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Women are capable of the most extreme mental gymnastics.
Feminine hypergamy claims yet another victim.
That’s the entire point of second wave+ feminism. Women got to their emancipation, as they should have. However, they were unequipped to handle the world they’d created. When women collectively started to lose and suffer due to the shortcomings in feminine culture, instead of reflecting and changing, they chose to construct a new narrative where they were the victims of an oppressive patriarchy that necessarily entailed their poor outcomes. That’s the whole point. Women need that narrative, otherwise they would have to confront the truth, that women need to do better and make better decisions. They’d rather blame some nefarious external force, men, the ones that built the world for them, that sacrifice everything for them, that endlessly toil, doing the labor they don’t want to do on their behalf. That’s modern feminism; a whole ideology designed to escape responsibility.
Hey, it’s not a good idea to ask women about this. They’re going to give you a lot of noise and bad advice. Try to find a man that you know has had a ton of success with women, someone you can trust and respect. Ask him for advice. Women aren’t going to know how to date women unless they’re bi or lesbians, and the strategy for them won’t apply to you. A man that has had genuine, sustained, consistent success with women will be your best resource here.
NTA.
You made it clear what would happen, she disrespected you, you’re done with her. The end.
Hey, if you’re a smart woman, like genuinely smart, you’ll probably always have a hard time connecting with other women, and that’s okay.
That doesn’t mean you’re a pick me or whatever. That doesn’t mean you’re defective or bad. It just means that you’re smart, and most women aren’t on your level intellectually. It’s like a grown adult trying to find a real connection with a child.
You’re a rare one if you’re in engineering and are actually good at it. If you’re better than the men around you then you’re even rarer still, but I would need to independent confirmation to believe it.
Don’t listen to anyone giving you shit and don’t feel bad for being better than them. You don’t have a fucking thing to apologize for.
It should be “guys when they see well shaped tiddies”.
Their size is less important than their shape, symmetry, and nipple/areola/tit ratio and placement.
They can be small or big. The aesthetics is far more important.
Big tiddies are more likely to be wonky tiddies, so when they’re big and aesthetically pleasing, it’s rare, so more valuable.
A girl can’t really control her tits, although chest exercises can build her pectoral muscles and push her tits out and up and improve their appearance.
A girl can GROW HER ASS. If you’re a girl and you aren’t doing squats, hip thrusts, and kettlebell swings, you are fucking up. I have no time for you, sorry. You’re making poor life choices.
Are you lifting in the gym?
That’s interesting. Which studies exactly? Can you link to them?
You can do 10 sets of 10 pushups basically anywhere and work it into some other chore. Ironing shirts? 10 pushups a shirt. Stuff like that. Make sure you’re getting the form right and that’s a good upper body workout right there. Do it every day, that is the absolute minimum. You also need to lift heavy, but the push up routine is convenient and something you can do anywhere and work it into your schedule, even when you’re traveling.
Not for an instant. It’s just something they made up to further their victim narrative and evade responsibility for their collective poor choices.
Yeah, maybe, but it’s hard to say.
Look, to the men out there: Don’t end up like the husband. There are women out there that are gorgeous, sexy, really super hot stuff that will draw you in and make you feel like you’ve won the fucking lottery. They’ll be perfect, flawless, what you’ve always dreamed of, the girl you always wanted, finally.
So, you commit. You, over time, invest in her. She starts to leave stuff at your place, little things at first. She starts to be in your life more and more, she’s getting more and more of your time and attention, and things are going well. She’s still able to keep up the facade.
Some cracks start to show. Maybe she starts to argue with you, just a little bit, over stupid shit. Maybe you catch her in a little lie about her past, or learn something about her that just seems… strange. Doesn’t match up with the person you’ve come to know and trust. It’s just one thing, though. We all have secrets, right?
It keeps getting more and more serious, because you’re already invested, and you’ve introduced her to your friends and family, and they like her. She’s ingratiated herself with them well, and they keep telling you how great she is.
She moves in with you. You see the investment increases. You’re thoroughly committed at this point.
Then you see the real her.
She lies to you, often, about little shit. She argues with you over anything and everything. She DEER responds you (Defend, evade, explain, rationalize) if you call her out for anything or have something you need her to change. She never changes her behavior, always DEER. Always. You start to feel resentment… more and more. You try to talk to her, DEER. Nothing gets through. She’s shutting down all communication with you.
At this point, you are fucked. You’re done. You’ve invested so much in her, maybe years at this point, and now she’s showing you the person she’s been hiding from you this entire time. She has so much power, because you’ve been the only one really investing. It’s not all liability for you, no upside. The sex gets bad or dries up completely, the affection is limited or exclusively a tool for manipulation, and she takes you for granted every moment.
You have to break up with her, but you’ve invested so much. Maybe you can get her to change. Therapy? Crucial conversations? Threats, ultimatums, break up trial runs?
She changes, but only for a little bit and only superficially. Once things are stable again for her, threat mitigated, it’s right back to the same behavior. Arguing. DEER responses. Taking you for granted.
You have to break up with her, and it is brutal. One of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. She disintegrates, a creature of pure emotion. You still care about her because you remember the good times and have invested so much into her, years at this point, so many memories, and so much fucking money.
You might even have married her. You might even have kids with her. The stakes are as high as they can be, but you have to get clear of her because at this point, you know there is no fucking way she will change.
The point of all this? Be careful out there, guys. Be careful. If you’re a great guy, a real catch, you’ve worked your ass off and made it, really made it, and you’re someone that has something to take, watch out for the takers out there. Watch out for the ones that want to take it from you. Pay close attention. Scrutinize the shit out of them. Any red flag, and warning sign, anything that feels off or wrong, push back immediately and assert that boundary and if she doesn’t instantly apologize and get the picture 100%, shut that shit down. Walk away. Find a girl that isn’t going to wreck your life.
You’ve been warned.
Breaking up with the toxic girlfriend.
I have a “huge” dick, apparently. That’s what the women tell me, and I also have eyes, so I agree with them that it is large.
It has definitely happened to me before where I can’t have sex with a girl because I’m too big. Exclusively Asian and Indian women. Unfortunate, but we still have a good time.
However, the vast majority of women are enthusiastic to be getting fucked by a huge dick. Literally, today, a girl I’m seeing texted me wanting me to come over and give her the dick. She’s unusually tight, but still takes the whole thing like a champ and cums multiple times, screaming and carrying on while I fuck her brains out.
So, yeah, not all women love a huge cock, sure, but I can tell you right now that most of them do.
I’m not interested in having children, but if I did then I would be disappointed if their career didn’t create value. How that happens doesn’t matter, just create genuine value.
Whoa.
Okay, now I definitely see why girls are repulsed by you.
Good luck, man. I hope you figure your shit out.
Do not let women dictate their value to you. You are the ultimate arbiter of their value to you, not them.
Appreciating vs depreciating asset.
Skinny is good, but you could be more muscular. I mean like way to the side of the distribution, brother. Are your abs really well defined?
I am an excellent chef, but I am extremely busy and do not have time to cook.
The myth between men and the cooking skill
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