The Sioux Chef, it's a cookbook that uses ingredients and practices that native Americans would have used. The problem is that I live in AZ and basically none of the ingredients are readily available in my area and the the recipes are a bit too fiddly for me. Extremely cool cookbook tho!!

Truth of the Divine by Lindsay Ellis. It's the second book in a series, I just read the first one a few years ago. It's equally as good though. The first book is Axiom's End

I do feel the forgetting to eat it thing. I'm very guilty of that

That part I did find a solution to! I would put my keys in the fridge on top of my Tupperware. That way, I couldn't start my car without also looking directly at my lunch

Sometimes! If there's something that I know I won't be able to express without crying but it's something I need to talk to my partner about I'll actually communicate with him about it via text. I still cry but I can at least cry and be coherent. When my parents had to put my childhood dog down (it was very much time) I had to do this, or when I lost my job

Pack a lunch for work. Forget to clean the containers, forget to take them out of my backpack. Accidentally leave them for so long that they get truly disgusting. Be so overwhelmed by this that the only answer is to just... Throw it away

This sounds insane to me lol. But I have ADHD so that's probably why. I demand silence when I read, if I had music on while reading I'd just end up listening to music

I definitely have a similar problem with YouTube Shorts. I would delete the app but I use YouTube for audiobooks and like to put Let's Plays on when doing chores or playing Sims so I can't just get rid of it. I purposely never downloaded tiktok or Instagram because I know I would have the same problem, and I deleted Facebook for similar reasons, but none of those apps provided any additional benefits so it was easy. I have ADHD so in the moment self-control isn't a thing, I just do the thing that gives dopamine and stopping is HARD. Honestly if anyone knows of any apps or something that doesn't block YouTube but DOES block the Shorts feature I am all ears.

It sounds like you've already talked to him but I would explain (gently) that this is getting to be a problem because you feel neglected, and you're going to start timing is Reels usage just so he can see how much time he's spending. If he can see the time passing, that may help. I would definitely try to persuade him to to delete Instagram altogether so the temptation isn't there, but it's his decision and ultimately you can only decide what your reaction to his behavior is going to be.

Best of luck

I think I was 17 when I read Lolita. You'll be fine. It's definitely an uncomfortable book since it IS about and from the point of view of a predator, but the author clearly has no sympathy for Humbert Humbert and. Like. It's a book. It cannot hurt you. and at 16 there's nothing that goes on in that book that you don't already know exists in the world. Go for it

I'm so the opposite. I once did a weird workaround with Google Translate to turn my friend's final draft of something she wrote into an audiobook (it wasn't great but it was adequate) and I was enthralled the entire time despite the AI voice because my friend is such a good writer

Mine is definitely insecure, envious and paranoid but in a lot of ways very smart. I've talked about on here before that I can't watch Breaking Bad because Walter White is just such a close parallel to him, especially the first episode before he realizes he's dying. And similarly, my dad has a weird idea of family loyalty, so while I'm definitely not fully exempt from his crap it's mostly not aimed at me

Good for you going NC. I probably would except I still have a relationship with my mom and they're still married

I don't currently use it but I used to and loved it. I think the only reason I stopped is because I got a new phone and didn't re-download the app

Not me but my uBPD dad does like to slander people. Idk if this makes it better or worse but I'm not sure if it's lying or him just being CRAZY paranoid and assuming the most outlandish shit about people, I assume a mix. Off the top of my head: - accused my aunt of despising him and threatening him at my grandma's funeral - accused my mom's best friend's husband of trying to convert him into a Catholic cult - accused his own friend of sexually assaulting his first wife, resulting in their first child (they are... Not friends anymore) - accused our neighbors of harassing him, which has developed into a full 'gang stalking' delusion. A lot of these probably overlap with the gang stalking thing - accused one of my friends of trying to assault me (not to his face thank Christ) - accused my godmother's husband of wanting to kill him - accused the random college kids who lived behind us of trying to kill him and tried to get me to look up one dude's info because I had access to my high school's records for journalism

And I know there's way more. Basically anyone who makes him slightly uncomfortable is evil. I was terrified he'd come up with something crazy about my partner but I think he knows I would probably actually attack him if he tried that shit

In diagnosis limbo but I drive, used to drive a LOT for work. No issues tbh. I've gotten a few tickets over the course of my life but with one exception they were all stupid (I swear, I'm not just saying that). I do struggle a little bit with making sure I'm clear when backing out of a parking space but not enough that I've ever hit anything or anyone. You know yourself better than Internet people do though so don't discount your gut feeling just because other people don't have the same struggle

Not really. I read books with romance but I've never really been able to get into stories that center around romance, especially contemporary romance.

