I think I'm going through a bit of depression so my thoughts may be even less clear than usual.
I don't know how I feel l about my marriage. It isn't bad - there is no abuse of any kind, no manipulation, no arguing, no major stress, etc. But it also isn't great - bedroom is nearly dead, vastly unequal responsibilities, etc. It almost feels like I'm just living with a good friend. I don't feel like my wife puts in enough effort in the relationship so I've stopped putting in as much effort also.
I don't know how to make things better without burning out. But things aren't bad enough to do anything drastic like leave.
I don't know - I don't think the way she is going about this is fair. I understand her being triggered but you clearly didn't do it maliciously nor did she even give you any indication of what was wrong at the time. It sounds like she needs some help regulating her emotions
Update: Upset my Wife by reading the room regarding sex
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