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But his issues didn’t start with the woman. He was upset she didn’t take his mental health seriously. What got him there in the first place that’s my point, why is that never discussed in these groups?
I'm confused on the scenario, are you just speaking in general? If someone's not even gonna listen to their potential date speak about their problems why would they go into detail about it?
I’m not talking about going into detail with their date. I’m talking about post like these. Why do they always turn into men vs women about men’s mental health, instead of just idk talking to each other about what’s going on, or at least helping find some resources, tips etc.
Why is it about what his date did, and not about how can we help get this man financially on the right track? Because at the end of the day, date or no date, he’s still in financial trouble.
Because this isn't a discussion about getting him back on track financially. I'm not saying that that discussion doesn't need to happen, but THIS IS NOT THAT DISCUSSION.
The dude is stressing about money. His girlfriend offers to help him deal with the stress but actually contributes to it by adding to the problem that is stressing him out in the first place. It's like in your scenario with the husband putting a band-aid on a broken leg (where is that BTW, did you delete that comment?), but instead of putting on a band-aid he starts twisting your leg instead causing more pain and damage. That's fucked up, and it deserves to be called out. THAT'S WHAT THIS DISCUSSION IS ABOUT.
And this is a widespread phenomenon that women are perpetuating onto men. It needs to be addressed. And here you are being like, "why are you talking about this? Shame on you. You should talk about this other thing instead."
You are the problem. Self reflect if you're even capable of it.
I’m the problem because I want to actually fix the issue instead of just complaining about what someone is or isn’t doing. That man didn’t have to say yes to going out to eat knowing he’s financial struggling first of all. Secondly what is telling that story gonna do? “Wow that’s messed up”, do we need to go and beat the girl? Like NOW WHAT?! YOURE STILL BROKE. That is my point, NOW WHAT?!
When my husband told me he was suffering, I went and signed up for therapy I didn’t just “damn that’s crazy” I made a difference to ACTUALLY HELP. These threads do not help. Because when you swipe out the app of Reddit, you’re still in the same position you came in. Instead of us centering men’s mental health around women, let’s actually fix what’s causing it in the first place. How many more Reddit posts do we need discussing the same thing? Is it gonna cure your depression? Fix your finances? No it doesn’t.