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Yes. But only for your peace of mind.
The dream is meaningless but the stress it’s causing is real.
It’s not worth it.
This one. Exactly. You’ll feel better if you change the date. And feeling better is, well… better!!
Well said.
I absolutely do not believe your dream means anything, but you should change the date just to reduce your own stress.
If you’re worried about it request a date change! If they ask why come up with an excuse or tell them the honest reason. No reason for you to add more stress to an already stressful time ❤️
If you do Tarot, death is simply significant change. You said it was the 4th and final baby? Perhaps it is your friend confirming that you are done with this phase of life-giving, and now to prepare to grow on a different way?
Ghost and premonitions cannot forsee our choices, which is why you should not believe in fortune tellers and you should never outright believe a ghost, but these things can guide us. If you don't believe in those things, then perhaps your psyche spoke to you, or, this is in fact simply crazy coincidence.
Either way, good vibes for your upcoming addition.
I’m going to be a little bit out there with this comment, but we’re dealing in the realm of dreams so I think it’s appropriate.
Consider that in dreams, death often represents not a literal death but more like a loss of old identity or a significant life change. And you know you’re going to be undergoing a huge transformation on that day! It’s honestly pretty cool that you apparently predicted it. But dreams are almost never literal so I definitely wouldn’t take it that way. Is this your first little one? That would honestly explain it even more as far as I’m concerned!
You can always change the date if you like and feel more comfortable that way, I think the dream’s already told you anything you need to consider. You’ll be okay! But it’s completely understandable that this startled you :)
4th c-section but OP mentions that it will be their last child
Change the date. My mom did this, she had a see section scheduled on anniversary of her grandfather’s (who raised her) death. They just moved the date up 2 days. But I would try to move it up a week if possible since your husband’s birthday is also October 17 so then your child will get his/her own birthday and not get lumped in with dad every year.
I second this!
I would say don’t give power to that dream. Seek therapy to deal with the anxiety it’s causing. If it were true that this was the day you were meant to die, why would rescheduling your C-section change it? You could die for any number of reasons, even if you stayed home.
Dreams are dreams. If you feel uncomfortable then move the date
Try not to overthink it too much, sometimes these things are just random chance, you know? Your family is probably right that it's just a coincidence. I'd say go with the date your doctor recommended, unless there's a really compelling medical reason to change it. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you and the baby stay safe and healthy.
Your dream means you are anxious.
You get to interpret it as you want. One way could be the end of a time. An omen of renewal. It is your last baby. The end of an era.
However if you are failing to rationalise to get a grip. If changing the date would put you at ease. Then it’s quite an easy fix. That something you have control over.
If you keep putting this in your head you will attract it.
you are manifesting
stop mentioning it, start seeing yourself with your baby growing up happy, until you believe it.
This is nonsense magical thinking. She is not going to manifest her own death by worrying about it. What hubris. We don't have that much control over fate. It's scary but true that we are powerless over a lot of things.
She's manifesting her own anxiety by spiraling on bullshit.
She needs to change the date and get some serious therapy.
Honestly, just reschedule the surgery.
It doesn't matter if dreams are real. Going into a procedure with a bad outlook is proven to affect outcomes
When you dream of death it doesn't mean death. It means change. I know that sounds weird. But that is what dream meaning tells us. At least that is what I was taught according to my Appalachian Grandma who believed dreams had mountain magic meanings. Death is not death. It is change.
I would say having a child is a very big change.
Is there any way you or your family can put down a small stakes longshot wager on your death? I figure you guys might as well hedge..
Kidding. Coincidences like these are wild sometimes, but they don't actually change the outcome of anything. Don't worry yourself... To death! Over it lol.
Death in dreams is often symbolic. A metaphor for change. Having a baby is definitely a big change.
I’d ask for a date change! I mean I’m not one to always believe dreams.. but when I was pregnant with both of my kids, I dreamt their genders and was right. Idk I’m just weird and I over think things so I’d ask for a new day lol
So…I have this “gift” of dreaming about things before they happen or, dreaming about things that are currently happening that someone is trying to keep hidden from me. Sounds wild, I try not to give it attention because it actually makes me very uncomfortable.
