All I can think is Baloo from The Jungle Book

We love you too shroom dude!

You need to stop playing the blame game about who is “worse” and take some responsibility. This relationship is incredibly unhealthy when clearly you both want different things from each other - also you sound very controlling; you can’t just mould a person into the one you want them to be.

You will both do well to end the relationship for good this time and work on yourselves before you even consider dating.

Honestly he sounds incredibly immature and he’s acting like an asshole. He seems to be put off by the fact you are on your period probably because he is ignorant about female anatomy and maybe he hasn’t grown up around women that are open about that kind of thing. At the end of the day he needs to understand that this is something you will go through every month for the majority of your life so you could try having a conversation with him to educate him about periods and also tell him how he made you feel. Hopefully then he might be a little more understanding, however if it were me I know that would be a bit of a dealbreaker for me, I wouldn’t want someone that makes me feel shit about myself when I’m feeling my worst every month.

Just tell him that you don’t feel the same way as him and the chemistry/ romance isn’t there for you - it’s honest and you don’t need to feel like you are attacking his personality either.

Good luck - breaking up with someone is never pleasant but you have to do what’s right for you

I would suggest it is too soon for you two to be friends as it sounds like he still has some feelings from the relationship, it is possible you may be able to revisit this as a friendship later if that is really what you both want but until then it would be better to go cold Turkey.

Although you feel you may have been clear on your boundaries it feels like there’s some misunderstanding there - asking for space does not indicate a specific amount of time and considering he was messaging you everyday, he probably feels like a week and a half without contact is a longer amount of time for him and is sufficient “space” by his definition.

It sounds like he obviously does still very much care for you and is checking in on you but to save his feelings and allow yourself the time and space you need, you might just have to cut him out completely for now. Just make sure that you make that abundantly clear as he will likely cling on to any sort of wishy washyness as hope for you to get back together/ hang out again. Sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind.

Regardless of if either of you consider it cheating or not, you still need to tell him. What constitutes as cheating is different for every person and this will depend on his personal boundaries but if he finds out later and you didn’t tell him he will feel a whole lot more betrayed. Since you mentioned your boyfriend hates the guy be prepared that it is likely he will be upset and he may need some time to forgive you. I think it would also be helpful to yourself to honestly consider why it might have happened. Do you still like this guy/ want to sleep with him? Do you think this could still have happened if you were sober? If your partner didn’t consider it cheating, would you do it again? What will you do to stop this happening again in a relationship?

This is unsettling but I love it!

Have a really open and honest chat about it - as honest as you are with Reddit. Tell her how you feel and why but be careful not to point any fingers or throw any accusations. Allow her to tell you the full story as hers may differ from her roommates account and ask why she didn’t tell you before - it could be something as silly as her not wanting you to overthink the friendship to protect your feelings when it really is platonic (still not a good idea to lie but an understandable mistake).

Try not to make any rash decisions fuelled by emotion. Once you have all the details consider what you need moving forward - is a friend with an ex a dealbreaker for you or is it something you could be ok with? What can she do to make you feel more secure in the relationship? And how can you build trust moving forward and ensure no more nasty surprises?

Good luck!

I’m really sorry this happened to you. I can appreciate you probably have a whole bunch of mixed emotions going on and although I understand it will be hard for him to hear and you are sensitive to that, please don’t let this feeling overpower what he did or how that made you feel. At the end of the day he still did something very wrong and he and you both need to acknowledge that so stay tough and stick to your guns.

Also moving forward make sure to clearly define what consent is and what consent isn’t so there will be no confusion moving forward and this never happens again.

I wish you the best of luck with this and with your healing but remember that you do come first so if there is any problems moving forward to not ignore them. There is a chance you may still feel the same after your talk and find it hard to move on with the relationship knowing what he did, which is ok too but it is important to honour those feelings and know when to walk away.

The fact that something happened recently that you have discussed will make it easier to open up the conversation about the sexual assault and you should definitely tell him. You can use that as an opener if it is easier for you to explain that it was especially triggering as it isn’t the first time it happened and then recount the story of you first having sex. You might even want to ask him if he believes he did anything wrong that night before telling him the story to give him a chance to think about his actions.

