update : https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/CRr0lvd6OY
I (F, 29) have been with my boyfriend (M, 44) for the last 6 years. We just bought our first house together. We both have stable jobs. He told me from our first date that he despises kids! He hates them and doesn’t want to have a baby! Ever! I accepted that. I asked him if he was planning to get a vasectomy, and he said he would eventually. He never did. My doctor changed my birth control pills. I told him that the doctor advised using condoms for a few cycles. He said he knew what he was doing and he knows when to pull out, and I shouldn’t be worried. Well... I found out I’m pregnant. I told him, and he got so upset. He said he needed a few days to think and went away (he just packed his stuff and left. I don’t even know where or with whom). He didn’t text or call when he was away. When he came back, he gave me two options: 1- have an abortion, and he will get a vasectomy. We will get married and “live happily ever after” childfree. 2- he breaks up with me, I’ll raise the baby on my own. He will support me financially with the baby costs but wants nothing to do with me or the baby. I have been crying all night. I just don’t know what to do, he has given me a few days to think... I love him so much and he was honest with me regarding kids . AITAH for feeling broken even though I knew how he would react ?
PS: I live in Canada. He is not an abusive man . He does call the shots in our relationship but that’s how our relationship has been and I’m okay with it . As for age difference, yes he is a bit older than me but he is confident about it and it’s Not an issue . He jokes sometimes that he raised me ( he didn’t ! I wasn’t a kid when I met him)