AITAH for trying to give my bf “pointers” in bed?

NTA. Giving him pointers and telling him how to please you is not bossy. It's good communication and leads to better sex.

NTA.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with communicating your sexual preferences to allow for an enjoyable experience for all.

Soundin like he grew up in a pretty conservative household where the "man" has to be the one to take charge and lead the way so he's feeling threatened by you and your experience. If you still like him, I'd have a conversation with him about the way he blew up over something so trivial like having condoms and your sexual experience because he should be thankful someone even wants to sleep with him.

And don't let him convince you to think you were "bossing" him around. Proper communication on how to pleasure you is not bossing around. He's 25, he's too dam old to be that immature.

NTA You didn’t do anything wrong. He’s clearly feeling insecure. I’m sorry that went down like that.

NTA.

1. It’s absolutely fine for a woman to have condoms. No one bats an eyelid when guys carry them. So this is a non issue.

2. Giving him pointers isn’t saying he’s shit, it’s saying what you prefer.

3. Being on the earth 5 years longer than you, he probably assumes he’s more experienced than you and maybe he’s intimidated by it or about performing.

Either way, you’re NTA and he just needs to be a bit more mature about the situation.

He went to the military, not college. He literally does not understand you just having condoms laying around because places that are not college do not hand out free condoms. 

Everyone's body is different and everyone likes something a little bit different in bed. He could have had 30 partners before you and still needed tips bc you're a unique person who enjoys her own things.

He's just being a whiney insecure baby. I think he should be thrilled that you know your body well enough to know what you like, and are comfortable communicating that to him.

If this ends the relationship, let him go. You don't need to worry about soothing his ego instead of enjoying sex with your partner.

If a woman is sexually active it is good practice for her to have condoms accessible. Some men use the “I don’t have a condom” as a sneaky way to get unprotected sex because it feels better for them and they care more about their pleasure than your safety. He could have really been mad about that plan not working rather than what he said he was mad about. Also such selfish self-centred men can be quite narcissistic and don’t want to putting in work to learn how to increase their partners pleasure. I’m not saying that’s the case for certain but just be aware that this could be a possibility. It would be wise to examine your relationship with clear eyes and watch for red flags.

One of the things you realize as you get older is the attractive ones are usually the worst at sex (and have the worst senses of humor and personalities), because they don't need to develop these things, they get attention regardless.

Dude. Run. Military men like that are scary.

1. It's not rude to ask for what you want
2. Telling him how you like to be kissed or touched is a good thing. Everyone has different preferences, he can't know yours unless you tell him.
3. His behaviour makes him the asshole.

NTA. Hell, I learned a lot from my late wife during the first years of our marriage. :-)

NTA. The condoms aren’t the issue here. His irrational reaction to them absolutely is. First of all, the key to good sex is communication. Communicating what you like, what you don’t like. That’s not bossy, that’s building and strengthening a connection for mutual pleasure. Secondly, he was angry at you for being “more experienced” which is just such a huge red flag. And lastly, when you tried to explain he just slammed out instead of listening.

Listen, OP, I don’t want to overly “big sister” you here. But you’re so young. You’ve only been dating this guy for five months, and he just slut shamed you and threw a tantrum while refusing to listen to your explanation. And you’re not even having good sex? Girl. If you really like him, you need to have a serious talk about this behavior.

Also. Good on you for having protection on hand. If you plan on having sex, you should have protection. And he’s old enough to know that.

NTA- my partner BEGS me to tell him what to do. He LOVES being ordered around and he is very invested in my pleasure. He wants me to tell him if he can do it better, because that makes it better for both of us!

He did you a favor- the reason he sucks in bed is that he can’t handle feedback, which is a natural part of a sexual relationship. Seems like there also may be a reason why he is so inexperienced also.

So many red flags. The trash took itself out. You don’t need a man who is hot and sexy and insecure.

