Would you date / marry someone with opposing political views?

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No.

If someone think I shouldn't be allowed to have healthcare, shouldn't be allowed to get married, hates democracy, or is generally just super racist, I don't want to be within half a mile of them.

Some things I'd be willing to compromise on, but a lot of things I wouldn't be.

Edit: The number of people who think I'm talking about socialized healthcare here, and are saying "No-one wants to stop you getting married" is very interesting. Because I'm not talking about whether healthcare should be socialised or not. My country did that in the 40s. I'm talking about trans healthcare, and I'm talking about gay marriage, two issues that effect me VERY personally, and two things that a lot of people do want to take away.

I think what's happened is that people read this, and assume I'm roughly equivalent to them. If they're, say a cishet white American, they assume I'm a cishet white American, and interpret what I said through the lens of a cishet white American. But I'm not, I'm a gay, trans white Brit. And I think it's important to remember that not everyone on the internet is the same as you, or is affected by the same issues as you.

Basically, what I'm saying is, check your biases.

Depends on the political view; I wouldn’t date someone who is racist/homophobic/sexist but I could agree to disagree on stuff like guns or economic beliefs as long as they believe in equality.

Fuck no. If she has opposing political views we probably have two totally different views on life and society. And I would never want to be with someone who lacks empathy

Notice how the men will say yes and the women will say no.

Super liberal here. I tried dating a republican once. He constantly belittled me and pretty much called me stupid and immature for my beliefs. While at the same time refusing to debate me on them because the one time he did try to debate me I proved him wrong and he said that was "unproductive for our relationship". He was a full Q-anon stan and hard-core Trumper. I thought he was stupid and he thought I was stupid. It didn't work out and I'd never do it again. Now I'm married to the love of my life and he's as much of a "bleeding heart liberal" as I am. I'd never recommend dating someone whos views are the direct opposite of yours.

It depends.

If we have disagreements over minor stuff like fiscal policy or foreign relations, I don’t really care. But if it’s an issue that’s tied to morality, such as civil rights or whatnot, it’s a hard no.

As long as their viewpoints aren't extremely far to the left or right I'll consider it.

no hahaha my politics are shaped by how i view the world, my place within it, and my duty to others and my community. anyone with opposing political views would either have opposing conclusions on my values or not have thought hard enough about their values and politics to understand how they interlock.

Yeah. As long as we can agree to disagree and not constantly get in fights over it. So long as we can find common ground on the issues that actually matter in a person-to-person scenario. Like...I don't care what you think about the border. What I do care about is whether or not we can get on the same page about a parenting strategy (if it gets that far).

Depends on the opposite views we hold

Does he think abortion should be illegal? No

Does he think minority rights (i.e, same-sex marriage) should be up for debate? No

Does he think poor people shouldn't have access to healthcare? No

Anything regarding human righs, it's not up for debate imo

No. Im trans, mexicsn and disabled. I don’t wanna spend the rest of my life with someone who thinks I’m a predator or a cartel/illegal, nor someone who acts like I’m being over dramatic or lazy for wanting to get on disability and not work

It depends but probably not. I couldn’t see myself dating a woman with conservative expectations of gender roles and dating, mostly because the way I see it is that successful romantic relationships are based on equality.

As long as it’s nothing extremist, I think I can set aside the political views my future wife has that I may not agree with and not let it bother me.

I'm willing to compromise on stuff like who does the best job in a local race, or differing economic policies. I often vote for a slightly different ticket from my partner.

I'm not willing to compromise on civil rights and most social issues.

If they were deeply conservative it would cause me to doubt either their intelligence or their character, and either would be a deal breaker for me

Yes. Your political views say a lot about your values. This has a lot of implications for how I'll be treated. Especially down the line as people, especially more conservative people, become more entrenched in their political beliefs as they age. I've heard enough warnings of spouses, particularly husbands, turning into MAGA lunatics after years of Rush Limbaugh and Fox. I'm not gonna waste my time on a man who's not concerned about equity.

It’s a free country, people are entitled to their views and beliefs. The dealbreaker would normally come down to individual traits like maliciousness, narrow-mindedness and/or attempt to control my opinions/views. And yes, this type of behavior is not exclusive to one party.

No. I wont date a woman thats engorged with Maga crap. In fact, I find it halarious watching women support them.

Zero chance

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Not Gen Z but a major factor of why they wouldn't (as shown by the top comments) is that political extremism is on the rise. If you can't view the other side as people, you are already being radicalized.

Despite having the internet, many people cannot explain the opposing view accurately in their own words. Instead, they choose to isolate themselves in their echo chambers.

It doesn't help that there has been a movement to kill the middle/center, which only pushes people to each extremes. Politics are complex and to view everything on a line is counterproductive.

Sure. Most of my friends have opposing political views anyways

There’s a difference between politics and values. My husband I have very similar values but that doesn’t always translate into identical political views.

