Dad caught me with weed around 1984, and i guess he figured his threats worked as it was never brought up again.
I was 50 when legalization happened here in Canada. Dad was almost 80.
I've been smoking weed almost daily since 1985.
When the cannabis stores started opening a few years ago, we were driving somewhere and I jokingly said we should stop in at a shop.
His response was a horrified "oh, no, you don't want to get mixed up in that stuff!"
Aaaaaahahaha... okay, pops. Go home to your fully stocked liquor cabinet. You got yours, but screw me getting mine.
That's when I realized just how effective 1950s propaganda about Marijuana being a magically evil equivalent to heroin was on people like dad.
My dad was born in 1950 and has been smoking weed since 1966. His dad was the same way and died of cirrhosis of the liver in the 70s.
Great story. The weed propaganda reached across the world in the 50s too. My dad came from India and he had the same stance on weed.
After two years they told me "We heard your lighter you know"
Why would you tell them?
I'd like my grandma to try some edibles though, this will help her relax a bit and sleep better. She likes to bake, she would make mad edibles herself imagine getting high with grandma, I wonder what crazy stories she'd have to tell
When my grandma was diagnosed with cancer she had me start getting her weed to help her and we had an awesome couple weeks before she passed
I say go for it. If your relationship is stable to begin with, asking if she wants to partake can’t hurt. You only get so many days with them- I wish I’d sat down with my grandma and heard about her life now, even knowing she’d never touch an edible.
My mom was going through her 2nd of 3 bouts against cancer, so my dad started growing at home to help her through chemo and he offered to give me an ounce a few thanksgivings ago. Since then, I gave them a few of my herb vaporizers which they use exclusively since it’s easier to dose and infinitely less harsh on the lungs. But my dad was a deadhead so he was always communicative about weed and the dangers of being irresponsible with drugs and alcohol when I was growing up and I didn’t do either as a teenager, so it wasn’t too awkward to bridge that gap as an adult. Little brother was also arrested for bringing weed to school, so I had the edge of talking about my use with them as an adult instead of them receiving a phone call from the principal and police sergeant haha
Your dad did parenting right.
My sister (21 at the time) got arrested for possession and my dad had to wake up in the middle of the night to bail her out. He was annoyed but understanding after years of being totally against it. So I spit out that I smoke too.
Months later he’s like “you have a bong?? I saw those in the 70s!” and says he’ll be trying it once he retires 😂
I graduated, got a great career, was paying for my parents bills, and decided to have an open conversation with my dad after weed was legalized in our state (California). Told him I smoked during college and it helped me maintain a good GPA while juggling multiple jobs since I paid for college myself. He told me he was always curious about trying it again, as the last time he tried it was when he was 17 in Germany, they smoked out of a newspaper - he took one hit, threw up, never tried it again. I offered him some, the stars aligned, and he said fuck it lets do it. He smoked a small bowl with me, we looked at each other and he gave me the biggest grin I've ever seen him have on his face my entire life.
Then out of nowhere, in an insane twist of fate, his mother from Germany called him just to catch up, and he was locked in an hour long conversation with her while he was getting incrementally more lit. He would talk to her, turn to me, and stick out his tongue or do a silly face. I think that crazy timing scared him because he never smoked with me again after that, but that I replay that core memory every now and then of a great time when he let down his guard and we bonded just a tiny bit.
My dad knows but we never really spoke about it, my mom still treats me as a serial killer if she hears about weed being a thing. I got everything going that a normal functioning adult should and she still thinks i'm ruining my life by smoking 1 joint a day..
Don't think she'll ever accept it.
My exact situation, and I've moved out now! haha
I moved out a long ass time ago but currently at my parents home for the past month already due to a bad fall that broke some bones unfortunately.
So i've been going through a unwanted t break.
Damn homie I'm praying for you. That next hit will be worth it I promise
I sure hope so, it was kinda fucked how i had my accident and the hospital said they smelled a strong weed odor on me. This being in a illegal country, they literally added it to my hospital report as if i was a mad junkie...
