i have 2 "thick dots" in my vaginal area, i'm extremely insecure about having sex bc of that, i'm so scared men will find it disgusting, i like to be entirely hairless but sometimes i think of growing a lot of hair just to hide them but i think body hair would be a bigger insecurity so i don't know
how much of a turn off would a birthmark in a girls private parts be?
english is not my first language but a thicker and not as dark "beauty mark" (that's what i hear people calling them in makeup videos lol). they're not like huge, but the size of a pimple
It wouldn’t do a thing for most of us guys honestly. As long as you’re taking care of your hygiene down there that’s all that matters. Anyone who judges you for it is a massive douchebag.
My college girlfriend had a birthmark down there. I always liked it, and would joke that if I ever died and was reincarnated, and came back with my prior life knowledge, mentioning her birthmark would be the one way I would convince her it was me. lol
At that size, I can pretty much guarantee this will not be a problem for 95% of men.
Are they actual bumps or just cosmetic (can see but not feel).
If it’s just a visual thing, I doubt any guy is actually going to care. By the time he gets to see them, he’ll have more important things to look at
If it’s a bump, it may be worth talking to a dermatologist just to be safe. I’ve had a couple on my shoulders&cheat that are “on watch” because they could turn into cancer. But if they aren’t affecting your health? They’re fine to stay.
Can’t speak for everyone, but usually the small changes that make you unique are all part of the charm. If everyone’s was the same, what would make yours any different/better compared anyone else’s? The part that makes it unique to you will be an added value to any guy who actually likes you
Women pick weird things to be insecure about. A) We're not going to be naked with one another for the majority of our time spent together. Not even close. B) So much about relationships is learning that you stay or go based off of how you're treated rather than what you look like. If you're constantly being told how awful you are then you're not staying. The opposite is also true. If you feel valued and appreciated and fulfilled then you're going to love the person who gives you those feelings.
Short answer: don't sweat it.
Longer answer: we care about being around people who accept us. Being someone who accepts others and empathizes with them is going to be far more important than marks on your privates.
As long as it’s not from some disease that I can catch, makes no difference
I don't think a birthmark would bother anyone. Many of us have them so it's no big deal at all.
You’re gonna show me your naked body and I’m gonna complain? Only when hell freezes over. No damn birthmark is any damn turnoff!
This. If a guy is lucky enough to see it at all, he should just say thank you.
Zero
I’ll need to see it to say for sure.
No but, actually this.
Not even in a “show me your vagina” kind of way, I’m just having a hard time imagining what this would even look like much less answering the question.
it's like when people have pimple scars on their face but it's instead in the upper part of the vulva(very far from where you "put it in") they're also not red like pimple scars, but a faded brown instead. i'm very pale so it creates a bit of contrast which makes me very insecure
Honestly, just kinda sounds like big freckles, which a guy might not even notice much less be turned off by.
So like small freckles? Thats cute
bigger than freckles, like the size of an average pearl earring (i think most men won't understand this as reference but its the only thing i could think of hahahaha) (the comments here are actually helping a lot so thank you :)
Yeah, I’m still not sure. Gonna need picture evidence.
Don't be a pig
I do what I want.
I can’t judge something , I can’t see
It's not like it's a hyper realistic image of Matt Lucas, no one will care
Sounds more like a turn on
Trust me if the guy is into you he wont care.
Nope. Adorable tbh
Probably not an issue at all
hygiene is all that really matters. If they're really that noticeable, I might ask you about them, but a freckle/birthmark/beauty mark won't bother me.
Mmm hard to tell, being honest, just in the moment of noticing them the man would know.
If it bothers you that much, you could get rind of them with plastic surgery (if you have the money).
i have tried laser and they faded a bit but the dermatologist said they would never fade entirely :,)
Fuck! Well, nothing to do girl, if you can't solve it accept it and don't think about it more
The man who chooses you and loves you will take you with it.
I honestly really wouldn’t care. I’m still gonna eat that 🐱 out
Not at all a turnoff, I am a dude and have birthmarks too, hell it might even be considered attractive depending on the dude
Can’t say 100% without seeing, but 90% chance not a turnoff at all.
Depends. Does it look like a Swastika or Bobcat Goldthwait?
Wouldn’t bother me
None
If it looks like a pimple it makes sense, go to a dermatologist and they will fix it, if you don’t then you will deal with your insecurity subconsciously for the rest of your life
i have tried laser and they faded a bit but the dermatologist said they won't fade anymore, and yes! i'm trying to cope with them recently :)
Find a different doctor, there are others who will put in more work to get the job done, some are lazy and don’t put in the effort. Almost anything can be done if you believe
Not a turn off at all, and it's not something you should be embarrassed about at all. Though if they are moles, you might get them checked out.
It isn't a turn off, it makes you unique. Sometime in the future you will wish you never felt so bad about it or lost sleep over it. The great thing about most insecurities is that they fade, and someone will show you it was never an issue at all.
Ngl 90% of us don’t even look at the vag during sex. At least I dont
I will not be turning off, can be turn on or sexy as well
There's the theory that birthmarks are injuries suffered in a past life, that's why they always look like knife, gunshot, or some sort of weapon wounds
Freckles, ok big freckles, don’t see that being a problem.
To be fair, I get that there’s concern about how it‘s perceived, but the only thing I think would worry one would be if it altered the form heavily. If it’s just color wise, then the overwhelming majority probably won’t give a shit. If it’s something that alters the form, people may ask questions about what it is. Generally though, I think that a lot can be looked past in a loving relationship and your partner wouldn’t really care as long as it‘s safe and exciting.
Most birthmarks don't resemble any kind of STI.
None
I'm quite sure most people know what birthmarks are.
I doubt it’s as bad as you think
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What does thick dots mean? My ex girlfriend had a birthmark on top of her genitals. Personally I thought of it to be sexy as fuck.