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I’m convinced the money for cigarettes came out my parents asses cause according to them they didn’t have any money but they could spend $30+ a week on those ☺️
Or begging people to buy medication for their kids shortly before they buy some weed.
I recently learned that my father had a pretty good salary when I was growing up, more than I earn right now. It was surreal, I was always convinced we were poor and I was a financial burden on my parents. I wore old second hand clothes and was bullied in school for that. Turns out my father just spent most of his money on alcohol, cigarettes and gambling...
It was a shock to me when I looked up my mother’s salary in the inflation calculator. She has always out-earned me, yet I was constantly told how poor we were. Took me a long time to realize she’s just bad with money.
Mine spent all of it on lot lizards and buying new property to be a slum lord for. Not a day of my childhood was I not reminded of how much of a burden I am and that I should be grateful for being allowed a roof over my head, so stop whining and get back to making repairs (like legit repairs such as replacing toilets and piping, running electrical, tearing out/putting up walls or floors, etc... not just painting or simple stuff) on my shitty duplexes at 7yo while I chug beers and complain about how much I hate your mother.
My mother saying cheese is too expensive even though she gets two packs of cigarettes daily and orders takeout for herself 6-7 times a week.
Can’t buy vegetables but can buy concert tickets and a hotel room lmao
One time my mom said we had no money and couldn’t buy any vegetables (I specify because every time I try to incorporate healthy foods into my diet she pulls this) and then later that same day comes home with a brand new truck that they got on a whim. Actually brand new, not used.
My step-father would buy and build himself guns instead of going grocery shopping, that was my mom's "job" in the household. And when we were stuck at home in the middle of fuckin nowhere for summer vacation, we were lucky if we got a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and a bowl of plain top ramen for the day until Mom got home to cook dinner. Then we'd be lucky to get dinner if we'd worked hard enough at our "chores" for the day.
You ever have to move a couple hundred pounds of rocks around a field on an empty stomach and then go to bed hungry? Fun right?
Anyway, I should get out of bed and go get something to eat now that I'm an adult and can. I still forget to.
we didn’t have money for school trips, new underwear, clothes, or decent food but he ALWAYS had money for weed, pills, beer and cigarettes.
looks at the sub oh. I thought I was in r/raisedbynarcissists.
Lol same, I always have to double check.
There’s so much overlap. And sadness over being able to relate when they pop up.
Sadness, yes. For me though, seeing complete strangers having the same experiences makes me feel less lonely. Less like it was all my fault. Like we’re all in this together.
We’re all up sh*t creek, but we up it together
I'm not the only one this happened too... Daam
Can't pay the bills but can pay the loan for luxury car with a single income 🤡
Relatable. I paid for groceries, my dad paid to lease an Audi. But he was destitute, you see. s/
My mum losing the house, finding a way to spend my step dads inheritance and £50k she stole all within a few yrs
Basic needs? Lmao no, try a bunch of complete bs funding to parties.
I know someone in my life who routinely avoids paying bills so she can get decorations and bounce houses for birthday parties. The kid is more likely to remember the month they went without a warm house than the few hours they didn't have a bounce house.
“Hey, mom can we go grocery shopping?”
“No we don’t have enough money. Now drive me to the liquor store.”
Lmaoo my dad bought a literal race car seat connecting to his play station that he used 1 week and never again, yet couldn’t buy me contact lenses
Edit: also daily alcohol of course
ITS NOT JUST ME
I always saw them smoking, even though we had garbage food, if any at all.
One died of lung cancer, so I suppose that’s justice of some kind.
god i know the feeling, my mother made $35 an hour and my father $17 an hour and yet my GRANDMOTHER had to buy our groceries. got told a razor was too expensive to "waste on me" while my father bought $100+ train books at conventions. my mother just buys whatever she wants. ive lived through the power and our phones being turned off multiple times.
My mom would do that but with BS survivor/prepper/self sustain garbage.
High-end cosmetics, but going to the food bank and nonprofits to get money to help our power bill get paid while we wore our beat up hand me down clothes and selling off our possessions and food stamps to keep our housing.
I'll never forget begging my mother to not buy makeup as a teenager so we could afford bills.
Ah yes, the old "I just bought myself a fourth horse, make yourself some ramen for dinner IDK."
My mom went to the beauty salon every month for cut, color and all kinds of other stuff and got her nails done every 2 weeks but we couldn’t afford clothes, food, school projects or trips, towels, vacations, fresh fruit or vegetables ever, or to fix our house.
my mother: buys nothing but cheap junk food to "feed" is because she says it's all we can afford
also my mother: spends £75 a week on weed
Yeah my father wouldn’t buy us food either but he had money that mf was a welder and worked under the table so he didn’t pay taxes
Im a case worker and i unfortunately see this behavior all the time; i feel really bad for the kids
My mom yelling at me the $2 hamburger helper is too expensive but has money for soda, fresh back cheese cake and salty snacks.
Apparently my hamburger helper was junk food and a waste of money.
We have the same moms, I see 😭
I can’t afford x reasonable necessity Buys a $200 new couch or rug
“We can’t afford to get that permanent cap right the root canal was too expensive. Let me know when tooth starts to break apart like the last one”
My parents had a boat, a fun car for each of them and a commuter car for each. Dad had several motorcycles and project cars. They never gave me lunch money, or bought clothes for me and I spent every weekend with my grandmother
"Hey I'm gonna go do X."
"We don't have money for that!!!" Proceeds to it for themselves
Repeat ad nauseum
that time my mom stole 380 dollars from 8 year old me and then gaslit me about it but came home a few days later with massive haul of expensive clothes for herself 😍
Mine spent the money on an endless house renovation that had the sole purpose of owning the prettiest house on our street. Said renovation lasted 20+ years.
“I can’t afford to buy you pads”
Spends $50 on ciggies that day