Personally, for me it’s if I know any of your exes. Especially if that’s our only mutual. Dated someone like that for two years and it was hell.
You having the name of anyone of my immediate family. I know its ridiculous but I can't shake it.
My sister dated a guy with both my name and my brothers name. Can attest to that
My good friend married a chick with the same name as his mom. I cannot even imagine
My dad, husband, and father in law all have the same name 😂
I was confused that your parents named you and your brother the same name.
It also took me a minute to work out that this was accomplished with two different exes.
My old fwb had the same name as my mom. I would call her by her middle name instead
Her first name was Mommy?
How do you know my mom's name?
Bro, think we have the same Mom.
So no step-family porn for you, I gather
The guy I’m seeing now has the same name as my brother. And his middle name is the same as my son’s. I mostly call him by his last name. Or babe. It’s awkward.
Shes one of those live love laugh types
Eat pray love for me.
I love eating my prey
"Always be kind"
Apart from the obvious fact that there are situations where you should definitely not be kind, I've always found that these people forget this motto and become abusive real quick when they don't get their way.
Constant positivity seems like a psychopathic trait
Edit: not using psychopathic correctly. More the vibe of a cult member
It's more people who can't handle negative emotions so they never learn to process them.
Gives me the heeby jeebys
There's a reason it's called toxic positivity and it's not because it's a good thing
what does that even mean ?
They constantly post motivational quotes filled with platitudes. The female aquivalent of a dude who keeps posting images of Tommy Shelby or the Joker with some dumb phrase that sounds empowering
I know a certain person
We all do.
I know a certain subreddit, LOL
These used to go around on Facebook or are pretty popular to buy from the home decor section of your nearest super store on some sort of plaque or board to hang up on your wall or post on Facebook. If they have one of those, run. The relationship will be anything but those three words
for me they mean a kind of canned/generic sentiment. not original. but also, who doesn't want to "live, laugh and love"? I don't need decor to tell me to.
That a person has no personality and or original/independent thoughts.
Agreed! Anytime I see i girls house filled with all that stuff I immediately think they have zero personality. Your home represents you in the way its interior is set up. Put something interesting on your wall. Maybe something that represents you and things you like. If its the shitty decor from your local target or Homegoodsthat all has the same beige color scheme then YA BORING!
My house is literally furniture and house plants. The decor slowly disappeared as I need more room lol.
It’s mental that I know the EXACT type of girl you mean just by that 😂😂
This is very shallow of me.
Outtie belly buttons.
Finally one that's actually oddly specific
Yeah the rest of these are like “ yeah I know it’s weird but I can’t stand insert obvious red flag
To he fair, an "outie" belly button is just an umbilical hernia.
Valid tbh
Ah dunno... puts eye lashes on her car, I guess. And has "Princess" shit.
The only princess in my life is my cat. She is a spoiled little so and so
Id pass on anyone that puts bumper stickers on their car too lol
If she can't stand us being silent while in each others company, then it will not work out.
As a major introvert, yes. I need quite time, otherwise I'd go nuts
Dude I’m a chatty af person and even I agree with this. Sometimes it’s nice to just sit in the same room with someone and not talk. Bonus if cuddling/half cuddling while each doing your own activity.
Same! Alone time is great, too. So anyone who feels ignored or offended, etc., because I need some quiet time and also some alone time is not for me.
If she tells me I need to talk more
A bad laugh. Everyone has their own laugh but there are some I just can't stand. And someone probably can't stand mine, and we surely will not date
SUPER long nails and or eyelashes that have a wingspan of a bald eagle. I guess it isnt oddly specific, but just my thing.
KAAW
I dont get how anyone thinks those look good. Mega turn off for me.
Living in Southern California, I just accept it. Can't run from it.
The way she puts things down after holding them. I know it sounds stupid but I've a noticed a pattern where people who throw shit out of their hands instead of laying it down gently and properly tend to be more on the narcissistic side.
Edit: People, I said that those who don't place things down gently TEND to be more narcissistic. This isn't an absolute judgement. Of course there'll be people who are messy/careless but aren't narcissistic at all.
Tossing money/cards when handing it to other people
My dad does this to waiters/waitresses and cashiers when they've reached out their hand to retrieve the cash. He'll toss it in front of then instead and I've always wanted to slap him for it and apologize to the person.
You should do both those things before he does it to the wrong person.
Oh screw that. I call that out quickly and loudly. It's rude.