NTA. Dump him. You don't need to put up with this nonsense. If he doesn't want you to be experienced and sex-positive, then he doesn't like who you are. You should always be able to tell your partner what you want.

He's clearly feeling a bit insecure about his lack of experience. I think giving instruction, when you hadn't previously, immediately after he made that confession probably solidified those insecurities. Next thing you know, here is, in his already in-panic-mode mind, further proof of your greater experience, by way of the condoms.

I think it probably would have been wiser to lead with a preamble of some sort.

You’re NTA. Him being young in the military means he heard the stories of people getting around. Most of us didn’t have the college experience because we joined the military at a young age. You giving him pointers is really just your way of telling him what works for you. Not every woman’s likes are the same. I don’t think you didn’t anything wrong. I would try to explain that the college gives out condoms like candy.

NTA also having condoms in the house when you are sexually active is normal and a VERY good idea. And he cannot possibly be suprised that you have sex, considering he is the one you have sex with.

If it happened the way you explain which I can only assume it is. Then as a guy I would be pretty stoked about it especially with the reinforcement afterwards that I followed through well. Dudes got some insecurity issues it sounds like.

NTA. Wtf? Lol! He’s such a drama king.

Bottom line: he’s insecure that he can’t lay pipe so great just yet, but that’s totally ok! Not your fault, and you did nothing wrong, hon.

Don’t call or chase him down. Just lay in the cut and let him come back with his tail between his legs. He will, and then, after you receive his apology, you both can work on your sex comms.

NTA - I think I know why he's bad at sex.

You are NTA. I have been in the military for over 7 years and having condoms could means you have a lot of partners. I think that this is a misunderstanding, and he is feeling a bit insecure because he is young. Just let him know that you he is good in bed for you (if that is true) and that you were just telling him something you like and perhaps ask him what he would like.

NTA

This man is not worth it. If he's upset that you had condoms and communicated things you enjoy during sex, he's too insecure and underdeveloped to be in a relationship.

Also, being a military guy isn't ALWAYS an AUTOMATIC deal breaker, but it should definitely raise a red flag for you. The military attracts certain kinds of men, and puts them in certain kinds of environments, which usually results in a physically strong, emotionally unstable, aggressive person, often with weird authority complexes, who doesn't know how to manage his big emotions.

Ya know, kind of like having an outburst over your girlfriend having a condom.

Lots of sensitive little incels on this post.

NTA. Telling him what you want is a good thing.

NTA, you’re telling him what you like - if he doesn’t want to hear that then why is he having sex with you? Honestly just sounds like he thought by not bringing a Condom he’d be able to get away with not wearing one and when he saw you had some there he got insecure about it

I've been married forever, and occasionally we both will say, "I would like to try it this way." Old people have sex and, as bodies change, so does sex. A good partner listens. You're def NTA.

NTA.

I'm twice your age, and I've known a lot of women who don't communicate their needs. So many women don't know how to orgasm. I'm impressed! And you're only 20!

DO NOT change the way that you are!!

This is a him problem

NTA- honestly it’s a orange flag that he hasn’t asked you what you like in bed and a huge red flag that his reaction is to throw a hissy fit 

Homie is insecure af

NTA. He is insecure. That's on him. You communicated what you wanted, asked what he wanted. And it's responsible for you to have condoms!! You are a sexually active adult in a relationship. You shouldn't rely on your partner for protection. It's good to make sure.

I like when a girl lets me know what she likes and how she likes it. It's kinda of a turn on.

He sounds very insecure and immature. Reminds me of my ex who when I tried to give him pointers on what I liked told me to shut up and let him “pleasure me.” Yeah that relationship didn’t last.

Sounds like he’s insecure because communicating in bed about sex is important and there’s nothing wrong with it.

NTA, but you might want to stop having sex with children.

NTA - bro is just insecure. Hopefully he apologizes for how HE acted. As an aside, I would and appreciate when a woman lets me know what she likes and doesn’t like. You can be the most experienced person sexually in the world, but everyone’s body is unique to them. So maybe how you touched some previously doesn’t illicit the same response. Please don’t let this behavior to continue, he will not learn if you don’t set up boundaries and hold firm to them. It’s okay to be insecure, but it’s not okay to treat you like shit because he is insecure.