Anyways, I used to have dreams as a child about my own death too. I truly didn’t believe I would make it through my 30s because I was convinced I would die young from a car accident—because that’s what my dreams kept showing me. I’ve been involved in 2 car accidents (both in my early 30s)…rattled me hard but thankfully I was never severely harmed.
I have dreamt of other people’s passings and I believe, even the reincarnation of my grandfather but, I didn’t accurately dream of my own death. I can’t say for certain what that means but I will say, I never let the “haunting” of my own demise stop me from getting in cars or driving. You should change your delivery date, not because your dreams are a warning to you, but because you deserve to have a blissful pregnancy and peaceful delivery.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
I was convinced I was going to die with my last c-section. I knew it was silly, I knew my doctors were amazing, but I couldn't shake it. Came through with flying colors.
A friend of mine had a dream multiple times while he was young that he would die in a fire when he reached a certain age. Same age every time, same death. He's still going strong and remains unfried.
Death in dreams doesn’t always outright mean death, it can mean a big change is coming, someone is getting cut off, or new beginnings :))) for peace of mind though I suggest you change the date. Best of luck!!<333
Why's that? Let's talk, maybe I can help ease concerns.
I would just change the date for your peace of mind. It probably doesn’t mean anything really.
Personally, I would also freak out because I actually had a nightmare about my baby’s foot just falling out of my belly and panicking, trying to shove it back in. The hole the foot was hanging out of was like a c-section incision.
And ding ding! You guessed it. I had an unplanned c-section when all I wanted was a very natural birth. I feel like it was a premonition that I missed.
I bet your dream is just about the “death” of a particular chapter in your life. Because my nightmare made it seem like my baby was dead but my baby was and is fine and healthy. He’s a big ol’ chunk of a baby. Only part of my dream was right and that was the incision, not the most obvious part of the dream because I didn’t recognize it until after the fact.
Lol I'm being I diced that day and never been induced we can be sacred together
I’d move the date. You control this.
I have had a scheduled c section, it went very smoothly. That being said I am sure your dr could move the date by a day or two. They want you to be as calm and as comfortable as possible. Please say something, you have the time. We don’t need to see if your dream was a premonition or not.
Your husbands birthday ! That’s all it means. Lol
You’re going to be fine, but I would change it for your own peace of mind.
If it’s going to cause you a molecule of stress, reschedule. Your peace of mind entering child birth is ALL that matters.
Change the date because while the dream is meaningless, the stress it’s causing you is very real. Your health and safety is important and the stress caused by the date makes it worth changing the date to limit the stress. That being said, you should talk to a therapist about the stress caused by this date.
Why I think you're going to be perfectly safe it's obviously really bothering you so just change the date. There's no reason to go into this feeling so scared just change the date you'll be happy you did.
Childbirth is scary & risky regardless….im sure everything will be fine just take it easy
I pray for your safe delivery! Trust in the lord that everything will be fine! May God bless you and baby! You will be just fine and baby will come out healthy🙏🏼
Why don't you change the date ?
To me, dreams mean things. Sometimes, they don't mean exactly what they are, though. Maybe it's your subconscious telling you the old you is gone since this is your last kiddo. It's the end of this chapter. Maybe like a rebirth kind of thing. Be positive and happy thoughts. Power of positive thinking.
Yes, if you can, do it. Just for peace of mind tho, not because anything will happen
I would have them change the date.
Yes, to ease the anxiety and stress this is causing you.
Ask your doctor to change the date. I can't see it being a problem.
It's understandable to feel scared given the coincidence, but try to trust your medical team's expertise. Changing the date might ease your anxiety, but consider discussing your concerns with your doctor first. They can provide guidance to your situation. Take care.
Talk to your Doctor about changing the date. If you can afford it, see a good and ethical therapist, you have a lot of date coincidences in your life, so maybe a professional can help you sort that out.
