I have a good therapist but even now, I don’t feel like I’m getting much out of it. My anxiety is trauma based and like yes… I can take the “charge” off of it.
BUT… when it boils down to the reality of it, if life is so full of suffering and the intention is that we have to manage our reactions to it… what is the point exactly?!
Like why am I considered crazy to not want to process my familial trauma, greedflation and financial trauma, not want to become homeless, etc. I think it’s a completely normal response to a very real and horrible situation.
Some people find meaning but I don’t. I genuinely have felt this way since I’ve been young. I don’t desire to learn lessons or fight through the suffering. It hasn’t been worth it to me.
Why wouldn’t I want to off myself?! How are people ok? I can’t unsee life.
Oh man, I relate to this SO hard, OP, and I’m sorry, it’s a very tough situation to be in.
When I feel that way, I try to pretend I’ve been dead for thousands of years but have been given the opportunity to relive a random day of my life. Even if it’s pretend, I feel gratitude and appreciation for the little things in a way I don’t normally. When you think of it as your last day on earth (and every day has the potential to be that day), you see things through a different lens.
Life is full of suffering, our purpose is to find something that makes the suffering worth tolerating. I find that I often feel the way you describe when I feel lost, powerless, or directionless in my life. Funny enough, thinking about how tiny and insignificant I am to the universe makes me feel better.
Connecting with nature also helps me remember that 99% of my problems are socially constructed and don’t actually matter. Yes, it matters a little bit, but ultimately we are made to eat, sleep, breathe, and fuck. if you’re doing more than that, congrats! you are more than fulfilling your role in nature. Nature doesn’t hand out deadlines or exclude you from plans. Nature is there for us and we should be there for it too, because we ARE nature. Remembering nothing is natural about modern life helps me remember that I’m not crazy for feeling stressed and unsatisfied with my modern life.
Unfortunately, you are the only one who can define your life’s purpose or give it meaning. No one can do that for you. It is a responsibility we all have to one another, to give this life our best effort because as far as we know it’s the only one we get.