They gave me fentanyl without even asking me on the other hand... Fucking bullshit to be honest.
I’m an adult. My parents don’t need to know the details of my personal life.
Same way I tell them I take my seizure and liver disease medication 🤷♀️ meds are meds 💨
Yup yup. I was the same and didn’t even pause to think of them possibly taking it negatively. It’s just meds and that’s how I presented it.
Yep and anyone who doesn’t understand can fuck right off including my parents. My safety comes first.
Never told them yet. Been wondering how do i tell em
They know.
Probably ;D If they dont they are dumb or im just lucky
Welcome to the club 😂
I had the opposite experience. My dad sat down in the car next to me on our way home from a restaurant, and said "So, I just wanted you to know that I smoke weed. Do you have any major opinions on that?", and I said no. We then lit up, and smoked a joint. Then we went in the house, my dad gave my mom a look, and my mom said "I bet yall are hungry!" and we all cackled laughing. Was a good day.
If you live with them they probably already know but if you live by yourself then it doesn’t really matter you can just “accidentally” leave a joint out and see what they say
Point to it and ask your mom if it is here. She says no you say 'must be mine then' then light it.
Recreational use became legal in my state and they started chain smoking cigarettes during the pandie so they literally couldn’t say anything even if they wanted to.
The closest my dad got was “there is more to life then getting high and playing video games”
And you know what dad. There isn’t actually that much more.
He's right, though, there's getting high and going on a hike, or getting high and going to the beach...
I got high and hiked in Banff. Pretty peak. lol.
Garden of the gods and table rock lake have been my favorites so far.
I just did. Then I went and smoked a joint on their deck. My mom was like "D:<" and then we moved on with our lives.
She later gave me rolling papers when I ran out, so...
Your mom was cool about it. Mine found my stash when I was at school junior year and she tried to call the cops before my dad stopped her. She was really gonna have her house raided for her son having 2g of weed? My dad talked sense into her but she was livid.
I was a college graduate adult at the time. What's she going to do, ground me?
Haha true, I still lived at home so I would wait till my parents left for the day and I'd grab my pipe n chill on the back deck, bring a can of ax wit me incase someone came home early lol
Ultimately I just was calling the bluff that she wanted to have her adult son come for holidays and wasn't going to burn me for it. Worked :D
as an adult, my parents already knew when i was a teenager. ended up having to come clean at 17 that i smoke weed after i got too high one night and couldn’t hide the fact i was high.
I lit the bowl at her table lol
My dad offers me weed tea every time I visit. I never needed to tell them
My dad smoked in college too so ultimately we gave up the facade and both admitted we loved MJ.
I didn't. I was straight up caught at age 15. Even back then in the 90s my mother knew that it was no big deal and she didn't even get upset. After that, I no longer had to sneak around to do it. My mother allowed me to smoke in my room afterwards.
your mom sounds chill
She definitely is. 😁
Planted 10 plants in their apartment, then got caught by the police.
lmao damn
They found our abt me using acid and shrooms ages ago and made a huge deal of that, and ever since I think they've just suspected I smoke a lot of weed. I mean I don't exactly come across as anything except a total stoner. Then come to find out my mom tried a hash brownie in her travels in her 20s, my dad got way too lit on an edible during a business trip to Cali just a couple years ago and they've both snuck edibles home from legal states as well as had the occasional puff at parties with neighbors.
Ofc, we're familia Latina which means I found this out secondhand, we all know about each other's use, but it's an unspoken agreement that we never bring it up. Which is a shame bc with both my sisters already smoking or taking edibles, the whole family partakes in some capacity and I feel like we'd all get along better if we all got high together on some sort of regular basis
They figured it out when I told them I was managing a dispensary.