However, the American political system is a circus wherein the needs of the people do not actually factor.

Most likely not

I would never date a communist, socialist, or liberal. I would date a Conservative or libertarian.

Nope - I don’t want my future child that might be queer to only be supported by one parent while the other parent hates them for those qualities.

I’d never date a communist or socialist, but other than that idrc as long as they’re good hearted

Lmfao this went from +8 to +4. Keep the commie tears crying.

Depends on how different, how extreme.

For example, if she had the opinion ‘I think that (insert group here) is over-represented in media’, sure, I might marry that person regardless of that opinion. If they had the opinion ‘I believe that all people of (group) ought to be thrown in prison’ I would not. Or if she was one of them violent conspiracy types.

My political views are that both sides are evil and corporations/elite run the world. I’ve tried being in relationships where my significant others are left or right but can’t see above the politics that are counterproductive to our country’s growth and life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. The political “issues” are merely a distraction from the bigger picture of continuous control over the American population by our wallets and programming. Being with someone who doesn’t see the world the same as me is such a lonely feeling.

It really depends on what the beliefs are? Anyone who’s homophobic, transphobic, racist, or otherwise bigoted isn’t going to work for me. I won’t even have friends like that. I also wouldn’t date anyone who thought climate change was a hoax or thinks the healthcare system is “fine.” If you think unregulated capitalism is a good idea, we might have issues. Among other things.

If we disagree on how best to address climate change or whatever, that’s probably fine. But I would like to share some basic values with people I date. A lot of my political beliefs are directly based on those basic values. I don’t have to agree with them on everything, but we’ve gotta be somewhat on the same page, especially long term.

depends on what you mean by politics? I don’t want to date my ideological clone — there are tons of political views that oppose my own that are still rational, humane, and respectable. the problem arises when the “political views” involve stripping certain people of their freedoms or supporting institutions that do so

My wife and I have polar opposite political views, we’ve been together for 9 years and married for 4, we make it work and anyone eles can too

So many people choose to make an enemy out of the other side which I think is one of the biggest issues in this country, we should not view the other side of the political spectrum as evil, I don’t

I think everyone needs to take a step back and stop thinking that people’s beliefs are evil because they differ from our own, for most people, their views come from a good place and people differ based on world view, priorities, morals, and values

It's hard because I've never met anyone with completely opposite political views. I'm a libertarian. I lean right in some issues and left in other issues. I don't even want to imagine what a person with opposite views of me would be like.

They would have to be economically liberal (supports socialism, does not believe in private property, supports open borders, redistribution of wealth, the deconstruction of the money system, socialized healthcare) and socially conservative (anti-abortion, anti-LBGT, anti-union, supports Affirmative Action). What do you even call that kind of person...?

... I don't think I'd be able to be with that person on account that they'd be an anomaly that I'd be paradoxically fascinated and disgusted with.

I did! It’s worked out very well. Why? Because we’re both educated adults who know how to have a conversation and communicate values to each other. Turns out, empathetic people can have a wide variety of political opinions on a vast array of subjects without having conflicting morals. It would be impossible to understand why someone thinks the way they do if you’ve never engaged with someone who thinks differently than you, and reading through the comments I know that’s what’s happened. “But I spoke with XYZ and they don’t agree with my policy stance, therefore they’re evil!” Is about the depth and breadth of conversations I know people have and form conclusions based around a lot of people over that. I’d highly recommend Jonathan Haidt’s book The Righteous Mind, one of my favorites. I’d also always recommend digging deeper and deeper into a topic until the value line gets brought out. Obviously there are turds out there but most people are not turds. You have to investigate to figure it out, moreso than surface level nonsense.

Yes, as long as we can settle on family values acceptable for both

My boyfriend and I have multiple political topics that we disagree on. But ultimately our values are the same. We just feel they should be executed in different ways. I genuinely believe what it comes down to is respect for one another. I have a different belief than he does, but that does not make him the enemy. We have civil discussions in which we disagree relatively often. My mind was not changed, and neither was his, but we both have heard a new perspective. It can also help to humanize the “other side” so to speak. I love him more than words could express. I know he is a good man. I wouldn’t be with him otherwise. So hearing these viewpoints from someone I love and respect just broadens my understanding of other people opinions. That’s the way I see it anyway. I works for us, but I could see how it could be an issue for others.

Absolutely as long as we’re civil and love each other, having those difficult situations, those slamming doors, in my opinion it strengthens relationships. True love occurs where a democrat and republican can love each other for who they are not what sock puppet they supporting

Mostly not.

No, because they wouldn’t even care about me.

No. Never.

The opposition to my political views directly impact me, my bodily autonomy, my safety, and those of my friends and family.

I would never, ever date a conservative man as a liberal woman.

It depends on how much they differ. If they’re completely oppositional, then no. If they just disagree with minor things, then yeah, it’s tolerable. If the person I want to spend my entire life with disagrees with my fundamental beliefs, then my life would probably be pretty miserable, no?

