However we decided to go to counseling as we had 3 kids. It really saved our marriage. We have had other ups and downs where therapy has definitely assisted us and now are even physically intimate more now than ever before similar to our first year of marriage. Recently, I have meet many couples who hate each other and will never go to counseling. Most of these men I know refuse to go. I dont understand this and want to know why this is and also if there are any other couples who have made it through because of counseling or therapy?
get her a bidet… they are cheap on amazon and can attached to any toilet
remember how he said you should go to therapy, this is why because the issue is still persists, you change one thing, but you don’t change your head and it just goes on and on and on and that is the issue and you should go to therapy and you should go with him!
my geeky husband said, he thinks he is just freaked out,
porn causes this problem 99.8 % of the time
Have her get her hormones checked. We have been married 28 years, a few years back I lost a lot of interest, finally got my hormones checked and we are back to 5-6 times a week. Our average through out our marriage though was once a week for a really long time, where often I just obliged but always got interested after obliging. Also we did marriage therapy for several years as this really assisted us in keeping our flame alive! Wanna know what the solution was to most of lack of interest and low flame, weekly and I mean dedicated weekly, it doesn’t have to cost anything but it has to be just you two, date night and hormones!
Go to the freaking counselor and talk about the issue. You’re clearly missing something that she’s not willing to share.
It’s interesting too because I really felt like I needed to learn so much and i did. I also picked a male counselor specifically be because I didn’t want my husband to think it was two women ganging up on him.
I like being woken up to my.husband instigating sex with me. I like a slow rub or poke. Doesn't bother me. It turns me on. I also like waking him up by sucking him off and he loves it! I don't like it when he cums and doesnt give me the chance too but he also has learned that and doesn't do ever anymore but did once r twice in the begging of our 28 year marriage. In my.experience When confronted about something it is our natural nature to argue or give rationale why we think what we did was fine but often that's just our initial reaction. We don't always feel deeply how we defensively respond at first. So immediately you responding back with divorce is overeacting in my opinion. I say see how he responds about it over time. Give him a chance to repent. No one is perfect! If he is always an ass then get the divorce. I also think you might have some issues you need to look at as to why this is so devestating to you. To me it wouldn't be.
Im pretty rationale in every day life. I am very independent and can do just about anything. But when I am pregnant I cry over carrying laundry down the stairs. I can say now, I was pretty psycho when I was pregnant. Definitely not myself. Cut her some slack. Hormones do a lot of weird stuff to our bodies, minds etc. You aren’t going through any body changes and trust me there is a lot! The only sad part is you could never tell me I was out of sorts when I was pregnant cause I would just freak. Maybe talk to her doctor with her and tell them the anxiety that you have noticed. This is pretty common among pregnant folk.
She is clearly being abusive, even if you love her. I can’t imagine being that mean to my husband even if I wasn’t in the mood. Clearly she is selfish. Have the honest communication and seek couples therapy. It wont get better on your own. This is also something i have done and ut helped our marriage a lot .
My husband and I have been married 26 years. We are 51 and 54. We have sex twice a day every day. Before this year it was once a week. Got my hormones checked and turns out I was lacking a lot. Even at our once a week was better than what you are getting. Dude, she is abusive! She clearly doesn’t sexually want you it is true. The question is why not? Have you put on weight, do you shower regularly, care about yourself? You need to ask her why and ask her to be bluntly honest. Because its either hormones, attraction, or abuse. But why not address it for real? If you cant talk about this, then it’s pointless to continue marriage.
The truth is the effort as well will make you sexy to him. Losing weight will make you more sexy to him but it’s the fact that you’ve given up I have become lazy that he’s not attracted. I had to talk like this once with my husband, neither of us are size 5 or smaller, but the mere fact that working out and having energy to work out regardless of size is way sexier than just doing nothing.
if it makes you nauseas its an allergy
He needs therapy. He hasn’t dealt with it all. You have to decide if you want to put up with him being closed off if he will not get therapy for himself. Consider this a blessing, he will either decide he wants to work on himself snd this or leave but you have to decide if you want to even give him that option.
When pregnant, hormones are whack, after being pregnant hormones are whack! Hormones really are a lot of the problem. I am 51 and have been through a lot. My husband and I have sex twice a day most days these days. Finally I have a doctor who listens to how I am feeling and its improved everything. I had no idea what I had been missing. How open is she to creating a better marriage?
Leave him because you both are selfish and only care about uno numero… Do yourself a favor and get an annulment. Sounds like you definitely need to stay single.
I think it’s it’s interesting that you would rather masturbate than have sex with your husband. What is going on with that? Also why id he so jealous of a vibrator? Is he really not as good? Clearly he’s jealous and feels that you’re not giving him enough and OK maybe you don’t need to but if you love and care about him, why don’t you guys kind of figure that out …a win-win? My husband and i have been married 28 years and have sex twice a day almost everyday… having a good sex life requires good communication and caring for one another, creating win/ wins not selfish behavior. And both of you seem very selfish.
My (21F) husband (26M) told me that he listens outside the bathroom door the entire time I'm showing to see if I'm masturbating.How can I tell him that this is a violation of my privacy and personal space without him feeling like I'm disrespecting him?
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