I just can't get into it. I'm not straight and also fall on the asexual and aromantic spectrum so I think it's just... Not something that's in my wheelhouse. I have enjoyed romantic plotlines in stories before but a story that focuses purely on two individuals getting together does not hold my interest.

To be clear, zero hate to anyone who likes romance, I just can't get into it

Not really I'm afraid, I kind of DIY'd my system and while I feel like it's not the most efficient, my attempts to make it more efficient have NOT worked, and I'm honestly not sure it's helpful to anyone but me

So I honestly have had the best luck with plain old Google calendars because I can color code and visually see the block of time. For work I also have a running bullet journal - if you look up the original bullet journaling stuff from the guy who created it on YouTube he explains how to set it up quite well - and with new tasks I literally time how long it takes to do that task so I can block out the right amount of time in the future. I create my calendar at least two days in advance, and I plan my full 24 hours including sleep. I don't follow the schedule religiously but I do try to stick to it and it does definitely help

Might be more widespread now but growing up I understood it as a southern thing. I think they're gross, my mom loves them. Occasionally you can find them in cans out here in AZ and she'll buy them and I gag.

They're just.... Shell-on peanuts that have been boiled and seasoned. Since they're soft you just gotta suck them out of the shell. Textural hell if you ask me but plenty of people love them

God I sound like a broken record but John Dies at the End by Jason Pargin. All the books in the series, honestly. It's not what the books are about, but it is addressed and it can be raw at times. In the second book the main character talks about how his whole life feels like he's at a dance where everyone else knows all the moves and is dancing flawlessly, but he has no idea what's going on and is stumbling around and stepping on toes, and everyone else keeps giving him nasty looks for ruining their good time. At the time I was going through it in high school and it spoke very directly to a feeling I didn't have the words for.

1. If you listen to audiobooks on your computer or smartphone, see if your library provides access to a digital app like Libby or Hoopla. I listen to a LOT of audiobooks and don't pay for them because between Libby, Hoopla, and YouTube I've been able to find 90% of the books I've been interested in

2. I get the impression you would enjoy Birdbox by Josh Malerman. I really enjoyed the audiobook and found it really compelling. It's much better than the movie, trust me

John Dies at the End by Jason Pargin (pseudonym David Wong) and House of Leaves by Mark Z Danielewski

I feel like a broken record because I recommend both books constantly but they definitely fit the bill. Of the two John Dies at the End is the more accessible one but House of Leaves will FUCK YOU UP if you can get into it

Time blocking

Wrote it off because it just sounds like 'just use a planner's advice but I got SO much better at time management when I started time blocking

Not a therapist but I work with therapists a lot, so my opinion comes from that background

I think individual therapy is just particularly bad at treating people with narcissistic tendencies. I'm not talking about clinical narcissism, but people who are very self-centered. Because they report how they perceive things, which is 100% skewed, and because that's usually the only source of info the therapist has, they can only work with what they have, which means a lot of time they try to bolster the person's self-esteem because with not-narcissist people, that's usually the best approach. Not really the therapists fault there.

There also just bad therapists out there so people can just therapist shop till they find one that validates their worldview

I'm sure in some places that are more patriotic you'll get looks or a talking to, but no one is legally obligated to do the pledge. I stopped even standing for it in high school. Mostly because I was an edgelord but I justified it by saying I wouldn't say the pledge until gay marriage was legal. Absolutely no one cared. I don't think I was even asked about my reasoning.

When it did finally become legal I was out of high school and you don't really get asked to stand for the pledge outside of school and sports games

Read it recently and the end definitely messed me up.

The Conspiracy Against the Human Race by Thomas Ligotti

Before reading it, most philosophy and things related to philosophy just did NOT click with me. I figured I was just too pragmatic to understand something so ephemeral. I knew it had use, but didn't really understand how to apply it to real life or why the larger questions mattered.

Ligotti basically approached the problem by going 'well... Maybe it doesn't matter. Or worse, maybe it matters for all the wrong reasons. Let's look at that.' and for some reason that approach made all the more ephemeral parts of philosophy, and why they mattered, click. I'm much more able to explain my own view of life, morality, and other things that we talk about more abstractly because this book helped me build a framework to talk about it