There’s a narrative here that while women can be abusers, the majority of abusers are men; I disagree. Passive abusive such as neglecting children or failing to report abuse is in itself abuse. Constantly browbeating men to a point that they view themselves as inherently evil and abusive is in itself abusive.
Women are equal to men. Equally abusive too.
Women just tend to abuse in a different way and it’s still not ok.
The worst thing that I’m seeing is the browbeaten men repeating this narrative that men are bad. It’s especially insidious on this sub as it’s basically impossible to heal when you have deep seated hatred of yourself that can’t be reconciled.
If traumatized women need to hate men while healing then ok, but you don’t need to hate yourself too. It doesn’t help anyone.
Thank you.
Post has been locked because comments broke down into the inevitable misogyny vs. misandry.
These topics are valid and would be a great conversation to be had.
Unfortunately, it seems whenever these conversations pop up the fighting and hate come out of the wood works.
Let me remind everyone: we are ALL severely traumatized in this sub. Which means we ALL have triggers and tend to get defensive. FAST. So when this topic inevitably comes back up, try to remember that. Take a breath before posting a comment.