I've been doing inner child work with my therapist lately and during a session I was asked what child-me needed to hear at the time. Like soothing words or advice. But I can't come up with anything, all I hear from my inner child is "get me out of here". I will talk about this with my therapist in my next session, but I still wonder what can you tell a child that's being bullied in school? Nothing seems to feel right. Is there anyting your parents or a caregiver could've said that might've helped you?
To those who have been bullied, what would've helped you during that time?
Literally a single person that would've noticed and talked to me about it. One of the many teachers who clearly knew to come to me and offer me advice and company during those couple of years. Someone I could rely on and share my sadness and anger. Anyone I could see as safe and connected to. Just one.
No one came to me :( I still remember on the day the bullying started and I realized things would never be alright, crying in front of the class while the teacher was explaining stuff, trying to keep it down but I couldn't, and everyone just looking at me weird, and the teacher just kept talking and never addressed it. I was 9 and it was the most defining moment of my whole life. I just broke
What kind of person ignores this? But why do I ask? Nobody noticed it in my case either. My heart hurts for little-you. And yes - that makes total sense. Just one person you would've noticed and given it a name would've helped so much.
Damn, that's just horrible. You'd think teachers would be trained in how to deal with bullies and kids with problems, but I guess having shitty teachers is more universal than I thought.