I was 23 and going through a tough moment in my life. My friends could see but my family couldn’t. They reached out on my behalf and told them they were gunna supervise me while I “medicated” my first time. I had no idea they knew. The next day my family told me they knew and didn’t mind as long as I was safe. Then my mom whipped out her tiny rig and said “finally, I can smoke in front of you and not feel like a bad parent” lmao
Believe it or not, a lot of people don’t care in the end, they just care about your safety.
Went to a dispensary with my dad, however I can never tell my mum unless it’s legalised she hates it 🤣
My mom knows because she’s cool, and I bought her a pen once when she had a migraine and it seems to have helped. My dad can go fly a kite, nothing I’ve ever done has been good enough for him 😂
When I was a teenager my mom knocked on my door to ask me something. I opened the door, she asked me the question, and as she turned around to walk away she turned back a second and asked "You smoking pot in there?" to which I replied "Yep"
She just walked away and said "Can you do it outside, please? That stuff stinks."
To which I also replied "Yep, sure."
My older sister smoked before I did and my mom smoked when she was younger. Wasn't a big deal at all as long as we were safe.
Edit: Didn't realize the title said "as an ADULT" but hey it's still a fond memory I have
didn’t have to tell them. papa used to grow it so was kinda inevitable that i’d become a stoner 😚💨
I never had to tell them because my mom just kinda figured it out with the smell. XD but I also started smoking around 25 so there wasn't much they could say. Lol
I lit a fatty in front of my mom and when she reacted all shocked I said "What? I got a prescription, jeez..." With my dad I just spoke about it while I explained to him that psilocybin helped me manage mu cluster headache and told him "Unfortunately they don't do prescriptions for psilocybin but at least they got the weed handled now."
I mean by that point I had moved out so they didn't really give much of a shit. The benefits of getting in to a trade being the lack of student debt makes it a lot more feasible to get your own apartment before age 30. I guess not living in some of the biggest and most expensive metro areas (New York, SoCal) helps as well.
You got it backwards. My parents told me that they smoke weed. Maybe a bit too soon, I was like 10 at the time.
I didn't lock my front door.
My dad told me he did first.
My dad has smoked weed since he was like 10, maybe younger, and he made sure I knew what I was doing when I started
My medical card accidentally got shipped to my mom’s house who I don’t live with anymore. And she kept texting “what is in this Florida department of health envelope?!?! I can feel a card in there!!!” She knew…
I started smoking when I was 17. With my parents.
Mind you that was 20 years ago
i said i used to buy weed from my middle school best friend my mom knew back when i was in college. she has a pen now lmao
after years of going back and forth about weed i just planted a couple of strains in the backyard and that pretty much confirmed what they knew
I said to them I was pissed off at my doctors for not believing my pain is real so I started to self medicated. My parents are both alcoholics so it's a cold war.
Btw I finally have an appointment with some specialists coming up so I can hopefully get some answers
first time i smoked a bowl was w my dad when i turned 18 💀
I never needed to tell my dad because he was the one who introduced me to it for my migraines, but my mom found out when she told me she smoked and I just kinda was like "cool, me too" and now we blaze together regularly
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Caught parent smoking so I just lit my own and sat in silence for about 5 minutes before we both just started laughing our stoned bones off.
They know
My dad was a stoner as a teen, he never gave a shit lol
I never told my mom anything. She was the one who invited me and my friends to start smoking as 8th graders.
wtf
I’m about to be 41 and have still not told my parents lol.
Offer a rip… lol
They knew by the time I was 14 😂
I just told them. I knew my dad smoked, growing up. And I knew my mom would love me either way.
I flat out told them, and suggested they try it too. took them to a dispensary, bought my mom some THC/CBD oil to help her sleep, and just didn't make it a big deal.
to be fair I was always a tightly wound person, and my dad would constantly tell me "go smoke a joint, you need to relax". just took a while for me to finally take his advice.
I didn't. My mom caught me in my teens smoking with a friend in my room and said "if you're going to be smoking that shit in my house, get better stuff. That shit stinks", and I didn't have the heart to tell her that meant it was some good Skunk.
