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Yes but I hate looking forward to it ! I spend most of the week looking forward to it !
Same and I just started and already fear the end :(
Yes, and it makes me uncomfortable that I look forward to it because what happens if we can’t meet anymore? And I mention this in therapy but I’m not sure if this is good or bad.
I totally know how you feel :( x
Yes, I looked forward to it as it was my only hope to be happy.
So every session and every assignment felt like a step closer to happiness.
I did not enjoy the sessions themselves though. They were painful, uncomfortable and exhausting.
It's quite similar to working out actually.
I agree with the working out analogy. I say "it's like having a personal trainer for your mind."
Yep, there are a LOT of similarities. I often use the analogy to explain that therapy is work.
Also sore muscles and therapy hangover
I very much look forward to it, but I hate going 😂 this answer is probably why I belong in therapy lol
I do look forward to it. Where I am in my life means that my T is the only person I actually have verbal conversations with about anything across the week. There's no friends or anything like that.
In some respects that's not too bad because at least I have her. I tend to spend all week thinking about what to say and how to say it.
I look forward to it but to an obsessive degree. I really, really like my therapist and I want her to be nurturing towards me and not to hate me. It’s funny because I recognize it’s abnormal but would never tell her. I plan my outfit, I shower beforehand, dry my hair, a tiny bit of makeup, make sure my clothes are clean, lint rolled….I eat a mint before, brush my teeth, etc. There is no instance I would show up, no matter what, without doing those things. I never cancel or reschedule, and I always show up on time.
I don’t want her to perceive me as unattractive because I already think I’m so terrible in every other way. So I try to show up as “perfect” as possible so she’ll hold me in higher regard. I feel like if I’m ugly, annoying or stupid she’d withhold kindness from me
Haha, I do all those things too! I’ve just gotten to where I’m not always planning my outfit and I’m not always wearing makeup, but both are still ~80% of the time. I really do look forward to it, but I’m trying to chill out a bit.
Same. It's literally the only time each week that I put any effort into appearance.
Same same same
Some weeks I do and others I feel like canceling but it’s just something on my schedule so I still go. I feel like it can be a bit tiring talking about feelings all the time. After 3(?) years of therapy I also feel more regulated and in less need of needing to talk about what’s bothering me. There probably still is some stuff to work through but idk, sometimes I just feel like reflecting and then moving on with life and not keeping stuck in the same thoughts. Some emotional turmoil might happen on Monday and my session is only on Friday, until then, i kinda already moved on and don’t always feel like digging that hole again
I can’t stand it. I always get so stressed out and I shake the first 5 minutes. Every. Single. Time. I’ve been doing this for 4 years and it’s still the same. I always feel better after though so I keep at it.
Sometimes yes sometimes absolutely not. Depends on how much capacity I have for facing my own shit on any given week.
Sometimes I look forward to it. Sometimes I dread it. Depends on how I’m feeling and what I’m expecting from the session.
Yes and no. I end up being frustrated a lot but it’s the only time I talk about my problems. So in between sessions I virtually obsess over needing another appointment/seeing my therapist
Hate every second
Yeah but ERP is helpful but uncomfortable
Not really.
Yes, I would say I look forward to it. I'm kind of a hermit and that's one of the few things I go out of the house for and look forward to.
Yes. Sometimes I don’t feel like physically going so I just do virtual
I used to, up until the last month or so. Though I’ve finally reached a point where i’m capable of regulating my emotions and having a normal day (most days), we’ve delved into stuff a little more related to trauma work and I’m not enjoying it.
My T is leaving her clinic at the end of the month, so I’m going to take a hiatus for a while. Shit is tough.
There are sessions where I know we’re going to be talking about or reviewing something from the last session & it makes a bit anxious. I look forward to the ones I’m really wanting to talk about something though, and she’ll dissect me from there. I prefer that.
It's a mixed bag, but overall, I feel better after therapy or feel like it's at least good for me, even when I sometimes feel worse after a session.
