The hours sound fairly normal, but on the opting out of the 48h work week, that regulation value is taken as an average over 17 weeks - so they can still ask you to work overtime occasionally without it actually coming back to bite them legally. Additionally, there's another note saying they can't treat you unfairly because of it, so if you did push back on it and they rescinded the offer, you could take some actions (but that depends how much you care about fighting that stuff and how much you trust them)

Source: https://www.gov.uk/maximum-weekly-working-hours/calculating-your-working-hours

Ah I suspected as much (this time it was £16.70) - I'd only just moved back to Bristol, was stood outside the flat where I was staying but couldn't get in to due to a code change I hadn't been told, so really didn't fancy any sort of riling up of anything, so ended up giving him some money. In hindsight, really shouldn't have done, but at the time you can panic slightly. It sounded dodge, but was more concerned about the location knowing and just getting away....

Edit: in case anyone else found by searching....the more I think about it the more I realise I'm an idiot - like group employment contracts starting at 0230am are not going to be a thing?? What the hell

Yes. I can't say that random fact I remembered that you told me, and that you've got new glasses when I've only known you a week? Or that I see someone that I recognise from ten years ago, not the one

I embrace weird haha - I am firmly weird, but I've got to a stage where if I'm not bothering people, I do what makes me happy? And I've just had a load of feedback at work that says I bring positive energy to the team, which I've also had before, and am now starting to realise that my weird quirks make me me, and also arent that unpleasant to be around :D

I would not consider myself a Taylor swift fan, or even someone who really "gets her" but Spotify's wisdom added new romantics to my hype fast playlist, and genuinely never thought I would be someone lifting weights to Taylor swift....(But try it!!)

I used to be a bit adverse to stuff, but kinda grew out of it now? Like I wouldn't read the hunger games cos it was too popular, and I genuinely have no clue why I had that mindset?? I think part of me thought I couldn't fit in with popular things. I did then read them and enjoyed reading them which helped a bit to disperse those thoughts.

But I also had it with music, and discovering music was really weird for me as it was mostly via my dad's cd collection rather than much YouTube listening....!

Though I think part of it comes down to, I thought if you were interested in something you only could have an intense interest in it, there were no passing interests. And almost felt like I could "fail" if I didn't know anywhere near enough about something but enjoyed it - like to this day I will still caveat things a lot of "oh but I know nothing about it but I enjoy it"

No! I was chatting to someone a year or so ago who'd bumped into her swimming teacher at the pool - the lady had learned to swim with this teacher 18 yrs ago when she was 55, and was still swimming to this day.

It seems to often be the thing of "extremes" (I always wear socks but know people who effectively never wear socks) 

 But the best comment I saw summing it  up - 

Person: do you struggle with clothing 

Autistic person: no I'm fine, for a I have a system

Once did a round with some very cryptic descriptions of nursery rhymes, think literal explanations etc, was good fun as you could work them out too!

That's the thing!! During studying, I used to get worried about how I came across in group work until a few people I worked with then became friends with outside of that at the same time were like, yeah it's weird at the start because you're very to the point, but it's efficient and you say what you mean. Like it ended up working out well, they just had a slight adjustment period of me v the average experience

As an autistic woman in software engineering, I'd say there's quite a lot! Like as a proportion of the number of women software engineers especially

Going to echo the others on here - I was prefer saying things that directly affect me, or saying things like "oh I'm bad for taking things literally!" in more off hand comments? Mostly so they know that I do genuinely mean well, I just don't process things in the same way as a lot of them do

I've also had positive feedback around being able to be to the point, direct and constructive, and generally approachable though? So there's likely some overcompensation, but after the "adjustment period" of working with me v NTs or different NDs, it can go ok

Caveat with all this - I work in software engineering and can sometimes be considered one of the more social ones...

Vegan bacon should firmly be crispy, and definitely not floppy

I'm just shocked that people just "see something they like", I cannot fathom being that kind of shopper

If I were you, I'd go for writing a few things down beforehand of what you want to say.

So along the lines of, I've been diagnosed with this, and this is how it affects me. Could we try doing x, y, z differently?

It might also be worth talking to whichever department deals with disability/neurodiversity and seeing whether they have any support/training that could be useful? Similarly, they might be able to have someone come with you to have the conversation if you'd prefer it that way.

I did not know for years that I was bi, then had to spot the pattern eventually and be like ohhhhhh

Potentially an appropriate time to say Revolut can be used for tikkie sending/receiving as opposed to just paying...

I tend to get a singular song stuck in my head (no I don't get to pick, it's not even the last one I listen to) and then keep that going.....

I think it's because the connotations of "I have" sounds more like it's contagious, or something that can be cured? I'm not fussed either way what other people use to describe themselves, but personally go for autistic. I don't believe all my character traits are because of it, but it contributes in a similar way to me being British tbh....

My tipsy friend told me his girlfriend was impressed by my (a woman) back muscles whilst climbing. Still riding that wave haha

Can't currently comment on the undiagnosed bit, but I've realised recently that I really don't say it unless it's relevant and they've shown that they understand neurodivergence in some aspect?

E.g. was sat in a conversation where adhd came up, the guy who was adhd was happily sharing, and i was wondering why i wouldn't do the same with asd unless I was really comfortable - there's something about being in a social situation and declaring your diagnosed social ineptitude that just doesn't sit well with me

How slow and inconsistently people manage to walk, flowing like a liquid to fill the space?

If you were being predictable, fine, i can go round you - but when you just stop with absolutely no prior warning, what do you want me to do??

Same goes with driving tbh

Everyone has far more useful advice, mine is simple - have the mugs, biscuits, tea bags, coffee, and kettle (and milk/sugar if needed) nearby. Makes a huge difference when faced with alllll of it

Similar to another comment - was attracted to first partner (once in relationship), then after that relationship ended started to notice more and more patterns with how my friends made comments around sexual attraction? And also around dating apps and trying to find a relationship that way - so for me it was less the experiencing sexual attraction for the first time, and more struggling to experience it a second time?

They're cool and all and a lot of autistic people do like trains, but because there's the stereotype of it, it always seems like there's wayyyyyy more who do?