Me now being nearly 40, and her nearly 70, she started smoking for her back pain. I just got her high, and her and my dad are talking about something in their old neighborhood for the last half hour. He's sober, but she's high as a kite.
Now she's talking about the circus when she was 10.
The cops did 😂
My mom passed me a blunt lol
Y'all have some shitty parents. My mom usually gives me a chillum and a zip when I see her. She finds little pipes she thinks are cool, buys them, and usually has one for me when I see her and since she has more money than me she also gives me weed since I always need it lol.
lol I got caught in 7th grade
I’m 47 and I think they know, but we don’t talk about it. My parents are “good Christians” they don’t talk about a lot of things.
My dad was a huge pothead so I told him I partake as well. After that he became the plug for me. Worked out in my favor but not always for others.
my dad knew from day one, when i moved in with him he would pass me the bowl anytime we were alone and he was smoking. then his wife (who smoked with him) would smell it on me when i came home from friends and bitch my ear off
I started smoking around 17, had my stash hidden in a smell proof jar and my mom said she was "cleaning" my room 1 day when I was at school and found my lock box n container in it, she even Jimmied open the box.... I got the text from my dad saying ur mom found your box, you better have a good answer when you get home. I got home terrified of what was gonna happen since my mom is an authentic Italian woman. My dad sat me down n told me how she tried to immediately call the cops when she found it.....my mom was gonna get our house raided because she didnt like weed.....worst day of my life. To this day she doesn't like that I smoke but because I went through the process of getting my card she couldn't really fight me on it aside from "you can't smoke in the house" or " you better not bring that smell back in with you" so glad to be on my own now so i can smoke out my room all I want lol
My parents have known I smoke weed since I was 16 is when I first told them. They know I smoke weed. It's never been a sercet . I'm in my 30s
They have seen alcohol fuck my life up
And they have seen weed make it better
They are fine with weed
My father actually came clean to me that he smoked cannabis my whole life after a bad event in his life. He probably knew I'd been smoking since the moment I started. I thought I was slick.
I didn’t. I got pretty lucky lol. My dad’s been a stoner since he was 12 so he caught on pretty fast and we’ve been getting high and building his company together everyday since. Ironically enough, the weed actually made us closer. We were practically strangers beforehand lol and I wanted nothing to do with him
I waited until legalization before I brought it in the house. Before, my mom always said if she caught me with weed, she would drive my ass straight to rehab. I only smoked out with friends or at parties before. If I ever brought weed in the house before, she would have sniffed it out immediately, which is what she did.
My mom confronted me politely, she said that she is aware that pot is now legal, I'm an adult, and she trusts me. As long as I keep my full-time job, help with tasks at home, only smoke outside, and don't do anything harder, she is fine. She also mentioned the smell and that I need to do something about it because it's lingering through the house, which I did.
My step father passed me the joint front of my mother ... I still remember her eyes when I took the joint haha
My folks live 220 miles away. I will go visit a few times a year and can call that weekend a bit of a break. They are staunchly anti-weed. Every time it comes up about legal MJ, my dad makes sure to take the opportunity to say that any place with legal weed is just full of homeless people and smells like piss. Not sure how any of that is related, but ok dad...
There's really no need to involve them in my evenings. I just keep my mouth shut and know I'm not getting stoned with mom and dad.
My mom smoked and actually offered me some. We kept it from ymdad bc even tho he smoked, he was weird about it when his kids did. We just told him the other day! I was content to just smoke in front of him because I didn't see it as a big deal, but my sister felt it needed to be said, so I let her, and now everyone knows!