The way I would demand to reschedule that by a day or two in either direction 😂
When I turned 12 I started having nightmares that I was in a car wreck and died before my 18th birthday. Body thrown into the passenger seat, white Camaro. There was a passenger, but I never could tell who it was! I was terrified, and my entire family knew- I said allllll the timeeee that I was gonna die before I turned 18. SIX DAMN DAYS before my 18th birthday I fell asleep on my way home from dropping my boyfriend off at home, wrapped my car around a tree! I wasn’t wearing my seatbelt, the car flipped before hitting a telephone pole then being thrown into a tree. Where was I? Top half of my body, passenger floorboard! Bottom half driver seat. So I was kinda diagonal. I had to be cut out of the car. Broken back, both knees blown out, internal bleeding and a lengthy stay in icu/hospital, and an extremely long recovery. No passenger with me, I had already dropped off my boyfriend. But I always kept a picture of my best friend who had committed suicide when I was 14 on my dash, and that picture of him- JUST HIS FACE was perfectly scratched out, rest of the picture untouched. I swore for years he was my guardian angel that night, right there in the passenger seat. It wasn’t a white Camaro, like in my dreams BUT my first vehicle was in fact a white Camaro (that’s easy to explain though- Camaro was and always has been my favorite car and my grandparents bought me whatever I wanted for my first vehicle as they had done with my mom and uncle), but I got it taken away before I ever graduated from learners permit to drivers license because I couldn’t mind the rules… when I got my license my grandmother bought me an almost new Chevy cavalier from a bank in town that had reposed it after the previous owners didn’t make the payment. So, different car and no passenger but the rest was eerily similar to the reoccurring nightmares I’d had for 6 years!
This is gonna make me sound like I need to be in a padded room… but sometimes I wonder if I did die that night and this is just the fucked up afterlife.
.... Y'all are out here having kids?
Death in a dream rarely means actual death it signifies rebirth and new beginnings.
It may not mean your literal death. Perhaps it represents the death of your old life and the old you, therefore representing the birth of your baby AND your new life as a mother. Dreams are confusing, and are never as upfront and straightforward as people thinks
Yes. Because this is stressing you out and it's not healthy for you or the baby. Thursday isn't worth the stress.
Have you told any close friends or your husband about this post? If not, you should tell them to update after the surgery if you're not able to do it yourself. I get freaked out by my dreams when they're like that, that stick with you for years and just give you a bad feeling. I'm not particularly superstitious or believe in the paranormal, but I also am not a fan of tempting fate. If it were me, I'd change the date so I don't worry as much.
OP, your dream could me that on Oct 17th, the old you would die and a new you would be reborn with the birth of your child.
I don't really discount dreams or night terrors. Not because I think there's some force out to hurt people. But rather because it's a manifestation of your deepest mental processes/your psyche. Even if there are forces out there, they still need our 'permission' to do anything. Nothing can or will hurt you - it's not that personal. Life happens to all.
Do you have some difficult things in your past you can't get let go of? Maybe you're generally afraid and you merely need to question why or what - like what is the lesson you need to get from this? Even if you are spiritual, the way it works is that you 'learn your lesson' or fulfill your obligation by just accepting the message. Often, it's just a powerful personal revelation that is very, very positive. Death and thoughts of death are not always bad things in 'that' field. They're often used to contemplate the present more deeply and come to terms with things you're refusing to in daily life.
Ennyway, you're okay OP. Everything will be fine. All dreams, thoughts, nightmares, visions, etc are processes of the mind nevertheless. They do not exist in reality - what you do with them, however, can be very real.
Chill out and update us when you birth your bebe and recover. Love!