It's like a lack of respect for the item or the surface it's going on. Careless and thoughtless even if it's not narcissistic. That's almost child like because you teach babies not to do that.
On a similar note for me it’s people who don’t close the lids on stuff. They just place it on top to look like it’s fastened so when you pick up the stuff spills. It doesn’t take much energy to twist a lid back
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Never really thought about it, but you do have a point.
Also any other showcase of being completely ignorant of being a total unnecessary nuisance. Like shouting for a story or something when people around are having quiet conversations, or being at a self checkout with a long queue and acting like everyone in front of you should be rushing, but then you get there and take you sweet fucking time to contemplate the placement of each of the items, maybe pause that to talk to someone on the phone, organize any transfer between bags still standing at the register, and generally practice your slow motion movement while you're there..
Sounds like you are talking from experience... Did you murder some one in a self check out line?
Shopping at walmart with my mother.I was in the 10 items or less aisle with three things. The woman in front of me had an entire shopping cart full of items. I suggested that the cashier stop ringing her items up after the 10th item. The cashier smiled at me but continued to ring up her items. She screamed at me and told me "you cant talk to me that way!". I calmly told her "I wasn't talking to you .I was talking to the cashier. I said nothing to you about bringing a cart full of items in the 10 items or less Lane ."The woman flew into her rage. She screamed for a manager and when one came by she screamed at him that I "couldn't talk to her that way and tell her not to bring only 10 things to that lane" The manager looked both confused and amused. He basically shook his head and walked away.. Then she called the police. After 5 minutes of screaming at the police I think they finally realized what the situation was and they hung up on her. She paid for her items and stormed out of the store. After my mother and I checked out and got in our car the woman followed us in her Escalade flashing her high beams and honking at me. About a half a mile later I was about to pull over and call the police when she finally pulled around us and yelled some profanities before stomping the gas and tearing down the road.
How they chew food. If they are loud chewers or breathe out their mouth while eating.
My ex chewed her food super obnoxiously. Her entire family did actually. It got to the point where I thought about breaking up over it because I simply didn’t think I could stand it for the rest of my life and she wouldn’t stop it. but we ended up breakin up over other stuff anyways lol
Honestly tho, but personally I was also yelled at, belittled, guilted, and I was grounded / lost privileges for drinking and chewing too loudly. Didn’t matter if my mouth was closed
Really don't get how this seems to go unnoticed by most people... it's gross, distracting, rude, and makes you look bad.
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My wife doesn't allow me to date anymore.
Do you always listen to your ex girlfriend?
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That is toxic manipulative behavior. Please run king.
That’s weird, she lets me date her all the time!
It’s been a while since I laughed out loud with a comment.
She's selfish .....
Hope you signed a prepun
I think sometimes people being too eager to be in a relationship.
It makes you think they want a partner too much to the point where they’ll take anyone who fits the part as opposed to actually being with the right person
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Ikr " if she smokes" how's that oddly specific x that's a big chunk or the population
I know I’m a woman but I’m butting in. Mine is EXTREMELY specific and I didn’t just make it up for this post. I will never date men with well-arched pointy blonde eyebrows ever again. I hate you so much Dan #3.
Out of all the comments I've read so far, only two made me laugh and yours was one of them lol
Some words just kill it for me: - mama bear - queen/princess
I’ve noticed a trend with single mothers referring to themselves as “mama” in third person like “this mama is tired!” It’s weird and sounds so dumb
If you're too energetic in the morning.
I have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep, and waking up is hell, so if you poke and prod me in the morning (by touching me or with your voice), I will start to dislike you very quickly.
Conversely, I dated a woman who was an absolute GRINCH in the morning. Waking up with her was pure hell because she would just snap at everything, floor board creek, putting on your pants too loud, etc. We stopped sleeping in the same bed and eventually sleeping over because neither of us could stand it.
Was super eye opening when I started a new relationship and she was just bright and cuddly every morning. I’m by no means a morning person, but I don’t wake up with the intention of burning the world down either.
I'm type 1 diabetic and struggle with night time lows. The last girl I properly dated would cop off at me in the middle of the night whilst I'm literally getting up to save my life.... Then when I went back to bed she would flip out because I woke her again, storm out the room, slam the door and then go sleep on the sofa and give me the cold shoulder for the first few hours of the next day.
Never an apology for her actions, just a "I don't like being woke up in my sleep" as her excuse.
