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Please do not think that "you're not like other girls".
Thinking that you'll be fine, that you're not the type to live life from a place of fear, being open hearted to see what the universe has in mind for you...etc. You are not alone in that. So many girls and women believe/believed this.
The reality of the world though, is that girls and women are preyed on and are victims of strangers and even people we know. Most of these predators are male.
Hopefully the new people are not human or sex-traffickers. OP this is no joke. Please read up on how these things happen, even to "smart" women with travel and "life experience".
There were two models who were offered a modeling job in a different country. It all seemed very legitimate, the women were also professional models...so it wasn't like a creep going to a girl who doesn't know how the industry works and being like "I can make you famous".
These women traveled as a pair. That should be safter right? Anyways, the women arrived to the country, the modeling job had let them know that a driver would be picking them up to take them to their hotel. This is standard for certain VIPs. The drivers are the ones who are at airports with signs indicating the travelers they will be giving a ride to.
The driver that picked up the women did not take them to their "hotel" that was a lie, there was no job either. The driver and everyone involved were part of a sex-trafficking organization.
Look into the dangers of letting others, especially strangers and even hotel staff that you are traveling solo. A girl or woman traveling solo is a much easier target, than someone who has a person that will be waiting for them/would quickly figure out if something is wrong and actually call the authorities.
For example, you casually mention to the hotel lobby worker that you are traveling alone and would love some tips. Another hotel worker gears that, knows you will be alone in your room, and due to likely being able to access keys, they skean into your room and assault you. Something similar actually happened to someone who posted on this sub.
For saftey always ask for two room keys at hotels to give the illusion that you may not be alone. Get door stoppers that you can place inside your hotel room, to prevent from being opened from the outside (even by for ex. a maintenence worker with a key)
At the very least makeup a 'sister' or something that you are traveling with or meeting up with, inorder to at least try to make yourself a more difficult woman to prey on.
Above all, invest in your self + saftey by reading 'The Gift of Fear' it's written by a former FBI profiler and has some amazing insights on tips on how to better trust our instincts, how to sort out weirdos from the actual predators, and practical tips on how to manage certain potentially dangerous situations/people.
Please do not think that "you're not like other girls".
Thinking that you'll be fine, that you're not the type to live life from a place of fear, being open hearted to see what the universe has in mind for you...etc. You are not alone in that. So many girls and women believe/believed this.
The reality of the world though, is that girls and women are preyed on and are victims of strangers and even people we know. Most of these predators are male.
Hopefully the new people are not human or sex-traffickers. OP this is no joke. Please read up on how these things happen, even to "smart" women with travel and "life experience".
There were two models who were offered a modeling job in a different country. It all seemed very legitimate, the women were also professional models...so it wasn't like a creep going to a girl who doesn't know how the industry works and being like "I can make you famous".
These women traveled as a pair. That should be safter right? Anyways, the women arrived to the country, the modeling job had let them know that a driver would be picking them up to take them to their hotel. This is standard for certain VIPs. The drivers are the ones who are at airports with signs indicating the travelers they will be giving a ride to.
The driver that picked up the women did not take them to their "hotel" that was a lie, there was no job either. The driver and everyone involved were part of a sex-trafficking organization.
Look into the dangers of letting others, especially strangers and even hotel staff that you are traveling solo. A girl or woman traveling solo is a much easier target, than someone who has a person that will be waiting for them/would quickly figure out if something is wrong and actually call the authorities.
For example, you casually mention to the hotel lobby worker that you are traveling alone and would love some tips. Another hotel worker gears that, knows you will be alone in your room, and due to likely being able to access keys, they skean into your room and assault you. Something similar actually happened to someone who posted on this sub.
For saftey always ask for two room keys at hotels to give the illusion that you may not be alone. Get door stoppers that you can place inside your hotel room, to prevent from being opened from the outside (even by for ex. a maintenence worker with a key)
At the very least makeup a 'sister' or something that you are traveling with or meeting up with, inorder to at least try to make yourself a more difficult woman to prey on.
Above all, invest in your self + saftey by reading 'The Gift of Fear' it's written by a former FBI profiler and has some amazing insights on tips on how to better trust our instincts, how to sort out weirdos from the actual predators, and practical tips on how to manage certain potentially dangerous situations/people.
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Okay, Wishing you the best. I hope that you have a good experience, and aren't faced with the realities of the world that other girls and women have had to live with for the past thousands of years.
So many girls and women, like you and myself, also have/had the intention to enjoy their life. Your desire for adventure , and your belief that there are many wonderful, kind, friendly etc. is not unique to you.
However, keep in mind to not be alone with a man, especially in an enclosed or private space. It's for your safety. I hope that your experiences are unlike those of other girls and women. It's not that something will happen, but their are reasons that girls and women have had to endure certain things for thousands of years. It's not due to us, it's due to predators. The fact is 99.99% of Sexual Assaults are committed by men.
And you're sharing you're opening yourself up to a random man. Texting etc. is not enough to know if you'll be safe. I'm fact you're giving them extra information to prepare, if they have bad intentions.
I really hope that you are able to live with a "it's not that deep" approach.
So many girls and women have so considered their saftey and taken all the Precautions they know of, and they seek to learn more. You're have a "not like other girls" mentality. I hope that you do not face the things that many girls and women have had to face.
Listen, OP has already made it clear she is not interested in your berating. How about you just respect that and cut the condescending bs?
We get it, something is deeply wrong with you, you've been hurt, but don't let that out on strangers.
I don't know if you consider yourself as unkind, mean spirited, and cruel.
Saying "We get it, something is deeply wrong with you, you've been hurt, but don't let that out on strangers". Is such a cruel and insensitive thing to say.
I can tell you are not female, your perspective is to be expected.
u/duwumplings this person is on some sick, personal vendetta against men, in another comment suggesting you shouldn't have male hotel staff bring food to your room. They might rape you over the dinner cart.
I hope you find what you're looking for and paranoid creeps like her aren't discouraging you from having great times.
The Mandarin in Tokyo holds a special place in my heart as I stayed there on my first trip to Japan when they had just opened many years ago. That said, it’s quite dated now and you can do better. The Aman isn’t much more expensive but genuinely one of my favorite city hotels in the entire world.
Japan is a safe place to travel alone, although I am a man and cannot speak on the experience for women. There is undeniably an unhealthy culture towards women but if you compare Japan to most other countries on earth, it’s still safe for women.
I’ll be going later this year to coincide with the Noma Kyoto opening and I will be staying in Tokyo and Kyoto at the Aman hotels in both cities. I go to Japan quite frequently and have been many times, so I can tell you that you’ll enjoy yourself especially if you enjoy luxury travel. If our schedules line up, maybe I’ll see you there.
I agree mandarin oriental is dated but aman isn’t just a little more it’s at least 2-3x more if we are comparing the entry level room which I feel puts aman in another category. I recommend FS otemachi which is in the same price range as mandarin oriental but much newer and a great hotel.
FS Otemachi looks gorgeous and I love the bar there. Great call.
Last time I was in Tokyo, in Nov 2023, Aman was $1700 for a night while Mandarin was $1200 but maybe that was just a unique time. Aman keeps jacking up their prices but I feel like most hotels are doing so as well.
It could have been when I was looking too but I agree if those prices definitely worth the upgrade to Aman.
Why risk getting stuck with a weirdo? Go enjoy the amazing sites alone!