Oh yeah it's great. I'm a pretty heavy coffee drinker and I feel like ashwaganda also mellows out the caffeine.

I realized that my daughters were watching me drink every night and replace their normal dad with a weird dad and that upset me so much. 

I'm on day 5 quitting vaping. If you can help it, nip it in the bud because it is another level of hell to quit haha. 

What helps me these days is lots of ashwaganda tea and fresh fruit. I'm glad you're here, not drinking today

Haha this right here. My wife gets to irritated when older women praise me for - literally - just holding the baby, but I'm so starved for compliments I eat it up.

I quit when my kids were 3yo and 1mo. 

I had always been a problem drinker, but it was affecting my ability to parent. 122 days alcohol free today.

After spending the whole morning playing together, waffles, snuggles, and 1:1 time, out of nowhere "you love $SISTER more than me!" and nonstop bawling. Sister wasn't even at home

That you and your partner are totally on your own. Getting grandparents to lift a single solitary finger to help you is like pulling teeth.

I had HR call me when my second daughter was 9 days old to tell me I had run out of PTO and to come back to the office. I said "I told you I'm taking two weeks. Don't pay me if that's what you need to do." They somehow found a way to make do without me for another 5 days. 

$1,785 to date!

When my oldest was 2, she proudly fetched me a beer from the cooler at a family party. Everybody thought it was so cute but it really bugged me. How does she know a beer vs. a soda already? Why is she bringing this to me? To make me happier? Just to be sweet?

A few weeks ago at the pool she walked over with my soda and proudly said "here's your beer, Daddy." I told her "Daddy doesn't drink beer any more. That's soda." She smiled at me, probably immediately forgetting the whole interaction, but I nearly started crying in front of her. I hold on to that moment any time I crave alcohol, because the latter experience was 1000x more in line with who I want to be for my kids.

IWNDWYT

Soda and heavy cream

My wife has just turned me on to dirty soda. Right now it's black cherry soda and coconut cream. So good.

Cannabis just does not hook into my brain the way alcohol (and nicotine, and caffeine) does, but everybody is different. Personally it hasn't been a problem. 

No kidding! The other day I threw her in the pool and when she came up she said "Daddy I swear to god." Dunno where she picked that up.

Congrats on making this decision for yourself. IWNDWYT

BJJ is the only place I can really turn my brain off.

IWNDWYT

Checking in! 

My dad recently quit drinking as well. I had him on the phone the other day and he told me "son...I broke down and got a six pack..."

I started to tell him hey, that's all right, etc. 

"...of non-alcoholic beer." The SOB got me good. 

Love you all, and IWNDWYT!

We were going to be one and done, then our daughter turned 3 and we both apparently forgot what the newborn stage is like. Now I've got two daughters and a vasectomy scheduled in 2 weeks.

Great thread idea. 

For me it's quitting alcohol 107 days ago. My relationship with my family has gotten remarkably better since I got sober. I have more patience and energy. 

Next year, come up with your own plan that doesn't involve the in-laws and stick to it. 

This year I planned the whole weekend for my family and the only in-law involvement is babysitting so wife and I can get dinner and we can take the older kid to the movies. 

Will you catch flak for it? Yep. Are you responsible for pleasing everybody? Nah. It's your day, Dad. Decide what it means to have a good one.

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IWNDWYT

Dude I caught my 4 year old licking an egg and whispering "mmmmm salmonella" this morning.

Yeah I sent my dad some steaks and told my wife that as much as I love my FIL, I don't want to spend the day with him.