26 year old man being so sexually insecure that he can't let his ego go long enough for the woman he's having sex with to work through it with him.

Classic.

This guy thinks the clitoris is the name of a dinosaur and that's your fault OP.

It sounds to me like he didn't hear the things you have said in the same way you think you said them.

This is likely 6 and half a dozen tbh.

Communication is key. Not just talking but talking to be understood, not just listening to respond but hearing and understanding.

NTA. He's an insecure jerk who'd rather blow up at you than ask a simple question.

Could he just be butthurt because he wanted to have sex without a condom and his plan was foiled? Dude has issues. None of that is your fault. NTA don't excuse his childish behaviour

NTA. He didn’t storm out because you did anything wrong. He is an abusive person and this is only the beginning if the relationship continues.

Nta. Communication of likes and dislikes is important. Also feel free to share any suggestions.

Sounds like he’s not mature enough yet for open communication. Sucks for him because open communication during sex is soooo hot. Hopefully he grows up soon. You’re NTA! You did good OP. He just needs to get out of his head a bit.

NTA. Most guys appreciate pointers. Especially since all women are different. A good lover will actually ask you what you like and ask for feedback.

NTA men honestly have it rougher than woman when it comes to sex. Men are brought up thinking they should just KNOW how to do sex (yes I meant it to sound weird for some comedy). And every woman is different, what works for one, won’t work for another. Men have to learn you can’t just flop on top of someone and expect praise, just like women need to learn to not be starfish.

NTA - sounds like his ego is getting in the way. Unless you were straight up like you suck at this, then you’re in no way the AH. He needs to grow up a bit and take criticism better. It’ll only benefit him lol

NTA. You wanted to have better sex with your boyfriend. You’d be the asshole if you just said something like “you’re crap at this” and broke up. He’s probably insecure (which I totally get) but it’s no excuse

Absolutely NTAH, communication is fundamental in relationships, both sexual and emotionally.

Nta. You communicated what you wanted which is healthy. Wish more people did this. He was just feeling insecure and got in his own head.

He’s just being insecure and lashing out. You’re fine. Let him cool off. NTA.

NTA, he stormed out because he's insecure and felt like you must be more experienced if you are a girl with condoms.

Nope. I love pointers. How else can I do my job the best possible!?

I'd rather hear what I could do better than nothing at all

First off YOU did nothing wrong. You were practicing safe sex and having an open and honest conversation about sex with your partner. If he isn't mature enough to handle that, then you should move on if talking about it with him doesn't help.

As prior military I will say we are very quick to fly off the handle. He may not have even been that upset about the condom situation, he could have been mad about something else, and THAT was the thing that triggered him, if that makes sense..

Try talking to him again after he's had a chance to cool off, and if he is still wanting to act immature about it, then let him know that you need someone in your life who you can have mature adult conversations with and not a man child. He's 25, he needs to grow up.

There is nothing more valuable in one's sex life than a partner willing to communicate what they like. Especially with women, it's not as common as it should be. If your bf is a problem with it, he's a self centered prick.

NTA. But I enjoy it when my lady tells me what she wants

NTA. You did nothing wrong. He's self conscious and not handling the situation maturely.

NTA:

If my SO told me hey do this or that, I’d be like okay sweet thank you for telling me a way that will 100% get you off.

This guy is letting his insecurities make him act stupid. This is chance to see if he can put ego aside, man up, and apologize for making it out to be your fault he’s insecure. Like the insecurities are valid, he’s probably wicked attracted to you, and I’m sure it’s stressful. You don’t go acting that way over it though.

NTA nothing wrong with saying what you like. Everyone is different, everyone like different things. You were nice enough to ask him too. And there is definitely nothing at all wrong with protection.

