I am now living the worse days of my life

My MIL thinks she tell us how to leave our lives and my useless partner thinks she can do anything.

I have a 2 months old baby and my MIL came to help us in the first days, at first it was supposed to be for 2 weeks but she ended up staying for over a month when I made myself clear that I did not want anyone staying longer because I need privacy to learn how to deal with my bob. A few weeks ago I found a that she wanted to leave with us for a while to “help” with the baby but I said no, because this is my first child and I’m want to do this on my way without someone else giving their opinion in the every single thing I do. She is extremely nosy. She got upset and started making this drama saying that she helped us, she spend all this money getting stuff for the baby and I was being ungrateful for not let her come back to leave with us for a while. All I said was: I’m not in a good head space; everything is new and I need to do this on my way. My partner bought her drama and gave me so much shit, saying that I was ungrateful, I don’t care about his family and his mother is just as important to our child as any of us. When he said that I lost my shit and told him that grandparents will never be parents and his mother needed to understand her place. I woke up a few days ago and I heard them making mean comments about me. I checked his phone to get a better understanding of the situation( I know this is wrong but it was strainger than me) and I found out messages of her saying horrible things about me. She said that I got pregnant on purpose and that I was taking advantage of my partners disability(he has autism) and I was not extremely manipulative and he should find a way to end this relationship as soon as possible so they could get a lawyer to take the custody of my son. And yes, the motherfucker of my husband agreed with everything she said. I feel devastated by everything I read, we had a massive argument and I said that this is wrong and she has no right over my son. I ended up calling her names and he spat at me , yes he spat at my face while I was holding my 2 month old son. And then I watched mash all my stuff, my family photos, the crystal angel my father gave me when I was 4, the rosary my grandmother gave me before she passed away everything that meant something to me, he said: you deserve it for not respecting my mother. My whole life I never thought I was going to live anything like this, I don’t know what to do. I have nowhere to go, no family here, no friends. have never felt worse. I’m now, living the worse days of my whole life. I don’t know what to do.

in FamilyIssuesby NoCable9189

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2mo

CamilaRibeiras

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2mo

Girl, run. Make sure you take pictures and get all proof you can. Send screenshots of the convo on his phone to your phone too.

Run. It’s not going to get better. If not for you, do it for the kid. Two separate parents are better than a family.

Florida1974

2mo

Get out.
You come first. And baby. That is his fam now. Sure , his mom is still fam but you need boundaries and he should support that.
To smash your previous keepsakes is another level. I will not say it’s bc his autism, not solely. I dated guys long ago that did this. It’s emotional abuse. You can’t replace those items.

My mom died. She had left me one last Xmas present. She died in May so not sure why she had it wrapped and all.

I had it sitting on top of her dogs kennel. (We inherited the dog) my husband was moving around too fast as we cleaned her place out.

His knee hit it and it fell to floor. You found here whatever was inside, break. I was effin devastated. I bawled and bawled. It was an accident, I seen the whole thing, wasn’t done on purpose.

But I’ll never get it back. Took me about 2 years to open it. It was made of glass but was extremely fragile. No idea what it was. I still kept it bc it was from her.

See the difference??
This will escalate if you let it.

And to spit on you.your son will grow. And if this continues, he is likely to mimic how dad treats women. Or he gets old enough and defends you.

Bad situation imo. I would definitely be talking to a lawyer in case he does do what he says, taking your son. Make a journal and hide it well and write down all these things.

Good luck and congrats on baby. 💕💕

Bublymangowater93

2mo

I would get out while you can, your partner has made it clear how he feels. Also spitting on someone is considered assault, I would start documenting everything and anything you can. The last thing you want is for his and his moms actions to escalate and hurt you and the baby. Try to reach out to your family and friends if you can for support and somewhere to stay while you get legal help.