(Sorry this is going to be long) So my ex (my 1st son’s dad) called me one day during my 2nd trimester crying his eyes out because he had an awful nightmare about me dying during labor with my current pregnancy. It stuck with me for the rest of my pregnancy to where I would then have nightmares about something going wrong and dying… I told my fiancé I was terrified because the nightmares kept happening and even my ex had a talk with my fiance if something were to happen to please pick me (I told my fiancé the same thing) I was so stressed about labor that I went into labor 2 weeks early due to a hypertension crisis I was immediately admitted into the hospital and put on a bunch of meds.. my anxiety was through the roof! Because my blood pressure was so high they were worried about me having a seizure and many other things were wrong (mind you I’ve never had any health issues whatsoever) I’m luckily home and healthy with my newborn but I feel like the stress of something going horribly wrong during labor caused me to have such an awful labor… it’s like I “manifested” it. The hypertension has not gone away I now have to see a cardiologist and was in the hospital for an extra week because they couldn’t control my blood pressure but I did learn a big lesson… Although labor can be scary I will never terrify myself over dreams and just let a dream be a dream. The stress during pregnancy is not worth it!!
Request for a change of date explain the reason no matter how silly it sounds because its clearly affecting your mental health
I feel like the dream signifies the end of your childbearing years. I see you said this is the last baby; I’m not sure if you’re getting some form of permanent birth control, but as someone who reads tarot, I’d say that’s probably what it stood for.
But if you’re worried, talk to the doctors to switch it to even the day before. I know they usually give a few dates to pick from. Best of luck, OP.
Death in dreams is never literal death it is a transformation BUT change the date for peace of mind. Good luck!
Holy shit I got the chills! Change that shit kid!!
This is clearly stressing you, by default baby, out. Talk to your doctor, and see what can be done.
Ask to change the date, cause while it may only be a dream, the stress it's causing you is real.
I would move it just to avoid having New Baby share Dad's birthday. I mean, that kid will always be lumped together with Dad and never get their own birthday that's 100% just about them.
Dreams aren’t real. Your late friend isn’t talking to you. They are dead and can’t talk to you. Your brain picked October 17 because that is your husband’s birthday.
I would change the date so that your child will have their own birthday. That being said, I do have dreams of things that come true, so did my mom and my daughter does too.
I dreamt about both of my children’s gender. I had dreams for a week in which a guy I was in love with kept telling me goodbye. At the time, I thought it meant that he was moving, but he was actually dying. I’ve dreamed that the price of ginger ale was going to really increase, which it did. I’ve even had dreams about things happening to celebrities only to have it come true. Those are just some examples, but like many have said, your dream of dying could have many different interpretations.
Wishing you the best!
I understand this. The number 1021 follows me around, and I used to joke that it was my death date. However, I did lose a cat on the 21st of October, which was pretty freaky.
Regardless of the above anecdote, I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine, and I hope your baby is happy and healthy.
change the date. who cares what anyone else thinks? It makes you uncomfortable.
You need to talk to your Dr NOW! This could be the start of postpartum issues such as depression, anxiety, psychosis. Please please please talk to your Dr immediately
Change the date. It's a c section and totally reasonable to schedule it for a different day, unless there is some emergency and that baby must come out on 10/17
Yes. Your doctor will not want you stressed out.
I would change the date of surgery. Seriously. I don’t play with omens
I would change the date of surgery. Seriously. I don’t play with omens
Death isnt just physical.
There may be a part of you that dies? There may be something negative that dies? Death to old way of living as you will now have a new life?
You have to really go deeper to find meaning with dreams / connect almost the dots.
Love light protection sent my dear 😘 you will be ok
I’m confused. If you dreamed about this 9 years ago, wouldn’t Oct 17 on a Thursday already occur at one point?
It would be pretty funny if you died and left a bunch of kids motherless because your need to pop another baby was more important than the ones you already have well-being’s
They’re scheduling it 3 months out on your partner’s birthday. Just change it. Make it later though…complications from surgery could take you out if you have it earlier.
You didn’t get to pick your C-section date? I’ve had three, one emergency but after that I was able to choose the date. They should let you go a day before or after. I had a weak range for all of mine…..
It’s just a dream 😴. Only god knows when you’re gonna go. Have you tried VBAC?
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