The Maturity for a 26-year old military person,cannot be compared to a 26-year old man, if you are invested in this relationship, reach out and have a honest conversation, your choice, your young, just enjoy your life

Oh, girlfriend. Young men have fragile egos. Next time consider instead of saying "do this/that", say "it's so hot when you do this/that". Having a few condoms on hand? "I wanted to make sure nothing would stop us when you get me so hot so I got a few to have around in case we ran out". NTA!

Insecure boyfriend

NTA feedback is how you learn other people’s bodies because everyone is different. Sounds like he may not be mature enough to have a sexual relationship right now.

NTA. The boy is insecure. That’s his problem, not yours. Directing your partner in intimacy about what you want and need is the right thing to do.

NTA. There are basically two kinds of men when it comes to sex pointers from their partner:

1. The kind that get all insecure and angry and don’t want to hear any feedback other than “you are a sex god and have the biggest dick I have ever seen.” Their ego only gets fed by flattering lies. These guys are, naturally, terrible at sex.

2. The kind that think “great, she’s giving me cheat codes on how to get her off” and make a note of everything you say so they can be sure to do it. Their ego gets fed by giving you orgasms, so no matter how they started out they will eventually get very good at having sex with you because they’re paying attention.

You’ve got one of the former, so you need to decide now if his good qualities will outweigh a lot of mediocre sex.

NTA the difference between a boy/guy and a man is that men don't mind any amount of guidance. Boys think it is mocking their bed abilities.

I’ve begged my wife to please tell me what I can do to improve once in a while (not to the point of nagging or anything). She won’t tell me anything because “that’s not romantic”. So personally I’d be all over an occasional pointer.

Did he pick a 20 year old because he wanted a woman with less experience?

NTA

You've been sexually active with this guy for two months at that point it wouldn't matter if your campus gave out condoms it would be perfectly normal for you, as someone who is sexually with a man, to have condoms.

You've known this guy for five months so whether or not you think this event is something that can be salvaged is up to you, but he owes you an apology and you very much do not.

I am sympathetic to people being uncomfortable being the less experienced partner, but having experience is not something you should be angry at your partner for.

It's important to communicate with your partner what feels good and you don't even need a partner to learn what feels good, regardless, being upset that your partner is telling you what feels good is kind of an ass move.

I feel like he either wanted to have sex without a condom or he has some insecurity about unfaithfulness that he isn't voicing because this is just odd behavior.

I have no issues with someone In with guiding me on what they like. What's not to like about that?

Married for 25 years. Only reason I would be mad is because she waited so long to tell me. When we first got married I made sure we could talk easily about it because sex is for both of us to enjoy.

NTA. Lol, this man got mad because you told him how to get you off?? Dude has no clue how fortunate he is. A lot of young women are afraid to speak up, fearing this exact reaction, and their partners are surprised 2 years later when they find out their gf told her friends the sex isn't good. Those posts are all over reddit, in fact.

I'm way older than you, very happily married, and extremely satisfied with my active sex life because my husband takes direction well.

You telling him what you like is not indicative of your experience, wtf? That's like saying he must be experienced because he told you to play with his balls.

Dude sounds insecure af. Please don't stop directing men on how to get you off. It'll take them FOR-EV-ER to figure it out on their own because every woman is different.

His ego must be very weak. You dodged a bullet. You don’t need a guy who is bad in bed!!

You being "bossy" isn't the issue.
It's the condoms.
Give him a tour of your college, pointing out all the places that they are giving out condoms for free.
Also, maybe point out to him that if he keeps forgetting to bring condoms, then you'll never be having sex, so your "stockpile" is good for both of you.

You didn’t do anything wrong, communicating to your partner about what you like in bed is actually extremely healthy. It sounds like he has a very fragile Ego, he got his ego bruised by you giving him instruction. He openly expressed he was upset because you are more experienced than him, it triggered his inner insecurities. I would try to find someone with more emotional maturity and also someone who is secure with themselves.

