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Can someone reassure me that everything is going to be okay?
Yes! Freeze!!
You have lots of time, many women have children after 35 or even after 40.
First, give yourself time to heal from your break-up. Don't put pressure on yourself about your bucket list. Until your heart heals, you are in no position to be making major life decisions. If you feel stuck after 6-12 months, see a therapist. Honestly, you have no reason to panic. Life takes twists and turns we never expect. Be kind to yourself, the same way you would to a friend in a similar situation.
Stop trying... be yourself... take care of you. The rest will happen
It might happen, it might not. I'm 38 and was in your position at 34... I'm a male but have the same feelings. Hasn't happened... I keep trying to find the right person "most of" the time
2 things. 1: my wife got pregnant with our son at 39 (had him at 40). Now he is 7 and 100% happy and healthy.
2: in regards to finding someone new etc. Think about this. I measure young vs creeping over the hill-old by this metric. If you can reasonable double your age, in your case live to 62, then you are still young. You have every second of the life youâve already lived ahead of youâŚstill. The bonus is you get to start that now and not have to do the diapers, learning how to walk, K-12, etc. Life is the longest thing youâll ever have to do and youâre not even close to completing half of it. :)
I donât know you, but youâll probably be just fine.
Iâd prefer a bad breakup over a bad divorce any day.
Itâs difficult to imagine how much worse some things can be until you go through it and time passes.
Live and learn from the breakup and try not to make the same mistakes down the road.
And absolutely donât rush into anything because of that feeling of time is ticking, thatâs when your decisions are foggy.
If a family is the goal. Then that drives your decisions. There's nothing wrong with wanting a family in marriage. I support that decision. It seems like more families today start before marriage and ends with more single women with kids.
Never settle you will find the person right for you! B
stop worrying. enjoy the season you are in. make the most out of it. travel. go out. love yourself and whatever what's meant for you will happen.Â
There's plenty of time to find someone else and there are 7 1/2 billion people in the world now. Plenty of other people out there that you can find love with again.
It doesn't feel that way now, but in a while you'll realize that there are a LOT more people out there that you're compatible with.
The people telling you that there is âplenty of timeâ to have biological kids are sugarcoating the harsh reality that womenâs fertility start to rapidly decline around the 35 years old, it also becomes increasingly dangerous the older you get. My best advice for you that I believe would be the most practical would be to have realistic expectations for the man you are looking to have kids with. There are plenty of men willing to date and start a family with a 31 year old women, but at that age you might have to make some compromises since top tier males (high earners, good looking, etc) are usually going for younger women (for looks, usually less bodies, etc). There is exceptions to the rule but obviously Iâm speaking in general. I would also suggest stating your intentions of starting a family early on the interaction with potential partners, it will scare away the people looking for a casual fling. Good luck.
But it might not be.
You've been brainwashed. Who told you you NEED all that? Someone else I'm presuming.
i've read way too much about the approaching and ongoing effects of human-induced climate change, plastic pollution/forever chemicals, topsoil degradation, ocean acidification, etc. to offer you any such reassurance. you'll be bringing your child into a dying world.
good luck with that.
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You don't need any of that to have kids if kids are your goal.
There are many routes.
Putting that kind of pressure on yourself (find a guy, get married, yada) can lead to choices you'll regret.
Relax. Be grateful you know now rather than years from now that he wasn't it. Go look into freezing your eggs or using a sperm donor and freezing some embryos (embryos survive better). That may help you stop feeling pressure.