I finally found the reason why boomers hate texting

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“There’s no point in arguing who’s right and who’s wrong.” Correct

The man essentially attempted to emotionally blackmail you into a position of grovelling, threatening to withdraw all contact - because he was wrong about the meeting time.

So basically he hates accountability when it comes to him. 10/10 Boomer

i can't gaslight you when you have evidence on your side. please leave my house

Unrelated to boomers, but I had a very similar argument with one of my exes near the end of our relationship. He told me he was "so sick of you always having receipts" proving him wrong. It was one of those situations where all you can do is laugh at the audacity.

“This is why I hate texting: I can’t get away with lying and other bullshit!”

Works especially well with boomer bosses. Had one that complained that my decision went poorly. Emailed him back showing his email directing me to do exactly the same thing. And me questioning how that decision could go poorly.

I'm a boomer, and only like to communicate by text. Then, when I forget the time or date, I can look it up without bothering anybody else. Boomers who don't realize this are missing out, lol.

If my Dad told me to leave I would never come back

Ever

Exactly.

This is why I refuse to take food orders from my parents unless it’s in text form that way they can’t dispute that I got them the wrong thing when it’s clearly there in text by their own hand that this is what they wanted.

You can’t bitch at me for getting you a side Caesar salad when that exactly what you texted me. If you wanted a full size with a side of chili fries you needed to text that or send a follow up text correcting it.

The petty side of me says make plans with your sister and a group of friends during the most likely time a family grad party would happen.  IDK, depends on how awkward you want Thanksgiving to be this year.

Also, make sure ALL communication with your dad is written or around witnesses.  Like, I’d even follow up phone calls about Grandma’s bunion surgery with an email summarizing the call like you do at work when you don’t trust your supervisor.   He brought it on himself, really.

The lead is finally leaching out of his bones and into his bloodstream, better start documenting every encounter with him as others have pointed out

So he lied and was trying to gaslight you into thinking you agreed to a different time. What a piece of shit.

I’ll take “Why doesn’t my family visit me?” For 200

Once, a long time ago, I needed a ride home from work and my mom agreed to pick me up, just call her when I was about 15 mins from being done. I called her 15 mins before, she said she was on the way. Half an hour later I’m sitting outside waiting for her. Another 15 mins go by and I try calling her again (this was before texting was popular) and she answers the phone groggily and says “what!” I tell her I’ve been waiting for her to pick me up, and she yells at me for not calling her 15 mins before like we agreed. I told her I did, but she still doesn’t believe me. When she arrives, I showed her my call log that says we had a 2 minute call, and her phone log that says she answered and had a 2 minute call. Instead of saying “sorry, I must have fallen asleep” she denies that she ever answered the phone and that “it must be wrong because you didn’t call me!” And tells me next time I have an attitude and lie to her, I can find another way home.

we use watsapp a lot where I'm from and I absolutely hate it when people send me sound clips instead of text.

it's specially bad if it's work related and it's like a list, or if it's instructions because I can't just look at it when I need I have to listen to the clip until the part I need or I have to memorize the whole thing.

when everything is documented there's no point in trying to argue who's right or wrong

That's the fucking point

Haaaa. This makes me think of my mother who I am no longer in contact with. She'd change stories to make herself out to be the victim and I'd just pull out the receipts if anyone brought up something she said. No wonder she hated texting and wanted phone calls or face to face conversation.

lmao dad morse code been around since the 1800s ! 🤣

Saw one of those satire “boomer mom” TikTok’s today about how they make plans but never share them, then act offended when no one reads their mind and is ready for what they’ve had planned all day.

Same thing here.

I would stop talking to him

They really do hate when we have it in writing because all of their gaslighting has no place here

Once scheduled a meeting with a group of people, one hadn’t turned up so dropped them a call. Absolutely knew nothing about it, but she will be there soon. Finally turned up livid I would try hold a group meeting without her. I showed her the text messages where we had agreed to meet and how I had offered to meet a bit later when she said she had plans earlier in the day.

Completely denied having had that conversation and stormed out.

This is why the boomers at my job hate me for insisting on putting EVERY communication in writing.

Sounds like a toddler. I would shut this imbecile out of your life. See how he likes it when his own family turns on him!

"this is why I hate texting, when everything is clear and documented there's no point in trying to argue who is wrong or who is right"

In other words they just want to argue for no reason.

That's a feature not a bug ffs

"I hate texting because I can't manipulate people" there fixed it

Makes you wonder how often he did this to you and your family over the years.

The boomers at work won’t text because they don’t want written evidence of how rude they are

God damn, this makes too much sense!

A generation of people that don't realize that Google has been proving their adversity with the truth for two decades.

PLEASE come cross post this in emotional neglect, we need this validation.

The Boomer Mantra. If you don’t agree with reality just argue against it.

That's fucking unhinged narcissistic behavior

They hate accountability and texting is a way to hold them accountable.

Of course he doesn't want to argue about who is right or wrong because he knows he would lose lol.

Imagine the gaslighting he has done to you your entire life.

He wanted you to come at 4 but didn't want to tell you. You were wrong for not reading his mind and then doubly wrong for being able to prove how unreasonable he was.

My mom would pull this shit and deny lashing out at me. She would get SO angry when I sent her screenshots of what she said.

"I never said that."

:sends screenshots:

😡🤬😤

"I like forgetting stuff, then making other people feel bad about it"

Sounds like the behavior of a 4 year old.

If my dad did something like this, he would no longer be "Dad," merely "Mr. [last name]".

If questioned on the change, I would tell him that any man who prefers argumentation and lies over the truth is no man worthy of being my father. Any man who prefers being right, rather than being right, holds no right to call me his son.

After all, my father taught me well.

How dare be arsed to READ.

It's probably also because he cant see, but won't adjust his font or wear glasses

Wow. It's harder to gaslight your loved ones when there's documentation. 😬

I knew a gen Xer who had the personality of a boomer, even when he was in his 30s, who preferred calling because “it takes him ten minutes to type something that he can say in 5 seconds”, which meant putting my night on hold so I can hear him talk for 2 hours.

Narcissists need to gaslight.

Translation “Communication in writing limits my ability to lie or selectively remember details for my own benefit”

Self-owns are the best owns.

So it removed OP's dad's power play entirely? Imagine that.

Imagine accountability lol.

They don’t like accountability.

Your dad sucks dude.

Gaslighting is their culture.

This is godsdamned hilarious. He basically said he hates texts because then he is unable to lie and be a douche because his actual words can stare him in the face and he doesn't like it. I feel like part of my brain exploded and another part imploded.

wtf is your dad some kind of gaslighting narcissist?

Sounds like he just wanted a reason to pretend like you agreed to 4:00. So he could then argue that he was in the right from the start. 

Aka “I hate texting because I can’t twist the truth”

 Instead of, you know, just asking if you could meet earlier.

"I never said that!" could be one of the official slogans of the boomer generation