Safe to say this relationship didn't last very long.
I’m a night owl and I struggle to sleep more than 4 hours without waking up. If you want to be chatty and active before noon we have an issue. My husband and I can be awake an hour or more and the only words we exchange is “I took the dogs out and gave them their medicine.” And most of the time we’ve texted it anyway so we don’t need to speak. It’s bliss. On my day off I might not have to speak to anyone more than a couple words before 2 pm. I don’t mind texts but talking is just too much for me.
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If she is overly active on social media.
It ruins it for me in two ways - (1) They seek external validation for every aspect of their life (and more often than not it affects the relationship)
(2) She would probably spend time on her phone while we are together. I find that super annoying.
I feel this deeply - dealing with it now and I’m thinking it’s a deal breaker.
It is. A screen is more important than your time? Time to cut loose
Every activity is only for the gram. They’re not sharing a moment with you -you’re on location for their photoshoot.
I know it's a cliche, but I avoid any girl who says she's into riding or working with horses. I've dated three of them and they were all crazy.
I saw a top voted comment some time ago that said something to the effect of: “if you think crazy cat women are crazy, wait till you meet a crazy horse women.”
On another note, how you end up with 3 horse ladies? You a horse or something?
He was looking for a stable relationship.
A 4th asked him out and he said neigh!
I saw a comment from a vet on a topic about how dog fanaticism has blown up a lot these past ten years (something I definitely agree with) and the vet said the most difficult clients with the most unreasonable or ridiculous requests they've had were almost always dog and bird people. I'm guessing they didn't work with large animals like horses otherwise they would have made the list too.
Date a cat person. If they have any less than three they're probably sane. Or just avoid pets altogether since you'll always come after the animal.
Genuinely curious: what made them crazy in your estimation?
Horses will always come first, as another commenter said. That has been my experience every time.
The horses will ALWAYS take priority over you. Doesn’t matter if you’re dating, married, etc. You’re there to provide money to maintain and buy more horses
Usually awesome asses and fun in bed though
So how does one find a horse chick? Asking for a friend.
This has been a consistent theme as well
If she has the same first name as my mother/aunt/lady relative that I’ll associate that name with.
Won't work well in a large Itailan or Greek family.
Walks around in designer clothes but lives in a mobile home.
I think that's a version of "hood rich" lol
Duck lips in photos.
Oh my god, this so much. I just finished binge watching all three seasons of" his dark material". One of the main characters doesn't have duck lips but above her upper lip it looks swollen like somebody punched her in the face. I don't know why it annoyed me so much. But it did. I couldn't stand looking at her face. And she was one of the main characters in the TV show. There were a lot of close-ups of her face. I kept hoping she would die.
The only oddly specific reason I can think of is any involvement with MLMs.
That's a specific reason, but not at all an odd one. If she's a 10 but in an MLM, she's a 1.
Someone who does not enjoy ice cream. Life will certainly be unhappy there 🍦
What about the lactose intolerant?
as a lactose intolerant and also actively consuming caramel brownie chunk ice cream as they type
If they like to go to Disney World too much.
Holy shit. Didn’t think I’d see that here. I had a co-worker she would go like 8 times a year. I thought to myself how miserable that would be. I invited her husband over for a football party we were having one year and I got to talking to him and he brought up how much he hated going to Florida and I asked about Disney and he just kinda shook his head.
Fast forward a few years, she leaves the company and after COVID hit, I reach out to the husband to see if he wants to join our fantasy football league, and he declined, because they had just moved to Orlando…that man is living my hell right now.
I couldn't date someone that has to take pictures wherever they go and for whatever they do. If I can't have a nice time without you pulling out your phone everytime we see each other to take picture and for each coffee/food we buy, then I can't be around you.
My wife is a weird exception to this rule for me: she has aphantasia (basically completely unable to form images in her head). The only way she can 'remember' what the cool shark at the aquarium or the atmosphere of a rock concert looked like is to take pictures for the future. She's not the kind of person who posts a billion pics on socials, she just keeps them for the sake of remembering.
I love that goofy girl, so if we have to stop for pictures when we drive by a funny billboard, then I'll happily wait for her to get the shot she needs to remember it by.
I wasn't expecting to read something so sweet and wholesome in these responses. This touched my heart. Wishing you both a lifetime of love and happiness!
Thanks, friend! Ten years down, plenty more to come!
