As it should be. The newborn baby is the main priority now. Don't like it? Don't have kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can you lmk if you find it?

So I live alone and it's tough to work and maintain the house. I hire a cleaner every other week... I hate to spend the money on it and I know not everyone can. I'm not made of money either, but this was a worthwhile investment. I finally I decided that it's unreasonable for me to expect to manage ALL the things. And I don't want to live in filth ya know? I feel similarly about grocery delivery and stuff now. I grew up poor so I have a very "penny pinching" mentality so this was a tough hurdle for me. But my condition is what it is -- so if I can spend money in a way that helps me adapt to the lifestyle, so be it. This has helped a lot. The disorder is hard enough and looking at a messy house, not being able to find something I need, not having clean dishes etc when I need them can cause a meltdown on a bad day. 🥲

The bedtime avoidance is SO REAL isn't it!!? My partner sometimes thinks that my bedtime routine is causing it issues. And I know I need to have better sleep hygiene, but it wouldn't fix how I feel so sometimes it seems like no point!! Or sometimes I randomly get a second wind at 10pm after being tired all day... I don't want to waste ANY energy so I want to stay up and do stuff 😭

Agreed!!! And expensive

💔I feel like that's unacceptable from the NYU Endo center .... Holy fuck that says a lot.

The endometriosis shit pisses me off so much. HOW is it so common, yet the main diagnostic tool is exploratory surgery?? How have we not found a better way to do this???? Oh wait 👀

One thing I find super interesting: out of all the docs I've had, most are dismissive. Of the small pool of doctors that have actually listened to me, most have been black or Asian. Since noticing this trend, I started to wonder if perhaps they are better listeners because they are familiar with not being heard and know how much it sucks!!

My dad has a history of skin cancer and goes to get spots removed regularly. He went to a derm and was pointing out suspicious spots and the derm was basically like "nah youre good" and was extremely "respectful but dismissive" toward him as well!! I was a bit shocked because I thought that him being a man would help the doctors take him seriously. It was a good reminder for me that a lot of men likely get dismissed too. However I agree that women probably still have it worse (e.g., potentially getting institutionalized). But still, my dad's experience was eye opening to me about how a lot of men get dismissed too

Omg that's super interesting! Glad to see my theory is holding up anecdotally lol. I also smoke weed a lot and exercise/run and it has never bothered me personally!

I totally know what you mean! I once went on a date with a guy who recently got back from Spain and couldn't stop talking about Spain and every conversation went back to Spain. I've been to Spain also so this wasn't just me being jealous type of thing. But I don't feel the need to announce it with every other sentence 😂 It felt so inauthentic he was weaving it into everything we talked about lol. In my head I was just like, "cool I get it, you're so well traveled and wise" 💀

If someone actually enjoys travelling, that's cool, by all means share that.

However I am annoyed by the subset of people make their whole profile about traveling and just love to talk about all the cool things they've done and the 167 countries they've been to. I find that as a bit tacky, almost like they're trying to look so cool, worldly, and "wander lusty" lol. Bonus points if there is some lame quote as the caption. To me, that type of persona comes off as ego centric and obsessed with appearances type of thing.

I see a lot of people are just obsessed with the number of countries they've been to, and will travel to a place for 5 minutes and get a picture and go to the next place. Instead of enjoying the country and chilling out and exploring, it almost seems like they want to just go get a cool pic and move on.

One time I was on a weekend trip with a guy and it was our first trip together, in LA of all places.

I'm fine driving in the city but I don't love it. He wanted to seem a gentleman and insisted on driving once we got an hour-ish from the city. I very quickly realized that he was not accustomed to fast paced traffic, people cutting you off etc. He became irate and anxious so quickly because someone cut him off and was all "OMG PEOPLE DRIVE SO NUTS DOWN HERE!" and I was just like, yeah... It's LA? Like I get that it's annoying to get cut off but he was totally overwhelmed and getting road rage. I used to commute from Baltimore to DC for work every day several years ago so I'm very accustomed to "basically expect that you could be cut off at any second". But when I asked him if he wanted to switch he didn't want to lol

Then we were looking for a hotel last minute and we needed parking, wanted to be in a safe area, etc and had to call and investigate 3-4 options before finding a good one that had rooms available. The first two didn't have what we needed, and hanging up the phone on the second one he was like "FUUUUCK!" Like he was so mad. I was again like... Dude, it's LA. It's busy but there are tons of hotels and we will find one, chill out!

I bet he always used the Ebrake after that lol

Ha, I know people like this and I have a theory. There are two measures of lung function, how much you can inhale and how much you can exhale. In some of the early research studies, weed smokers actually tended to have strong function in terms of inhaling 😂 which makes sense lol. Full disclosure: also I'm sure their exhales aren't that strong, plus there could be other unstudied health issues. And I haven't looked recently, so this info could be outdated. But still, I wonder if that explains some of the athletes I know who smoke weed

I think one of the biggest differences (for me) is that I can smoke a bit and chill and be good, I don't chain smoke. But if I drink I rarely want just one. For people who are able to have just one then I don't see a problem with it personally.

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If OP had mono as a kid then they were exposed to the EBV virus. Idk how long it would take to manifest into autoimmune, but I believe EBV can lay dormant in your system and then flare up (maybe bc of pregnancy?)... I might be wrong on that but I had mono also and I was told this.

Further, I know there's a link between IH/narcolepsy and EBV. I have Narcolepsy (was misdiagnosed with IH initially) since I was a kid and there is a strong possibility that having mono triggered it for me

True. And get a test kit. I stopped doing coke for that reason

Oh I see what you mean

Seriously:( and also for people who are diagnosed but going thru a med shortage

I think coke is usually out of your system within 72 hours. Maybe 48 for some people

True, def don't tell the doctor or they will be weird about prescribing xyrem and even basic stuff like Adderall

Honestly, modafinal sucks. It's not effective for me at all so I can see why you feel the need to supplement

Awesome thank you for sharing!! ❤️❤️