradle snatcher. So, it's put me right off anyone younger than me.
Can see how that would hurt. And maybe they intended it as a reference, but imagining a male-centric world (!), maybe some just meant older than themselves? Or a bit of both, but to indicate - however clumsily - that they're not stereotypical males wanting younger women. I dunno, might be hopelessly over-estimating my fellow makes, but maybe as a better-best case scenario.
Perhaps you're right. However, it has felt like some have said it as if they have a "thing" for "older women." Makes me think of The Graduate.
I don't really look my age, I'm often mistaken for being in my early 40s so I don't even see or consider myself as being old.
In what way are dating sites not working for you?
The experience is improved immensely by being selective and talking for a good while before you meet for a date.
Matching, chatting online and or phone, seems like a good connection. Then meeting up and realising there's either no chemistry or connection on my part or there's about me.
So, back to the drawing board.
That’s the catch, the dating apps can be tedious in the messaging stage getting it somewhere without fizzling/ghosting. Ideally you want that early coffee meet to see If either of you even want to have another coffee together :). As shit as apps can be there’s no way I’d meet new people otherwise. Imagine how bleak being single again later in life without apps…
If you know where to look, you will find them at quality establishments.
I think the best way to meet people is via mutual friends and social events. To broaden circle of friends and increase enjoyment of life there are clubs associated with various hobbies, such as dance clubs, language clubs, music, all sorts. Even if you don't meet someone this way it can still be rewarding, and if you have hobbies then it's a great thing to connect over.
No idea but I’m 36 and all those things 😌
Ha ! 47yr old male - my BF and I were just discussing this (he's 50) decided we need to take up some different hobbies. Same as many here though I get on well with the ex and have a kid that comes first then a lot of work and time just hasn't been there until I decided to downsize my work load. Also not keen for the bar thing or dating sites as prefer to meet people in person. Gearing up to walk Te Araroa so who knows might meet some cool people along the way ! We've also decided we need to just meet more people as our friendship group has splintered over the last few years with divorces and people moving away.
Yes, getting out and about is great, and if you meet someone along the way, even better.
I think a lot of people tend to be shy conversing face-to-face, though. We've become so used to texting, emailing, etc...that we've lost the art and confidence in chatting to strangers of the opposite sex. I don't drink alcohol so hanging out in bars does suit, nor does being with someone who needs alcohol to enjoy themselves.
So, when you and your friend are on your walk, pluck up the courage to strike up those conversations with ladies, we'll respond and appreciate it.
Meeting via friends is usually a winner
Did that old telecom ceo create a dating site just for this. Sorted men and women who spend about 10k to find each other. Check that out. Might work out
Tried a crossfit gym? Several similar aged blokes in there, there will often be partner based workouts biased towards pairing up ages & abilities
45 M no kids ex didn't want them, so I accepted this and spent 10 years with her till she wanted to end it a couple of years ago.
Wasn't sure I wanted to get back into dating but managed to find a 45f with 2 kids. Taking our time to get to know each other before taking the next step.
Bumble was used to find each other. Dating apps are weird, but I did find Bumble one of the better ones, Tinder has too many undesirables and people just wanting to hookup, Hinge seems to pay to win and I didn't stay long.
I did find apps to be quite overwhelming, especially when you match with quite a few people. Some, ghost, texts go nowhere, some disappear, and some want Zoom meetings initially, which I found weird, so I stayed away from them. Being a bit old school. I would rather go out and meet as it's too easy to hide behind a camera & keyboard. The senses and body language can tell you a lot.
I hear Bumbles policy is changing, so it is just not up to the female to initiate contact, unsure as I have been off since Jan.
I was about to delete the app and put my profile to sleep cause i do travel for work and was feeling a bit time constrained but before i did we took a chance, and we went on a date. Conversation flowed easily, so we went on another date and continued to see each other once a week on average. It's been a few months and I haven't met the children yet. Always getting sitters and taking the time for each other and just enjoying being with each other.
It's definitely a bit harder as we get older as we have a lot more to lose, trusting is harder, and we have to consider the feelings of others too. Take your time, and make sure they take your time into consideration.
They are looking after themselves, putting themselves first. Become a successful human and you will find the other successful humans. Look in a library or in a gym.
My advice is try things like Meet-up- there's walking groups and Auckland Friend Group that does pool nights, games nights, dinner nights etc etc. Alternativey clubs like sailing, dragon boating, improv etc etc. Get out and have some fun as a single person and as a cute together single gal it will all just happen the good ol fashioned way - trust me us guys will subtly start to grow a friendship with someone who looks like a great person.
Oh and avoid having sex as long as possible .. you want to actually know someone before you take that step.
Don't stress- you have time and there are plenty of good blokes out there ... but from talking with friends it sounds like by all accounts the dating scene is a nightmare and I don't think emotionally available people (not just men) are keen to grind through all that. Life's too short.
Single male, 52, good job, not bald (not that there’s anything wrong with it), fit, average looks (I think), long time divorced, no kids, emotionally stable, and…quite frankly, I can’t be bothered.
I’ve been single a long time and am quite happy that way. I’m open to meeting someone but in stints of trying online dating over the years I met only one potential partner.
I’m not willing to settle but don’t think I have particularly high standards. I just want someone similar to what you want, fit, slim, smart, got their shit sorted. Ideally no kids, but adult kids is probably fine for the right person. You wouldn’t have thought it’d be that hard an ask.
The main thing is I want them to make my life better than what it is now, and life now is pretty great.
