I'm afraid it isn't negotiable. He is just going to get worse and try to change you. I could never live with someone like that. He's been brainwashed and I'm afraid at this stage he's not going to change.

Garden Boy and kitchen girl are not words to use. People in Cape Town would never use those words. And I love our food.

I've heard that New Zealand is the most boring Country ever!

Compromise. Give her two names. One of your choice and one of your husband's.