It’s his GF’s grandma’s memorial dinner
Won't go to the service but will go to the free meal, gets pissed that he has to dress appropriately, this man is garbage.
Honestly feel like he should break things off with her if he’s THIS upset about her religion and her and her family’s beliefs
I’m not sure he can even pin this one on religious discomfort – there’s nothing religious about saying “hey, could you please not dress like a slob at this dinner we are having because my grandmother literally died?”
Wow, you're practically the inquisition. This is why people hate religion /s
He'd be doing her a favor.
This isn't about religion, though. It's about courtesy and behaving appropriately for the situation.
Honestly, he’s just using religion here as a shield because he knows Reddit in general doesn’t look fondly upon it. But that fails here, because religion has nothing to do with having enough social awareness to dress up a little nicer to someone’s memorial dinner.
If I were the GF, I'd dump his ass
She said "I wouldn't wear a hoody" and he goes off the deep end with petty BS. She didn't even tell him what to wear.
Dude wanted free food.
You know, when there's free food involved....is it really too much to expect you to dress like a grown up🤷
I have questions about this "small polo shirt." Is it a crop top? Is it skintight?
Yeah, I can't really understand what this means. Is he wearing a shirt that doesn't actually fit to prove a point? I guess it doesn't matter much though since unless his point is "I'm a dick who can't be bothered to show you and your family basic respect" he's bound to fail miserably not matter what 'smallest polo shirt' actually means. I kind of want to mean crop top though...
Ends just above the nipples.
Is it a neon color?
I'm trying to understand what her wearing a blouse has to do with him not being allowed to wear a hoodie🤷♀️
She's asking him to dress nicely.
She’s wearing a nicer top, so he must also wear a nicer top, I’m guessing.
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, tell me what it means to you, OOP?!
Absolutely nothing, apparently
Great, this date can serve as a memorial for her grandma's death and the death of their relationship.
I'm a devout atheist, but I have no problem going to church services such as weddings, memorials, funerals, etc, and generally inquire about the dress code in advance. I mean, it's not like this guy is being asked to convert for the afternoon. Damn.
Likewise. I’d go to those events at churches because I care about my family who do believe. I just keep quiet about my views and enjoy my time there it isn’t that hard. Though it helps that my family never tried to convert me so there’s that as well
I’m the same. Even if my boobs have caused issues in the past… big boobs plus buttons are not a fun time, but I do know how to dress up a semi formal shirt for a formal event now thanks to a religious friend of mine.
Like it won’t kill someone to dress up and be respectful for a partner and their family.
It's weird how he chose this hill to die on. Like my husband doesn't go to church or even dress up 99% of the time, but when it's an event that requires a step up from his normal, he does it without complaint. He's as church avoidant as they come, but when I had a 3 day festival I was doing at a church, he was there with me and even dressed up, despite me telling him that just changing from his work tshirt would be fine.
This guy has made me so angry. I miss both of my grandmothers so much right now.
I barely have no time. Stay in school kids.
" no one is telling me what to wear"
Have fun getting fired from your future jobs!
Anyone else remember that one where the OP couldn't get her boyfriend (and they were like 35-40), to even wear a collared shirt to her sister's wedding?
It was supposed to be like a suit and tie, but he wanted to wear old work pants
And people in the comments were on HIS side
It was maddening. Because it's his style! Society is dumb!!
This! OP has strong "I Threw it on the Ground!" energy.
I may not be religious and despise organized religion with a passion. But at least I am respectful enough to follow dress code and not take an attitude.
She should have just dumped him and been all “Bye bitch!”
This!! If I break the rules, it’s not because I’m out there trying to be rude.
Also, the religious stuff was over. This was a dinner, which OP — had he been thinking with either one of his heads in their entirety — could have easily separated from all the religious stuff and been seen as an opportunity to get in good with the rest of the family.
But no. He had to be a jackass and book that one-way ticket to dumpsville.
The exams are in 10 days. Wear A damn shirt !
She should have told him to stay home and then dumped his ass.
With the way this guy writes I’d say he really down need time to study. Maybe she’ll break up with him and he can use the free time to learn basic English.
Is the exam the Bar? if it is, stay home and study. If it's not, it's not important enough to act like a shithead over
I'm pretty sure this 2head of a human isn't studying anything deep 🤡
I don't normally agree with dress codes, but the one exception I make is for funerals and memorial services.
It wasn't either of those, it was dinner, but obviously a place that needed a nicer dress code.
Yes, but a dinner to remember her grandma. Which I count as a memorial.
"I disrespect my girlfriend's family because they dare to belive in a god whose existence literally cannot be proven or disproven, because I have education and I'm better than them"
It's screams dude who finished an easy kind of stem degrees and is still stuck in his first year of college. Still in the phase of being rebellious against their parents religion. Those dudes conveniently forget how most of the big discoveries were done by religious people, back in the day often even priests.
Wow. Hope GF runs for the hills before his behavior escalates.
And I find it hilarious that he needs to study for exams, yet is barely literate.
Pity nobody has ever explained to him that a man in a well fitting suit can be dead sexy.
I would show up in pajamas at the next occasion he wanted me to dress up.
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He's not an asshole for skipping church. He IS an asshole for his overall intolerant and ironically holier than thou attitude towards religion. He's also an asshole for acting like dressing up for an important family dinner is infringing on his rights or some shit.
OOP, this was to honor her late grandmother.
Not to cater to your selfish pride and ego
In case this story gets deleted/removed:
AITA for feeling disturbed by my gf for telling me how to dress up
I (20M) have a wonderful relationship with my gf (20F) and her family. We’ve been dating for more than a year and I’m deeply in love with her. However, she comes from a very religious family, which collides with my education and way of seeing the world.
Today, all her family went to church as it has been one year from her grandma’s passing. I didn’t have neither the time (as I have my final exams in 10 days) nor the mood (as I completely hate this environment, idgaf and she knows the reasons I’m not going so there is no problem with that). Later they went to have dinner and I was also invited.
The problem comes when she insinuates me that I should dress up properly for the occasion. She said “I would not wear a hoodie” as she was wearing a blouse. I felt so mad that she was telling me the way I should dress up even though I’m making her the favor of going as I barely have no time. I dressed up with the smallest polo shirt I have as no one is telling me what to wear.
I have not been rude to her but I must recognize I’m quite angry with the situation and I may tell her something tomorrow. I asked a friend of mine and he said I was being unreasonable. So, AITA?
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