The earthquake last night reminded me of another cruel thing my Dad said about my weight

What an asshole. I'm sorry he did that to you.

Hey, he's not telling us or you anything about you. He's just telling everyone what an asshole he is.

That is such an awful thing to say. I hope you have other people in your life who would never, ever dream of hurting you like that. Hugs

I know what you mean. My dad was blunt to the point of cruel, but he was also clueless. When I was 11, he came into the habit room where I was peacefully coexisting with my sister for once in a blue moon, and told me, "Mija (my daughter diminutive in Spanish) you're getting too fat. We need to send you to Jenny Craig. " and walked off. I was crushed. My sister, who I didn't really get along with, was appalled. The worst thing? He honestly meant it to be an expression of loving concern. He was astonished I was hurt and upset. So, that didn't solve the fact it was cruel. I hope your heart heals one day, you didn't deserve that, and neither did I.

That is incredibly cruel. I’m so sorry.

What a horrible thing to say to anyone, child or adult. But you were thirty-three damn years old! He didn’t learn a thing! Not to mention that it’s a lame-o joke. I grew up along a major fault line—both geologically and metaphorically—and I’m here to tell you that there’s no attempt to combine earthquakes and a vulnerable person’s weight that won’t land very, very badly.

It might not be a bad idea to deadpan mordantly on social media, “When Oklahoma recently experienced an earthquake tremor registering 4.2 on the Richter Scale, Dear Old Dad unsuccessfully attempted to make weight- and exercise-related jokes. Or those featuring Richter Scales and bathroom scales, SMDH.”

Best of luck with your recovery.

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