Yes I do! It’s the only safe space I really have to truly open up about my issues and behaviors. I do have great friends, but even they don’t and can’t know everything. It is challenging, especially considering an hour a week doesn’t feel like enough time, but I do my best to take what I learn in session and apply it to my personal growth each week.
A lot of the time I dread it. Sometimes I feel like I am barely hanging on for it. Sometimes I am just ambivalent about it.
I look forward to it even though I do my appointments after working a 6am to 2pm shift and having to be up at 4:45am to get ready for work. My therapist and I have grown a great connection.
Yeah it is fun to make my talk on dreams a healing rebalancing tool for the pre-talk memories...By wordplays it is fun.
yes, absolutely!
oh 101% yes
worth time for me
of course, I can say it was worth it
I love it. I've had some extremely rough sessions, but overall I really like it. At my worst, I looked forward to therapy all week. At my best, I get to spend my sessions every other week reflecting on my growth and focusing on current or near-future issues instead of putting out fires. Either way, I've always enjoyed it, even if some sessions sucked. I've been doing it for years and have no plans to stop any time soon. I'm even going to school to become a therapist myself. If that doesn't show how much I love it, I don't know what will.
I do and I don’t at the same time. I enjoy having an hour specifically to myself as time for myself is kind of a scarce resource in my life. I also find comfort in knowing that I’m probably not gonna spiral out of control again, and if it does happen, I have a professional to fall back on. Then again, I hate the process of therapy itself. I hate challenging my thoughts, remembering my trauma, looking at what’s bad about myself, planning for the future… those parts suck. I also get anxious about therapy because I’ve had so many awful experiences in the past with therapy.
Yes, mostly. I look forward to going when I'm not having a hard time, but if I had a rough week then I'm anxious going in. And then of course I start almost every session anxious for the first 2-5 minutes. After that I'm fine.
I absolutely love my therapist. I look forward to our exploration together. I am so glad I didn't give up on finding a therapist.
Hate it and I watch the clock when I’m there.
I've learned to love it. It is rarely comfortable, but that's the point.
not really, ik it's to better me but i find it exhausting
Not really, I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere with my therapist.
I don't enjoy going to therapy. There hasn't been many sessions so to speak. My first session was majorly me opening about things that troubled me. So I did speak about a little bit about my childhood and something about how no one understands my pain/trauma(s) because no one can- meaning you yourself know what and how intensely you're going through something, and someone else entirely can't just put themselves in your shoes and live through it exactly.
There was this validation or sort of approval or some form of acceptance that I was seeking from this therapist. Since it was also a psychoanalytic approach - we were majorly focusing on what was in my mind; so when the therapist went silent after my statement, "everyone cannot understand everyone." Ofc the context is necessary here- but this was the crux of my venting.
I kid you not this analyst went on to stay silent after my statement for 17 fucking minutes. Like??! Our session was literally 50 mins long and I am comfortable with silences but in the first session? Especially when I'm hoping to seek some sort of validation right after saying no one understands me. This made me really uncomfortable and opt out of the whole idea of therapy atm.
I do realize why the therapist sort of did that- like possibly because he didn't want to challenge my own set of beliefs, especially in the first go- thinking that I may wanna continue therapy etc. But I found this really out of hand and like that's the whole reason one goes to therapy, for being heard and validated in ways that the outside world can't. I didn't feel it was a safe space - and I know I judged too much from just my first session - maybe also because I had too many expectations from the therapists...
I would say I look forward to going around 95% of the time. Even when I know we are working through some tough stuff. I do enjoy having deeper conversations, and therapy is a great place to dig into them. I feel like I am understanding myself more. My therapist is great at helping me unpack everything. They have a great personality, they are good with humor and cussing, and they will also hold strong boundaries. They don’t let me get away with much, but they call me out in a supportive way.
That being said, I’m currently in a 5% stage right now. We had a bit of a rupture. The unknown scares me, but what I do know is that every time we have had a rupture before, we’ve worked through that and things have been fine. I’m not dreading seeing them, but I’m also not as gung-ho about it as I normally am.
It’s something on my schedule that’s all
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