Although I can appreciate you don’t like to call it rape, it is important to understand that it is and make that clear to your boyfriend and do not make light of how serious it was. From what you have said, I expect that he will react in very much the same way as the other night - apologising and promising it will never happen again so you may need to consider how that would make you feel. Is a simple apology enough for you to process what happened and will discussing it alone be enough to provide you with that closure? Do you trust him when he says it will not happen again? If not you may need to consider what you do need to bring closure, is there more you need from him or is it something that you need to examine more deeply with therapy?

Quietly mumbling “you’re welcome!” when you hold the door for somebody and they don’t say “thank you”

Anya Taylor-Joy, I don’t think she is ugly at all but I’ve heard a lot of people say they think she is weird looking

I pulled over to call my boyfriend when I was driving home but he didn’t pick up so I started driving again. When I got home I had a missed call and a voicemail from him but it was just this older lady speaking Spanish or some other language quickly and I couldn’t understand any of it.

I was so confused I called my parents and sent recordings to my friends and they couldn’t figure it out either. I was thinking some random lady had his phone, was he in trouble? Did he lose it? Was he cheating on me?

Eventually my boyfriend got home and I asked him what the fuck was going on and he was just as confused as me. I played it back and he bursts out laughing because it was him who left the voicemail, he just put on a funny voice and was speaking quickly. I saved it and now I can obviously hear it’s his voice but at the time I was convinced a Spanish lady left me a voicemail!

Odd socks

I never buy takeaway coffee

Depends what you mean by “having your shit together”

I don’t own a house, I’m not married, engaged or looking to have children, I don’t even have a job right now. Last year I quit my job that wasn’t making me happy, bought a van and my partner and I are currently travelling around Europe in it. I am more sure now of the person I am, the things I value in life and what I’m capable of. I can look back over the past 5/10 years of my life and see how much I have grown as a person and I’m so proud of that.

I could have ticked off more of those life goal boxes by now but I doubt I’d be as happy about it, and sure we will have all that and more to worry about when we get back but life doesn’t have a rule book and no one really “has it all together”. We are all just stumbling around overcoming the obstacles that are thrown at us so what’s the rush? It could all go tits up at anytime anyway so just enjoy the ride.

It’s a lot easier to wee outside with a penis. I recently got a shewee so I could wee easier when my boyfriend and I are out on long walks or hikes and every time I use it I feel unstoppable! Best purchase ever!

Only you two can figure out how you feel or what you want. To make it easier maybe you could try spending more time together in a pressure free environment and then revisit it at a later date.

Consider if you miss each other when you’re apart? Is this the reason you got back together? Is she the first person you want to tell about your day and vice versa? Are you excited to spend time together? Do they make you feel like a better version of yourself? Can you imagine a future together? Do your values align with each other - do you want the same things out of life?

Try not to see this as an all or nothing kind of scenario. It’s sounds a bit too premature to propose and if you both enjoy hanging out that doesn’t mean you need to break up either.

Maybe just try spending a bit more time together in person and talk to her about what she wants from your relationship - does she want to keep things casual or does she see it as something more serious? Does it align with what you want or can a compromise be made? Make sure you are both on the same page before making any big decisions, once you’ve established what you both want and if it’s the same thing you can make smaller steps towards a common goal.

Good luck!

Of course! I assumed the question was referring to romantic love so if not my bad!

Can’t find it or don’t feel the need to look for it?

Fun fact: historically, most research into sex and sexual pleasure was conducted by men so research into women’s pleasure was often undocumented or ignored. It wasn’t until 2005 that the full scale of the clitoris was introduced to the public eye by Helen O’Connell, and even now many people are still unaware that 90% of the clit’s structure is hidden below the surface.

The level of sex education the majority of people receive is largely to blame as rarely do we learn about the anatomy of the opposite gender - look how many times a man has been completely clueless about the number of holes a woman has down there. A huge amount of peoples sex education comes from porn which is not designed to be accurate and rarely involves itself in the clit anyway.

No, there’s a whole community of aromantic and asexual people that live happy and fulfilling lives

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