I’m curious is it the picture-taking that bothers you or the motive behind it like posting on social media? I ask because I like to take pictures of my outings but I rarely post anything on social media. It’s really just for me.
Says she wants to embrace her multiple personality disorder instead of getting help
People who say supper instead of dinner is a deal breaker
That rules out Canadian women then. lol. We're a mixed bag of American and British English vocabulary, grammar, spelling and phrases verbs.
Happy weird early Thanksgiving!
I actually enjoy the mixed bag of American and British English.
Guessing you’re a person who says Fall instead of Autumn too
Fall is ok. Autumn is better. Autumnal is marriage material
I don’t personally say supper, but where I’m from they call lunch “dinner” and dinner is “supper”. Confused my bf so much when I brought him home, and he grew up only 3 hours away in the same state lol
I won't date someone who doesn't hold down long term friendships. Biggest green flag for me is if someone has a non-codependent childhood best friend. Especially early on, how that person interacts with you will be a great litmus test for your compatibility. If her best friend treats me with contempt I know it ain't happening.
This.
Also adding on, for what it’s worth im 26 for reference, but ladies in my age group bragging that they’re the girl that nobody liked in college or high school because they didn’t get along or “for some reason all of these guys girlfriends didn’t like me”.
All of them??? Honey, that’s no longer a mistake
This means no migrants then possibly :(
As someone who moved from one country to another, I do have childhood friends, but you’d not likely meet them.
if they’re religious. there’s obviously nothing wrong with someone who believes in god, but i simply wouldn’t be comfortable going to church or praying to appease a partner.
I spent a chunk of my life with someone very religious. It was never a problem in our relationship. She never expected me to go to church. I really don't have a problem with attending. If they have a nice organ and a good organist, I'll go just for the music. Her family is a different story. They would prefer her with an abusive religious man (aka the ex husband) than a caring non-religious man.
That is why I never met her family. I lost touch with her after an accident. I tried to reach out to her family and they won't talk to me about how she is doing. Religion doesn't bother me nor did it bother her, but my lack of religion bothers her family. It's pretty F'd up.
Trash talking Android in favor of iOs
If they are mean to servers/waiters and dont clean up a little bit before we leave a restaurant. You could be the nicest and most attractive woman I've ever seen but if we go out to eat and you talk down to the waiters and then just leave with all your dishes and trash scattered without making a pile towards the end of the table to make it easier to clean, then its a no for me
If they use those filters which make their face all pink and put sparkles over them, just turns me off a lot for some reason.
If they have strong preferences for Pepsi over coke or judge people for using home brand etc.
As soon as I notice that person is inconsistent, I value my time and be gone
If I don't like her nose... It's weird, I know, but the nose is one of the first features I notice and it can really ruin the whole face for me. I don't really have a specific nose preference, it's just that some noses don't compliment their face curvatures.
this is a good one, I hate my nose because it’s very hooked & my husband insists it’s great & I should never get it straightened/made smaller, because it’s sooo perfect. Which is hilarious to me because my idea of a perfect nose is a sloped button nose, and he absolutely despises small feminine noses. First time I’ve heard this type of preference, genuinely.
I like a nice big triangular one, the kind that the Japanese draw on racist caricatures of white people; everyone has a preference.
And don't hate your nose, it's been passed down through the generations from your ancestors, it's your birthright goddamnit. A hooked conk is the nose of a Roman emperor, it's the the nose that sailed a thousand ships. Don't let some micronasal fashion tell you that your bloodline is no good, nasal discrimination has no place in 2022 😂
If I haven't befriended her first. I don't try to date every girl I'm friends with, obviously, but I'd really prefer not to date a girl I'm not at least somewhat familiar with socially.
As a blonde, it’s weird to date other blondes. We look like brother and sister. I’m a gentlemen who prefers brunette or raven haired beauties.
My ex had a terrible habit of leaving sharp objects; knives, pins, needles, scissors, etc., on the seats of chairs, and on the stairs (so that she'd remember to bring them upstairs or downstairs. I came very close to getting my ass cut, and things stuck in my feet. The most annoying, was dropping pins into the shag carpet, and not picking them up. I even got a powerful magnet so that she could easily just use that to pick them up, but she still couldn't be bothered. She would leave all the lights on, and leave the house without closing or locking the doors. Also left her car windows open and wound up with flooded interiors numerous times. She was just so careless in so many ways. I would recommend that anyone who wants to get married, to live with them first, to see if you can stand whatever your honey does that might drive you nuts.