My mom is an old school hippie my sister ratted me out to her while they were smoking when I was 14. When we got home she sat me down and asked if I wanted to smoke a joint. Still smoke together every time I see her
I needed there help not going into a state of psychosis on mushrooms and the next day I was like oh yeah, and I smoke weed
I didn't they probably knew because I had pipe collection since 16year old. I used to say it's for tobacco but parent knew what's up. As long as I don't smoke openly and act weird they don't mind why would they? It's not like a hard drug it's only herb. I even brought my pops some weed to try because he said he never tried it he was pretty cool about it actually was kinda happy he tried it but we never spoke off it again and he never asked for the stuff
Well I was in high school but It was kind of an unspoken known thing. My parents would make comments about my room smelling but never asked if I was smoking. It was like they knew but didn’t want to ‘know’ if that makes sense lol.
One day my dad just told me not to do it in the house during the day while everyone’s up lol.
Mom's only one alive, she doesn't agree but she knows. Doesn't bother me about it. I'm 42 male.
I started working in a dispensary after legalization happened in my State...
I mean I gave my dad a few joints I rolled up so 😂
They kept finding not adult me using it
I would like to but no way they would take it the right way despite being a successful person.
the night i met my stepfather he showed me how to pack a blunt with a black & mild on his Texas porch on Christmas Eve
I started selling my dad his bags
I just sat my mom down and was like “I be higher than giraffe ass” then I made her an edible and she respects my choice to partake but she never wants weed again since that edible lol
My parents have always smoked weed so I didn’t have to wait until I was completely an adult to tell them. They wouldn’t smoke with me until after I was 18 because I guess they felt they didn’t want to encourage that shit until I could decide to do it as an adult. But yeah, there was never any heavy conversation that ever had to happen. I feel super lucky for that.
It was obvious at 15
I sort of just got to the age where I knew it wouldn't matter what the reaction would be, I could just go home haha.
I told my mom when she visited me earlier this year but let her know I wasn't abusing it (and I drank a lot less since starting it) and she was surprisingly cool with it. My parents were pretty strict about drugs and even smoking while I was growing up, but when I was old enough to drink they accepted that it was something that was gonna happen regardless. I thought it would be different for marijuana, but by the second night of her visit she had wanted to try an edible so I gave her a 5mg THC/ 10mg CBD gummy. I haven't told my dad yet because I figure he's not gonna be as accepting
My mom asked me. I live in a legal state so she doesn't care, sounds like she would care if I was in an illegal state
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I stopped hiding it.
I came clean about my medicinal use the other day, my mother is very anti drugs but luckily she's also a loving and understanding person and I think she appreciated me coming clean. I told her about my dry herb vape (mighty) and she seemed to like that I wasn't actually smoking.
My mom actively supported me smokin when I started and even helped me going the legal route lol
They asked me and my brother if we smoked (we were both in our 20s), and we confirmed. Easy.
I was 24 and accidently messaged my Mom asking when we were going to a friend's house to buy weed instead of my friend lmao.
I live in an area where the general attitude towards weed is really relaxed so they didn't care and found it hilarious plus the fact I was already an adult made it not a big deal lol. I'm sure if I was 16 they would be more upset.
They shared with me and commented on how little I was coughing.
My mom came home early from work one night while I was smoking in the hot tub.
She was extremely angry until she realized I was smoking the green, not tobacco. Then she hopped in the tub and smoked with me.
I didn’t. Because I’m an adult and don’t need to share my medical history
Got my mom high this past Mother’s Day, she used to pop randoms on me monthly through highschool.
As a teenager my mom knew bec weed smells even tho my mom smokes in the house I thought they wouldn’t know I did so eventually she just gave up and got searched at school a few times so she got those calls too 😭
I came home drunk and threw up on my brother. Dad thought I smoked too much weed
My dad smoked when he was younger, so it was never a big deal. My parents just asked me to wait until I turned 18 to try it lol, which I did! I took my first hit on my 18th birthday (I'm 30 now). They know I smoke near-daily, and we've even taken trips to different dispensaries together.
