I just want send you support and love. I vaped for about 4 weeks during the beginning of my pregnancy before I found out and it took me several days to fully stop. I remember the panic, guilt and anxiety it gave me. You are not a bad mom. Nicotine addiction is one of the most difficult to stop. You’re already showing your strength and bravery stopping for your baby! As far as the milk goes I think if you want to hold on to it for peace of mind then you should. You should be proud that you stored that many ounces. Honestly I’m jealous! I’m wishing you peace and clarity.

Yes! I barely remember getting epidural. The contractions were so bad. When the anesthesiologist came in I was so relieved that I didn’t care what he did to me! lol. All I remember is a slight pinch, then sweet relief!

I felt the same way. I felt very weird and uncomfortable with the thought of breastfeeding. I didn’t even like looking at women breastfeeding, although I thought it was a beautiful part of the journey. When I had my baby three weeks ago I started breastfeeding and the weirdness disappeared. I liked the experience and the closeness and bonding with my daughter. I did decide to pump pretty much exclusively for different reasons but I was surprised that u didn’t hate the experience.

This is exactly how I feel. Sometimes I feel so guilty for not enjoying maternity leave. I love my baby and so enjoy baby cuddles but the endless sitting, nap trapping, exhaustion and anxiety over doing things right is slowly driving me insane!

I’m so glad this was posted! I have 3 week old baby who refuses to sleep without someone holding her. About 3 days ago, I realized during my husband’s night shift he was sleeping holding her. I am terrified of SIDS but acknowledged that co-sleeping might need to be an option. We’re exhausted. I researched the safe sleep 7 and have been co-sleeping for two days. I still feel so guilty and can’t sleep soundly because I’m so anxious with her beside me. But I’m glad that I’m not alone and that others are being open about co-sleeping. There’s so much pressure on us to follow the ABC’s of safe sleep, but for most people it’s not realistic. Babies are wired to sleep with us. I saw an article the other day that said that a lot of people co-sleep but lie about it, because of social stigma. I bought a bedside sleeper as a last hope yesterday and will be trying that when it comes. That was a long ramble, but Thanks for your honesty.

This is TMI but I had terrible diarrhea the day before. I couldn’t stop using the restroom for several hours. I knew then she was coming soon.

I don’t have any experience with this, but I wanted to send you kindness and strength. I’m sorry you’re going through this, but you are making the best decision for you and your baby! Best of luck!

My baby is two weeks old. This week I googled how to get baby asleep in bassinet about 100 times. It was hopeless. Then my husband and I put her in her uppababy bassinet for a walk on Thursday. She slept soundly. After googling if it was safe for sleep, we decided to put the bassinet on the bed and put her in it at night. She slept for 4 hours straight the first night. Last night she only woke up two times. We have also Halo swivel bassinet that she absolutely hates. So I’m saying all this to say, maybe it could be the bassinet you’re using.

Had my daughter at 41 weeks. I had a scheduled induction, but went into labor naturally the day before my induction.

I love this! Thank you!

Thank you for this! I’ve been terrified of tripping and falling down the steps holding my baby. I’ve stopped wearing socks without grips. 🤦🏾‍♀️ At least I’m not alone.

Yes! I always thought my baby was going to be born late. My due date was 5/31 and I just always assumed she’d be born in June. She was born 6/8. I was scheduled for an induction on 6/7 and I went into labor naturally on 6/6.

I used to work for DFCS as a foster care case manager and the number of children on my case load diagnosed with ODD, MDD, and conduct disorder was staggering. After I went to grad school and started learning about trauma, I realized that most of those kids had PTSD and extensive trauma that “looked like” those other diagnosis. Now when I see a child diagnosed with those disorders, I always look at their trauma history. I’ve thought about his quite a bit. I wonder how many children would keep this diagnosis if he ruled out kids that have experienced moderate to severe trauma?

I just had my baby 9 days ago. I am in private practice and during the first trimester had another community job that I did several times a week. It was exhausting. Yes, try and eat before and after sessions. I didn’t tell my clients until the beginning of my 3rd trimester. But it was rough. I was tired, nauseous and generally over it most of the time. But the time flew by. I had renewed energy in my second trimester and the nausea disappeared. Just a heads up the fatigue returns in the 3rd trimester, but I took off about a month prior to delivery. Please feel free to message me if you have any other questions. And congratulations!

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8 cm? Wow! I hope to get mine around 6 cm. But we’ll see!

This is comforting! Thank you!

Thank you for the advice!! I’m going to call my provider and the hospital before I go in tomorrow. Im sorry that happened to you.

Thank you! I didn’t want to be turned away and told to come back later. 😅

I had small white dot on my babies heart they found around 20 weeks. My MFM said it was nothing to worry about and said that without any other signs and a negative NIPT it was incidental. At my last scan at 36 weeks it had almost disappeared. Good luck.

This post just made me think. I had a client recently who frustrated me to no end. She came to me saying that she wanted to work on trauma urgently. Everytime I gave her an intervention, task, challenge, she would come back with a reason that she couldn’t do it. Eventually I confronted her on this and she stopped bringing up the trauma in session. Just totally avoided it. It was so frustrating, but now I’m realizing this was probably a projection/countertransference issue. Guess who loves avoidance? Lol. Maybe I should go find a gold star.

I used to work in an intensive outpatient program with clients with a range of mental health and substance abuse issues. In my opinion motivational interviewing is the best modality with these clients. It sounds like your clients are all in the precontemplation stage of change. This is a very frustrating place to work with clients as a clinician, because there is no accountability or desire to change. MI uses techniques to help the client move through the stages of change. What worked best for me is trying to find something the client does care about. Their job, spouse, kids, ability to drive to work without needing an Uber, or money? What has this DUI affected that they might want to work on? Start there. Sometimes it can get them to start thinking about or caring about their treatment. Good luck!

“One day I decided to try something new” 🤔

In 1971, Karenga was sentenced to one to ten years in prison on counts of felony assault and false imprisonment.[22] A May 14, 1971, article in the Los Angeles Times described the testimony of one of the women:

“Deborah Jones, who once was given the Swahili title of an African queen, said she and Gail Davis were whipped with an electrical cord and beaten with a karate baton after being ordered to remove their clothes. She testified that a hot soldering iron was placed in Miss Davis' mouth and placed against Miss Davis' face and that one of her own big toes was tightened in a vise. Karenga, head of US, also put detergent and running hoses in their mouths, she said. They also were hit on the heads with toasters.”