Pretty much the reason my last relationship ended. We were together for 6 years but I just couldn't take the carelessness anymore. It got to the point where I started catching him in lies just because he didn't want to be responsible/make any changes. Once I started to suspect him of lying about feeding the dog I mentally checked out
I won’t date someone if they’ll make a sour face at my musical taste/interests. I’d never suppress my passions for anyone
Was going to comment this, music compatibility is everything
Our tastes don’t have to be totally compatible. Just don’t make fun of my taste or act like yours is superior. We can both like our own thing (and show support/enthusiasm every so often for the others interest sometimes).
An obnoxious amount of selfies on her socials
Once went on a date with a guy who poured water on his finished ice cream cups/milkshakes at restaurants to "get the most out of it". Never thought I'd have to add that to the list of things to look out for
Any of that MLM pyramid scheme shit. Fake ass Botox alien face shit. Hard pass
If they like banana runts or if they hate Mexican food
because
Banana runts are legit, and I love Mexican food. So I guess I'm 50/50 on that part. Did you know that "artifical banana" taste that's been utilized to make those, actually came from a strain of banana that is no longer grown, or produced? At one point in time, long, long before either of us existed, that "artificial" banana flavor, was indeed, a banana?
Chemists in labs attempted to recreate the flavor of said extinct banana, and ultimately created the flavor that you taste in laffy taffy, the popsicles, and runts you taste today. Yay Science!
Maybe it's kinda weird/selfish but I wouldnt date someone that never had a job
That’s not weird or selfish. I think it’s safe to say most adults would agree.
I’d totally date a girl who has parents rich enough that she’s never had a job
Feet. I don’t even have a foot fetish. But if I think her feet are ugly I can’t do it.
If I learn they're a loud eater or tend to make noises that trigger my misophonia
Replies with "yea." , "Nice." , "Ok." something like that.
What do you want them to reply with??
She has cheated before. Immediate no. God forgives. I don’t.
I wouldnt call this oddly specific at all LOL. Thats just self respect and common sense.
If they cheated before, they can absolutely do the same to you.
Someone that uses too much self deprecating humor
yeah it gets boring fast
Not as boring me lmao /s
they are too obsessed with their instagram
If she smokes
wouldn't consider that oddly specific, it's a common reason
That! All 4 lips taste terrible!
You paint quite the picture, my friend.
That's true, holy shit i just realized that , all the smokers either had terrible smell or weird taste
I was dating someone who smoked and I can honestly say she did not taste nor smell weird. I miss her so much :( (cannabis btw not tabaco)
Harley Quinn types
If they are obsessed with social media
how she treats servers or any other hospitality worker
I'm all for confidence, but women who are overly confident to the point of being obnoxious and aggressive, is a huge turn off for me.
Like a Queen doesn't need to tell everyone else she's a Queen.
I would never date someone who drove a Dodge truck. Or any Chrysler. Bit would accept a 1996 Grand Cherokee Limited 4x4.
A history of cheating others
She’s into astrology and really believes it
Can't date someone heavily religious. Not that I don't respect religions, just not for me
If she expects others to help pay for things. That includes parents family friends YOU. Financial stability isn't easy, but if I manage I would expect the same from a future partner.
A women that has a realistic budget and sticks to it, is very underrated
A month ago someone posted on Reddit that they were getting paid the next day but didn’t have any food for that day. I volunteered and ordered for them a pizza telling them am struggling too but felt like helping them out. A week later they sent a dm asking if I could order for them some food, I just blocked
Same name as my sisters, mom, grandparents, cousins, aunts. Friends with my ex. She only wears open-toed shoes. And those tiny lil tic tac teeth completely throw me off.
Ok, I know this is for men...so I did abandon the post, but I came back because I just needed to share my deal breaker for any human I intend to invite into my life. They have 50 profile pictures to scroll through, but they are all so alike that it looks like one of those 'a picture each day' videos if you scroll through them. Bonus points for actually having the same one, just with whatever trending causes symbol plastered on top of them. I am just out.
Their voice. Their breath if it’s bad.
If they have poor taste in music. Example: not caring to listen to music, only listens to top 40 radio station, doesn’t expand their musical horizons.
That’s a good one honestly. Like how bland can you be to be listening to just top 40 hits. You’re an adult and haven’t found any other music that peaks your interest? Lol
If your name is the same.as my mom or sisters