I honestly always thought it's because she knows she needs the other wives to handle Kody.

Kody is a toxic and abusive partner but for the first 10 years of their relationship all his toxic and abusive behaviour was targeted at the other 3 wives. Without the other wives Robyn is the target.

Robyn also knows that without the other wives she'll have to parent her own kids and get a job. She doesn't want to do any of those things.

Robyn's happiness is 100% reliant on the other wives; not Kody.

I'm talking about Op.

If op and this person were never friends how is that one person able to keep targeting them?

You wanna remove that so all of Reddit doesn't know what I look like?

For the record, it’s impossible to continue to target you after you remove them as a friend.

If that is true, then why is op having problems?

I'll hit tf out of them for you

Lol, can confirm. 🤣

And, for the record, you hit me 22 times before I started hitting you.

Minding your own business? Targeting someone 22 times is minding your own business?

I started targeting you because I noticed you targeted me! If you're going to tell the story at least tell it right, "friend."

For the record, I did remove you as a friend and you're STILL targeting me.

Same thing happened to me with "Robin". 😒 Robin, if you're reading this, you're a dick.

In my opinion, hitting your friends a handful of times is all in good fun but crap like that is just ridiculous and automatic makes you an AH.

This guy has shown a pattern of behaviour that proves that he isn't the one for you.

Yes this absolutely warrants a meeting with HR. You tell them what's been going on, that you have asked her multiple times to stop and that she has not, how it makes you feel and how it is affecting you in the workplace (as well as if you feel it violates any workplace rules).

I wouldn't send Ashley any kind of message because it won't go well, she won't be receptive to it anyway. In this scenario ghosting is 100% ok.

I don't doubt for a second that they have problems. Anyone married to Kody or Robyn would have major problems. They were just able to hide them better when he had the other wives. I have absolutely no doubt that their problems have gotten far worse now that they have no one else to blame.

I also don't roll unless there's a reason to roll.

Can you elaborate on that.

I know this is Reddit's go-to; but I honestly think you should leave him. He's shown you what being married to him will be like.

Someone who doesn't think they're in the wrong (which he doesn't) isn't capable of the change you need.

There's nothing you can say to get through to him, especially after 7 years of trying. If he hasn't figured it out by now he never will.

I’m not sure if it’s because he’s neglectful, cheap, ignorant or malicious

It's all of the above.

He's too cheap when it matters and he doesn't care enough to put any effort in.

Either way this isn't something I'd want (or you want by the sounds of it) long term.

People are going to complain no matter what you do. You can't appease everybody. Choose the date you want.

Personally, no, I don't believe it is. I can see why people don't like doing it but that doesn't mean that it's inconsiderate or that you shouldn't do it.

Your life doesn't revole around other people's calendars; choose the date you want. If it's so inconvenient for them they can decline to attend.

Frankly what that woman said to you was ruder than choosing a holiday weekend wedding.

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NTA

Good for you for letting Taylor's mom know that you will not tolerate her bullying.

Taylor also seems to know that his mother is a piece of work. Im glad that he has your back in this.

Be prepared though; this won't be the last you hear from that vile woman, better start making a plan on how to deal with her BS going forward. She is going to be a nightmare.

You remind yourself that their decision has literally nothing to do with you. They either aren't comfortable traveling or already have plans for that day.

You also remind yourself that if they don't have a good reason for declining that they aren't the type of people you want celebrating with you anyway.

She now is saying this is a red flag and she wants me to find someone else that will tolerate that.

I can’t believe it’s come to that. How do I navigate this?

You say "Thank you for informing me that after 7 years together you do not trust me. I will take your advice and find someone who does."

In the summertime I try to change it up every time I play but come wintertime I pretty much just wear the same coat every day. 🤷‍♀️

specify what gifts you want because it implies you're expecting one.

Doesn't a registry do/imply the same thing? So why is a registry okay but cash isn't?