Politics as a religion strikes again

20 years ago yes. not anymore

My wife and I have different views. But neither of us have polar opposite views. Neither of us have particularly strong political views. Or perhaps “extreme” is a better word. She call herself liberal but she supports a closed southern border. I’d call myself conservative but I support a women’s right to an abortion (which means I typically vote for Democrats). Anyway, our politics have NEVER been a divisive issue in our marriage.

It depends how different their views are from mine

I can't date someone voting for Trump

Yes. I'm not a very argumentative person and I don't identify with any political label.

As long as she's not some terminally online far right or far left extremist, or a atheist, and doesn't constantly bring up politics, I think that it's possible to make a comprises.

Edit: I have nothing against atheists, but I just personally wouldn't want to date one.

This is such a vague question because I feel like the political differences do in fact determine my relationship with them and how we plan our lives together. Squabbles over minutiae like local neighborhood design and specific tax policy? That's just bound to happen. But in my opinion you have to actually have serious/hard conversations about differences and what they mean for your relationship. I definitely believe love can't just "transcend all" if both parties have essentially separate views of reality, or even views on what love is. People change, views can change, people's beliefs grow and shift. But I think it's important to understand where a person's coming from if you're actually considering a long-term commitment, because politics bleeds over into far more than just personal opinion.

I am not dating someone who believes I am inherently inferior because of my characteristics, no matter how much ignorance they were raised with.

Strongly depends on the level of opposition. If someone is not a nationalist, that is not a problem. If someone is a (economic) liberal, that is not a problem. Even if someone is a bit of a Europhile, that is not a problem.
But, if someone would actually want, for example, a worldwide islamic caliphate, or a truly federal Europe where the countries get demoted to the level the States have in the US, then things will become very difficult and very impolite very quickly. Probably.

Properly raising children with someone who doesn't share your worldview, to me, would seem VERY difficult though, so this might simply be a little naive of me.

Marriage and relationships are the great moderator. Being in a relationship is a cooperative and team-based effort. When my wife and I met and started dating right out of high-school she leaned a little more left and I leaned a little more right. We still have disagreements but we just talk about them or agree to disagree and we're going to celebrate our 5th wedding anniversary this year. If you're letting politics get in the way of your intimate relationships you're probably thinking about it way too much. Of course there are some situations where you might have an unmovable belief, and if that's the case you need to ask yourself why you feel that way, because odds are you're probably being an extremist on the position.

literally never

My wife and I have varying political ideologies, some of which are even "opposing". We get along just fine. The neat thing about political and social ideologies, is that the more you openly interact with opposing viewpoints, the more likely you are to grow and adapt into newer ideologies (exceptions withstanding, of course). We were both, respectively, more progressive and conservative when we met. We've both become more well-rounded people as a result, and I love her all the more for it, because I believe she's made me a better person for it.

How opposing are we talking, here? I'm pretty conservative when it comes to a lot of things, but I won't even date a guy who thinks I should just be a homebound babymaker.

Opposing? No. Different views than my own? Yes.

It really depends on values rather than politics. If the other person clearly cares about people outside their own family or social bubble, then the politics are probably going to be aligned with mine most of the time.

no, i couldn’t date someone who would vote for someone who plans on voting for a man who has plans to take away my rights over my own body.

It really depends. I’d never date anyone with extreme-left or extreme-right views.

Honestly, it depends. I tend to be libertarian or center with conservative views on some stuff (I.E. Trans debacle or supporting other countries when we can’t support our people here at home, etc.). I believe everyone should be able to do what they want, live who they want or marry who they want. I’m a Catholic and while I may not agree on some things like gay marriage, doesn’t mean I won’t be there for you happy day or whatever big event you have going on. We may not agree on some political things but I’m willing to leave if you can provide me studies or great well written/rounded evidence of certain issues like the economy, etc. I love the constitution and do believe that all man are created equal as well as believe in our constitutional rights that our founding fathers gave us (guns/protecting ourselves and family, etc.). I wish we all (both sides) have a respectful discussion or conversation. Most importantly what is impotent to me is everyone just getting along and living our lives (even if we disagree on some, most, or a lot of things).

I think it’s important to have some non-negotiable things. Like if you think schools should be funded one way and they think another source of funding is better, doable.

If you believe all people have the right to live their life and they believe some people should be forced to live according to someone else’s views, then you’re gonna run into issues.

You will never agree 100% with someone. And that’s ok. You really shouldn’t. But having matching core values matters an absolute ton. Having genuine political differences is normal. But it’s also important to understand what is and isn’t a political view.

My "political" views are just basic human rights. If we can't agree on our core principles, then no, I wouldn't date them. To me a lot of things people have tried to dumb down into just "politics" is simply basic human decency, I'm not going to try and fight with someone that certain people deserve to exist in peace.