Cardiovascular perfusionists - 2-year program and start in the 80k range

My grandparents were only 50 when I was born, so they weren’t exactly old. They worked, hung out with friends, listened to music, went to events, movies, held family dinners. Basically what I do now, also at 50 (though my children are still teenagers at home and I hope I’m not a grandparent for a long time).

We still hold them, 9 years in. I find farting funny, but it also makes me lose sexual attraction to the person if I’m forced to listen to it or any of the typical bathroom stuff (flossing, shitting, etc).

I have a PhD and primarily do clinical work, and was very well-prepared for that. I realized I found research intriguing and I’m grateful I know so much about it and how to evaluate studies, but my heart was mostly in clinical work. In my current job I do clinical and administrative work, and I also teach and do clinical supervision for PhD students.

My PsyD colleagues have student debt ranging from 20k to 125k. I had none because my program was funded (and no, I wasn’t rich, but I was careful and could live on my stipend).

Many employers still prefer a PhD over PsyD.

This isn’t the appropriate sub for this question.

Go to HR and request accommodations for medical reasons in your current or next job.

I would have done it and just told the owner later, but once the owner says no, you have no choice but to follow stupid orders

You don’t have to feel any particular way - let it unfold! It’s a weird time!

If you’re starting to feel weird about it, that’s a good enough reason to stop.

FWIW, even if she really is who she says she is, it’s extraordinarily concerning for her to be trying to build a friendship with you. Sounds like, at best, she’s insecure and lonely and not thinking straight.

The “you’re so mature” line is classically used by groomers… please keep your guard up!

Seems ideal for a short time, to figure out what to do next. Unless they’re wealthy and leaving everything to you in the next 10 years, though, it probably can’t be a long-term plan, and especially if you hope to have your own family someday. Many would be cool to live with their names, but many wouldn’t.

The most they ever went away was for two nights, once we were all 16+. My friend’s parent left him and his sister (16 and 17) for three weeks. We partied for 21 days straight!

Medicine is also very competitive. Further, no medical school prepares you to provide psychotherapy. Some residencies do, if you become a psychiatrist, but even then it’s not great training and most psychiatrists don’t do much more than prescribe medicine.

Psychology is worth it if you’re willing to go on to graduate school.

It’s not audacity, it’s likely a deep, evolutionarily-sound response to seeing/thinking about damage or injury to the physical body. The intentionality is foreign to most people.

Yes, get life insurance. At this age, if you’re healthy, your rates will be low. You never know when something might happen - my good friend’s husband was killed in a car accident when they were only 34. Without life insurance, she’d have had a horrible financial struggle on top of the emotional devastation.

“Avoidant Attachment Disorder” isn’t an official diagnosis in the DSM.

You’re conflating self-protection and relational wariness with avoidant attachment. Major difference.

Doctors get almost no training in nutrition and sometimes their beliefs are really just wrong.

1200 is barely sustainable for someone of your height and weight. Fuck that doctor.

Also, for your height your weight sounds pretty good; I won’t second-guess you, but is it truly necessary to lose anything?

See what your bloodwork says and then consult with a nutritionist who is versed in EDs and can help you figure out a healthy, solid path. Good luck out there.

In most states you’ll need at least a masters to become a licensed therapist or counselor.

I am not saying that they said trans people shouldn’t have therapy. JC. But they mocked the report for saying “it’s harmful to call therapy, conversion therapy” but hadn’t quoted anything that suggested that it was, indeed, conversion therapy in hiding. I’m simply pointing out that that’s a weak take on what that line of the report said, and that there are dozens of other criticisms to make about the report than that particular line.

Yeah, there’s been some drift. I guess it’s inevitable since so much of the diet/nutrition stuff is linked to the larger cultural issues, but I hope they re-center.

I love them and support the mission of the podcast and these episodes. But I’m also uncertain that they’re building on solid ground with some of their takedowns. They insisted that the report is equating any psychological therapy with conversion therapy, is ridiculous (the “there’s harm in calling psychotherapy, conversion therapy” segment - they seem to insist that the report was, in fact, calling it CT when they provide no evidence of that). There is zero reason not to have informed, affirming psychological support through a transition process, and seeking it out doesn’t mean we are pathologizing the person.

There are so many (many, many) reasons to criticize the report, I’m not sure why they’re trying to score points on this part.

I loved it all back then, but honestly, would I still be watching hours of MTV a day, even if it hadn’t changed? I really hope not.

Cookies!

Taste the food a few times with the same spoon

A high count, especially in someone fairly young (regardless of gender), would tell me that this person chases gratification and might not take our relationship seriously.