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What did he do with his dog before you moved in? What does the dog do when you are employed?
Now he has been with a guy for years who loves dogs and instead of one that he had when he was with me, they have seven doggos. We are good friends now.
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Oh dear god. This happened 10 years ago. I was working the whole time. I got jobless after moving away. Wtf did not remember correctly when I was writing this.
I was asked to take care of the dog after and before my own job and my free days. He owned floral shop near our apartment and had really long days.
Have you thought about letting Drake watch the dog?
And this is why I only ever date guys who love dogs.
Well I am more a cat person. We were not a match made in heaven. I am happy though that we work so much better as friends. He has now a partner who loves dogs and they are so good together. We have maintained a really good relationship after having some soul searching.
YTA even though you might have had an agreement it changed when you were jobless so it's not like you were doing anything so it's the least you could have done. I will give you credit for not being a monster and taking care of the dog. If you still had a job then my rating would be different.
I actually had a job before I moved out. Still I was needed and asked to take care of the dog when I had a job 20km further away when he was working 30m away from home.
In fairness your stated it "suddenly became your responsibility when you became jobless" which implies that it's when it occurred. So while you were working then NTA but when you were jobless which is what my rating is based on then you would be.
What really annoyed me was that he was having a florist shop 30 meters from home and we made certain deals because he was working right next to our apartment.
Apparently you two were not compatible, so it's good it ended.
Yes, we were not compatible. Now we are really good friends though.
NTA if you ask me. Hope you learned a lesson though.
I did. Never again went to a relationship only for wanting to get some marker posts I had not gotten before. As I said, I was young and stupid.
YTA… I’m always suspicious of people that don’t like dogs. You weren’t even doing anything but sitting on your ass at home. You’re lazy.
Oh dear god. This happened 10 years ago. I was working the whole time. I got jobless after moving away. Wtf did not remember correctly when I was writing this.
I was asked to take care of the dog after and before my own job and my free days. He owned floral shop near our apartment and had really long days.
I was about to aim at you until you wrote that you did, in fact, take care of the dog. But nevertheless, NTA because you had an agreement with him, he should have found a way to make sure the dog is managed when he isn't there all day.
It annoys me, that he was working 30m from home. He had every chance to take care of the dog every day. It just annoyed him so he made it my problem even though we made a different kind of agreement.
YTA for being another bitter and unempathetic Redditor. YTA.
Yes. YTA. You weren’t working, the least you could do is take the poor dog outside. I hope your STBX has learned to find someone who also likes dogs.
Ah sorry my text was incorrect. Here is edit:
Oh dear god. This happened 10 years ago. I was working the whole time. I got jobless after moving away. Wtf did not remember correctly when I was writing this.
I was asked to take care of the dog after and before my own job and my free days. He owned floral shop near our apartment and had really long days.
I did take care of the dog.
YTA. Lol jobless and sitting around all day while your bf works and you can't take the dog out a couple times a day. Dogs are awesome! You are not.
Ah sorry my text was incorrect. Here is edit:
Oh dear god. This happened 10 years ago. I was working the whole time. I got jobless after moving away. Wtf did not remember correctly when I was writing this.
I was asked to take care of the dog after and before my own job and my free days. He owned floral shop near our apartment and had really long days.
The dog > you
Yes I know, it was a really good dog.
NTA.
Went to that he said that I should have known that the dog will be our boths responsibility that I was stupid thinking otherwise.
I could say the same thing about him. He should have known that you would break up with him when he forced you to take care of the dog.
These kind of things only work much later.
We actually broke up because he cheated on me during the whole relationship. Dog was one of the nicest part of the relationship.
Ha ha, a tiny bit maybe but no, not really. As relationships deepen you have to compromise to fit in each other's lives and make it work. Hard one-sided rules sometimes have to fall and he needed someone in his life who could help him have his job, and a dog, even if he was willing to try not to at the beginning because he thought you were cute or whatever! Anyway you didn't want that and the relationship didn't work out, you'd made it clear at the outset so you hadn't been an asshole and the fact everyone is still friends is the result of that. He might have been a tiny bit assholeish in pushing against your red lines, you might have been a tiny bit assholeish in not being able to move your red line, but it's all within the everyday range of the asshole spectrum