NTA. I for one always appreciate when a woman I'm intimate with gives me pointers. Makes it better across the board

Heck no girl. I wish a lady would tell me how she likes it. I’d do it immediately

Red flag. Anyone who is engaging sexually with someone and gets MAD that they have protection available is the AH.

Oof. Guy is untenably insecure and thinks lashing out is preferable to being open and vulnerable and using his words like the adult he is. You’re having sex, there should be no taboo around discussing the sex you’re having…all while remaining calm and relaxed at all times. Not a high bar to clear.

NTA

If you don’t have a kid, why was he surprised you know about and have condoms, and know how to use them? NTAH

A little navigation help doesn't hurt. It's more fun.

Huge red flag. Has that "Man is in control, woman should like whatever she gets" attitude. Sharing tips from past experiences is so exciting. I'd find a more willing and/or experienced partner.

He seems too immature to have a sexual relationship with a woman. He didn't have condoms on him, you had them handy. He should be thanking you that he can now go balls deep protected, instead of not having sex at all without a condom.

Dude is a chud.

NTA there's nothing wrong with you being a little more experienced or happening to have condoms. He just has issues, if he doesn't realize it's his issue and apologize huge red flag.

NTA, but if this is how he treats minor problems instead of communicating... red flag.

NTA - you did nothing wrong. He didn’t bring a condom and you had one. Did he think you were ok without him using one? Bossy? Does he not want to please you? You can do better than this AH, no wonder he has little experience.

He's insecure about his lack of sexual experience/skill/ability to please a partner, was uncomfortable with the way you instructed him (because it brought up his insecurities and felt like criticism), and he thinks you're a ho because you had condoms and know how to help put one on (not that it's rocket science). Plus, he didn't have a condom, so being unprepared may have been embarrassing.

He stormed out because he's emotionally immature. His issues may be a lot more than just a lack of experience in bed. Doesn't sound like he's ready for a lover.

Sorry that happened.

NTA

You did nothing wrong he's just let his insecurities about his lack of experience get to him. Let him calm down and when he's realised he over reacted over nothing he'll likely reach out to you, hopefully to apologise. Don't beat yourself up over nothing.

NTA. To this man, sex is about fluffing up his own ego and not about satisfying you. He needs to work on being less prideful and being a better partner. Maybe he's too immature for that but give him some time and see.

Don't apologize for trying to get off when you're having sex. That's the whole point and it makes a relationship much better. If he has an issue with you wanting to have sex and being prepared, that's something he needs to work on. Don't apologize for failing to be a 15 year old virgin who doesn't have any idea what they want in bed.

NTA

He stormed out because he's a deeply insecure man who's worried about how much sex you've had. Not something you can fix.

For my part, a partner who can help me learn to please her and isn't hopeless and afraid of sex is a good thing. Taking pointers is good for him, too. The more he can "follow directions" and please you, the more likely you'll want to have sex more.

Nta. Being in an adult relationship, it's important to communicate what you like and don't like. You deserve to finish just as much as him. Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

Girl, he's an insecure jerk wad. NTA. You don't have to deal with his complexes.

Not the asshole. And a dude who isn't interesting in hearing how he can give you the best experience possible isn't worth keeping around. "My pride stops me from making my girlfriend cum" has to be the dumbest hill to die on in the world, but some dudes choose it.

NTA. Clearly insecure

You’re awesome for openly expressing what you enjoy and want.

Guy is insecure.

NTA. Telling your partner what feels good is good communication. His response shows that he isn't mature enough for this kind of relationship.

NTA sounds like you were open and communicative with him. And if you're in a sexual relationship with him, you SHOULD have condoms available.

NTA

Ew. Ew. Ew. Cut him loose.

I bet he goes younger next time.

Oh you did nothing wrong, he just felt a little insecure about you being more experienced than him, that's all.