I think my dad knows? I wait til he's in bed and go outside and hang in my car and listen to music. I always say like "going outside to talk on the phone/listen to a podcast and not keep you up." As long as I don't do it in front of him, I think he's alright with it. or he actually has no idea. I'm fine with either.
never told them, but they know, always saying to stop smocking the crack lol
Mom was on hospice. Three kids. Me, older sis, older bro. Bro has been a pothead for decades. Sis smoked occasionally. I smoke for pain, anxiety and sleep (doc prescribed, not for rec)
Her last 24 hours, before she got into her bed for the last time, we all sat around her kitchen table and bro pulls out the baggie and we all started drooling. Hahahaha Mom looks around the table and said "I FKN KNEW IT! ALL MY KIDS ARE POTHEADS! Hand it over!" And that's how mom figured out we all smoked, and we all got stoned with mom less than a day before she passed. Honestly, she wouldn't give a shit about weed. Anything else, yes. Weed ...nah.
My parents found out when I was 18 lol. I smoked on our back deck in the middle of the night all the time and my step dad (super anti weed) almost caught me a bunch of times. Somehow he never actually did though. I could always hear him walking toward the back door and got rid of it before he came outside. My mom’s cooler though so I just straight up told her when I started smoking.
I didn't, my brother did for me. I went to live with my mom as an adult in my mid 20s, with my husband and our toddler. My brother was like 16-ish and started smoking with his friends, so I smoked him out a couple of times. One of his friends got busted so his whole friend group got paranoid and stopped smoking in fear of also getting busted. The little snake waited a month for it to clear out of his system before going to tell my mom that me and my husband were smoking pot. She lectured us about smoking weed while being parents. I never turned on him even though he's the one who ratted me out.
I didn't, it was my parents who slowly opened me up to weed after being the DARE-following goody child that they raised, probably only to their own regret when I freaked out when I found their weed stash at the age of 14. It was all very embarrassing, mostly for them I'd imagine. After that happened they were very supportive of me trying it when I felt comfortable doing so.
Just play a loud bong smoking sound when they're talking during phone calls
My family has always been pretty chill with me and my siblings about this kind of stuff. My mom wasn't really worried cuz she knew she raised responsible kids and was more concerned about abuse rather than use. She knew it was impossible to deter us from experimenting as teens, she was one during the 70s lol. So instead she just made sure we knew the risks and knew what our limits were and to stay within them. So when I told my mom I had tried weed with a friend she was like "okay be safe, get your homework done first" lol.
Now that it's legal here she cares even less. She doesn't personally like it but she understands that some people, myself included, prefer it over alcohol. And it's not a big deal to enjoy some weed to relax instead of a glass of wine.
If my cat was still alive I would be blaming him for the skunk smell LOL she believed it for the longest until the smell stayed long after my cat was gone LOL
Why would I tell my parents I smoke weed? It’s not part of my identity, it’s just something I do.
They know man, they’re not stupid
On my 21st birthday at dinner my parents said “we know you smoke weed, admit it” I didn’t admit it just because it was funny at the time. I still won’t but they know and they don’t care. I even gave my dad edibles a few time.
I smoked in front of them with my GF.
I dab in the house daily and they smell it.
They’re cool about it now.
It just came up naturally. Also I live in Denver so it's kinda just assumed you've at least tried it.
When they legalized in my state I told them about my new garden hobby.
Mine found out when I was a teen & after them throw my bongs out multiple times they let me smoke at home finally at the age of 19
I mentioned it one day as if i had already told them to minimize the shock factor and as part of a story i was telling them and it went well!
Well, they just kind of looked the other way up until I had a massive hemorrhagic stroke. Now, they really don’t care.
Damn, you good bro?
I lived, that’s all I care about.
I didn’t as I smoked with them as a teenager
They never really caught me. I'm 43 and I suspect they know because I used to work at a weed farm and I live in a recreational state and I used to smoke and they know I used to smoke cuz I got arrested for it once. I was court ordered to go through a rehab so they think I just quit or I think they think. I really couldn't tell you but at this point if they asked me I'm going to be honest
I was silent. The weed was loud