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Yeah, it seems to be becoming harder the older I get too (I’m not trying to match your other criteria, I meant dating). The more used I am to my own space and freedoms, the more having to think about someone else’s feelings and needs seems like a burden. I know I would enjoy caring for a partner and get the fun of doing things together, but that ‘I can’t just plan to go for a walk in the ranges then watch an old film on Saturday without asking X if she wants to do that’ stops me from making the first step to go and meet them.
Not that I’m overflowing with app matches!
Cycling/running/tramping
I think that maybe you might be asking too much if the man has to match you or be of higher status. Assuming you want them to own a home too. Being physically fit isn't too hard. High libido is a coin flip assuming everything is in working order. Mainly because I reckon any man matching or above your status would be staying single to play the field and dating younger you know what I mean?
Take your top 5 needs in a man and randomly pick any 3.. That's more realistic. We are all pretty much a couple cans short of a 6 pack.
Also after 2-3 breakups and heartache in ones life nobody wants to sign up for another when they are doing fine as is.
Best of luck to you
Thank you
If I were single in my 50s and had all my shit together I'd date 30 year olds 🤷♀️
Why would you date women 20 years younger than you.
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Oh my gosh , I’m early 40,s same situation as you. Men like that is a rare find…. Almost impossible. Starting to think as women, we are more inclined to invest for the future. I recommend cats, no disappointment or deceit there
The issue there is likely the economy. In any other time you would say there would be plenty who hit that criteria.
But now days it is rare to own a home and not be drowned in debt ( especially after divorce) That said you said hopefully, so you are well aware the state of play. Good luck, you sound resonable, that is frankly far to rare these days.
I’ve a friend who was widowed about 8 years ago. The wife died while he was at work. The younger daughter reported not being able to get her on the phone and he went home and found her. Horrible in all the ways possible.
He’s had the occasional girlfriend. Maybe still has. But mostly he lives with the daughter in a way that looking at it from outside I’d find even more worrying than I do, if I didn’t know him better.
Men in their fiftes can afford women in their 20s and 30s. Have you thought about men in their 70s? When they die, you can keep their stuff. Or go to africa and adopt a husband.
It depends on what type of person you looking for
May I ask what's your definition of sorted is ?
Sorted previous relationship, i.e., divorce, house and contents split, no lingering issues there. Isn't sleeping on a friend's couch, i.e., has a permanent place to live. Is financially stable, i.e., not paying massive amounts of child support and hence is limited financially. And, finally, has sorted out their head, knows what they want, is at peace with their past, and willing to start to date with a clear head and open heart.
I've been trying to think of a way limited financially doesn't apply to me but it does. I don't pay child support but rent alone and dont really have going out money so mostly stay home. I can say I ticked the rest of the boxes and you sound like someone a guy would be lucky to meet. These days I only go out to the supermarket so my chances are pretty limited .
That’s me
Real men in there fifties won’t come without a little baggage. As a 47 yr old male I have a few mates in there early 50’s and there either down the pub every night complaining about their job or there wife that there planning on leaving once the youngest has left home or their out riding motorbikes in the weekend on weed. 😆Could just be a Waikato thing, not sure what they do up Auckland ways.
Hun, the men out there are very disappointing. Especially when you have assets 🙄 all you will get at this stage are hook ups.
emotionally available, sorted and single guys in their 50's
potentially here, but you'll need a friend who is even a member just to get in the door https://northernclub.co.nz/
slightly easier approach might be dance classes (ceroc, swing; just turn up once to see if there's an older crowd there or not right now) or other hobbyist classes
i'm a man in my 30s and idk where the 50+ crowd hang out but me dad plays golf with his friend sometimes, ig golf clubs might also be good places to check out?
potentially religious congregations if you're so inclined
I find that I fit your bill of what you’re after but I’m in my 30s. I often try to match with woman in there 40-60 even because I’m quite attracted to older woman and never have any joy. Can I ask why you don’t seem interested in someone as young as 30? (When I say you I’m referring to most woman your age)
One of my female coworkers joined a bowls club and have had a bit of success with meeting men.
Not sure, haha. I know I'm drowning myself in work to counteract the loneliness.
Look out of Auckland lol you're describing my dad but he lives by the beach 😂
The bros old man would be keen, hard working fella
My single men friends in their early 50s are not on dating sites. They are all looking for love, however, are not proactively pursuing women i.e. aren't assertive, a bit reserved and not so confident. My take is they are looking for the women to take the initiative. I can tell you where they all hang out. Meet-up groups in Auckland. Social, friendship groups but also the ones associated with their hobbies. And I'd give them all character references, really nice decent guy's. Good luck !
As a recently single male in my early fifties I feel this question. Add on to that, I have only been in New Zealand for just short of two years. I was thinking to myself the other day that I think if I were to frequent some place like the beach or coffee shop or the like that may increase the odds of finding a connection. The thought being other people that frequent those places will recognize that you go there on your own and might decide to strike up a conversation. Best I can come up with, good luck with your search I will be pulling for you as a person in a similar situation.
I’m 36 but identify as 51
You could PM me if you like.
Do you fit the bill 😉
Go to Thailand and find a woman there. That's what one of my dads mates did. Very good deal from what he's told me. She's lovely. Attractive, half his age, strong work ethic(keeps the house better than any woman I've known). Obviously not all but from the Thai girls I've dated and his wife, they are quite happy to take a more traditional role in a relationship if the guy looks after them and they are very loyal to their partners.
Wouldn't personally bother with kiwi women at that age.
Not trying to demotivate OP because there's always someone... But statistically speaking the pool is pretty shallow by 35 - 40, people are posting on here struggling to find partners in their 30s and theres also the gender asymmetry, far more young women dating older guys than vice versa. I know a lot of divorced women and very few are remarrying after 40, maybe you'd have better luck in a bigger country
lmao
Get a secretary job at divorce lawyers office.