Just give me him some time to cool off and then sit down and talk to him, tell him how little you care about how much or little experienced he is in bed, you just wanted to be helpful and you were just giving him suggestions rather than orders but you're sorry that he felt bossed around and it wasn't the plan, you just want to have a good time with him.

NTA. What’s the saying? “Happy wife. Happy life.” Applies to GF’s as well.

NTA. He sounds insecure and he’s taking it out on you. You should be able to communicate with your partner during sex to make things better for both of you.

NTA. But also still worth taking his feelings into account for whatever prompted his response. Find a good time to talk with him when he’s in a good head space in a neutral, non sexual location.

NTA. He is just being insecured and prolly assumes from the condoms you have tons of experience. I'm guessing cuz he didn't go to post secondary he doesn't realize how many free condoms are available

No good communication is absolutely necessary in a sexual relationship

NTA, and he is a COMPLETELY immature idiot. You didn't do ANYTHING wrong. You did EXACTLY what you're supposed to do. EXACTLY.

I just read something about how women "giving directions" to men is like the thing they LOVE the MOST. They WANT to know how to please you. You're SUPPOSED to tell him what to do.

Please.... the next guy you're with... do EXACTLY what you did with him. It's 100% what you're SUPPOSED to do. Do this with EVERY guy.

Trust me... if you don't, you will regret it. If you let him think he's getting you off when he's not, you are in for a lifetime of disappointment and unsatisfactory sex. And if you ever dare to speak up at some later point, then he'll be mad at you for not speaking up sooner and letting him think he was doing it right.

You did NOT do ANYTHING wrong. He stormed out because he's a pathetic baby.

You have your own protection - you're supposed to. You speak up for yourself and communicate what you want - you're supposed to.

YOU DODGED A BULLET. HE'S 100% IN THE WRONG. And you are LUCKY he left. Don't reach out, don't text him back. Block him. Consider this chapter closed. Move on, find an actual mature adult to have sex with.

Definitely not the AH but as a guy we definitely struggle with the insecurity of being the best you’ve had. It’s a pride thing. He took it too far and should’ve talked to you about it instead of just leaving you there. I am by no means making excuses for the guy but just wanted to give insight from a guy.

DEFINITELY NTA. You did nothing wrong. Holy cow, his insecurity is showing.

From there, two things, right?

1. Insecurity isn’t a good thing, and he didn’t behave well. At the same time, humans ARE sometimes insecure. Me! You! Everyone. So, there’s a question you might ask: is he always like this? Or is this rare/unusual/has he apologized?

2. If he’s generally a good boyfriend, and this insecurity is unusual, he apologizes, etc., maybe stay with him and move on. If this seems like it’s actually the start of him showing you who he is, I’d probably leave.

NTA. It's just his ego it seems like you both have a good relationship i think he just got overwhelmed. He feels he's not good enough. It has nothing to do with you, really. Just let him know he is good at what he does be supportive. It will pass im sure. Good luck

Oh man… this sucks. OP. You’re 100% NTA. You were like the exact opposite of a TA. Neither is he, really, but damn, that’s one sensitive dude. Don’t sweat it, whatever BS he built up in his head will fall apart and he’ll come around. If you want him to. If you do, just be you, stay kind and chill, y’all gonna be alright. Maybe even share a laugh about it later down the road. But if that’s all too much for you, it’s totally understandable. Just let him down easy

NAH. You have a right to ask for what you want, but it’s not hard for a request to sound like a criticism. Tone is always important here, talking with him while you’re both clothed is probably the best way to figure out how he wants to get these requests. Not to be crass, but a line like “If you do x I’m going to cum so hard” will get me to do just about anything with a smile on my face.

NTA

He has clearly got in his head about the advice you gave him, and probably feels really insecure about it. Just talk to him about it when he's chilled out, it will probably help to let him know how great certain things he does are (don't lie, but just point out the positives).

