Let me start by saying that I (F) met my now Husband (M) "Jim" 2 years ago and I can't express how much he means to me. He's kind, generous, and quite sensitive which, could sometimes be an issue as he'd perceive some of my actions the wrong way. I love him so much and I think he deserves to be happy but it seems like grief had consumed him for years especially after losing 16 yo daughter Maggie to suicide. I don't know mucb about his past or what had happened. All I know is that his late wife passed away when Maggie was little and Jim struggled as a single parent. He said Maggie was depressed and suicidal and would cut her wrist several times and wear a bracelet to hide the cuts. He struggled a lot after her death and even blamed himself saying he didn't do enough to help her. He'd keep her bracelet literally sitting on the bedside lamp. He said he put it there to remind him of how much of a terrible father he was. Which I thought was unfair to him since it was obvious he did all he could and he was being too hard on himself to the point where I thought he was mentally torturing himself with that bracelet. If he's happy, his joy would disappear when he saw the bracelet. If he was excited for something, his smile would disappear once his looked at the bracelet. I suggested he put it in a box and leave it in thd closet but he refused. I stop talking to him about it after he told me to stop.
Rdcently, I found out I'm pregnant. Jim was overjoyed and wanted to host a celebration. Later that night I found him looking upset and was completely derived of any joy because he was once again staring at the bracelet. I knew how much he was hurting although he didn't open his mouth and say a single word. I figured that that bracelet was doing more harm than good. It wasnot helping him, it was not letting him move on and enjoy life and it affected me as well. And honestly, I was afraid thix would go on for years and my children would get caught up in this and think that their dad was abusive or something. I decided to throw it out. It was hard but I had to do it. I wanted him to get healed properly instead of tortuting himself but his reaction was not even close to what I had anticipated. He yelled, screamed, cussed, and said that I twisted the knife and caused him more pain and suffering. He called me awful and stormed out of the house after saying I errased an important memory of his daughter but really, that memory was bad and harmful to his mental health. It was awful that he couldn't understand my motive now he's stonewalling me and refusing to come home. My family is divided on this, some say I overstepped and that he would move on on his own time, some say I did the right thing for him and out marriage/future children.
AITAH?