Hm. I chose science fiction, though really it's more science fantasy-super powers queer romance. Probably not many here writing in that particular sub-subgenre.

Ugh. Not "Africa." This horrific practice is in specific countries. It is not every African country or the whole continent.

Looks never justify anything--bad personality, questionable business practices, political opinions, none of it. I wouldn't ever be close enough to such a person to say anything, so I guess my strategy is avoidance.

They're so pretty, and this is a good photo of them.

I don't read, or keep reading, books that cause such feelings. Life is hard enough. I read for pleasure. I'm aware the world doesn't revolve around me, for some peculiar reason, so I don't generate book bans are that level of nonsense. I just don't read those books.

Find a passage in a book that makes you believe those characters are real, and try writing it with your own characters, carefully following what that author did. It's a bit like sketching a painting, learning by copying not to steal but to learn techniques.

'Mater had plastic surgery and it did not go at all well.

That's not a romance. That's a story with a subplot romance. However, if you read some queer romances with similar pairings to yours, you will learn a lot about what you do and don't want for your story.

Why are so many of you confused by feelings while writing or reading? The entire point of written story is to create emotional responses. They don't have to be huge, but if you love a story, your emotional responses to it is why.

There is nothing wrong with crying (or laughing, or dodging) as you type.

That sky looks bewilderingly close, like a dome.

You cannot please every potential reader. Write your story for the readers who'll enjoy it and ignore the rest; it's not for them.

I start each story but only finish the ones that I enjoy.

It depends entirely on what kind of person he is and what he did, and on how you'd intend to have her able to forgive what he did. Most abusive people can't change without doing the hard work of therapy because their impules are deep. No one just stops a deeply ingrained habit they've built their life around, and the first reason for all of us is we hate being wrong, particularly about ourselves. This is why most "redemption" doesn't work--the writer has not done the research to understand the real issue in order to make this shift in personality and attitude realistic enough.

Yeah, this is what my friend who's had terrible deperssion for months at a time would say, too.

That is a choice you'll have to make. Many writers are leaving it out, some are addressing it directly, and some are mentioning and moving on.