NTA… you don’t have to remain unfulfilled to assuage his man feel-feels. Adults, no matter the experience level, communicate sexual likes/dislikes/kinks and it’s an ongoing conversation. Shooot, we’ve been married 19 years and just last night, I told my husband he can do something to me and I asked if there’s anything he wants me to try on him. You know what he didn’t do? He didn’t tantrum like a manchild and start slamming doors. You’re physically younger than him, but he’s the one who has a lot of growing up to do.

NTA at all! Regardless of how experienced a person is, everyone has their own preferences for sex. Your “pointers” sound like the basic communication that everyone should feel comfortable doing with their partner. Likewise, anyone who is going to be having sex should have contraception/STI protection on hand (assuming they’re not in a long term committed relationship and trying to get pregnant.) Your boyfriend sounds deeply insecure over your very reasonable and responsible approach to sex.

Sounds like his ego got bruised because you were giving him advice.

There are some men that freak out at that. It's honestly frustrating. If your partner is giving you help in bed, take the advice and stop freaking out.

And you did nothing wrong.

NTA. He has boundary issues and no respect for yours. Good riddance. Move on to someone that respects your wishes, and you!

NTA. I'd say the guy is a bit insecure. Hey you were communicating with them and telling him what you liked and how to improve things you said he seemed to take it well but maybe not and then I guess he got turned off because you had condoms oh no a responsible woman who has birth control in her apartment. Was he expecting to have sex without a condom? In any case you dodge the bullet don't worry about him and move on.

NTAH. This issue is his. His experience being what it is compels him to feel a certain way about himself. This is not about you. Personally, I like feedback and pointers... All pizza is the same only different.

No, I make sure to ask my girlfriend what exactly she wants and how she wants me to do it so that I get to know my partner and she gets to come every time he should be doing his best to get to know your body and what you like so that he doesn’t need pointersI assure my woman that her telling me how to do it will not offend me because I want her to finish before all the time

Your the gf from heaven for giving pointers and dont ever stop no matter how insecure immature guys feel! Hes the AH for not realizing how easy ur making it for him. He just wants to feel manly by thinking he can do it all himself without any guidance. Idiot doesnt realize every woman is different and gets off differently.

Nah. Not even reading the whole thing. Men need direction if it’s respectful

You are equal in experience but not education. You have the upper hand because you are willing to learn and teach. It was mediocre and only would have gone down hill from there. Im sorry.

He stormed out because he is not only insecure, he is immature. He is projecting his insecurity on you and looking for excuses to be mad because god forbid he learn how to communicate.

NTA, He stormed out cuz he is an insecure little baby.

NTA Bf is insecure and immature. Hope he’s worth the effort it takes to help him grow up

it has nothing to do with the pointers. he thinks you have the condoms because you are hooking up with others. that's why he blew up about the other stuff.

NTA. He sounds a bit insecure.

NTA. You're just giving him pointers and it's a good thing imo. He seems like a good person and you guys need to sit and have a convo together to sort things out. Just do that and things would work out between you two i guess.

NTA he’s insecure and acting like a baby. You weren’t bossing him around, you were openly communicating with him like a mature adult would. That’s how you find out each other’s likes and dislikes. It’s how you make sex better for each other. He’s acting like a child.

if he doesn’t apologise for how he acted (storming out) then i wouldn’t bother with him anymore. I think it’s perfectly fine for him to communicate to you (nicely) that he feels self conscious about you giving him instructions, but storming out is ridiculous

Ki them

Sometimes in life you can do nothing wrong and still get hurt. He made up ideas in his own head about what it meant that you had condoms readily available, and what it meant that you tried to give him some direction to make things more fun for both of you. That is what got him upset and what got you hurt.

NTA. He stormed out because he hurt his own damn feelings. If you can’t feel safe communicating what does and does not feel good during sex, which changes for everyone because everyone likes things a little differently, then sex can never improve with your current partner. And on top of that, if you can’t communicate something as simple as that without him deciding it’s an attack on his character or ability, then you won’t be able to communicate freely about bigger issues in the relationship either, and the whole thing is ultimately headed for disaster eventually. Let him go.