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went to the movies and came home late. Wasnt disturbing any body. Just met with passive aggresiveness
Rant/Ventdont wanna be dramatic but I dont even want to talk to her
I totally get that. Stick with the ignoring part. Don’t pay rent and/or have your name on the lease? You don’t want her to kick you out for a dumb reason
i dont have enough money to move out right now but I will silently keep building my savings. I had more, but I gave them all to her in a time of need :/ lol, but thank you for responding it maans alot. I hope youre doing ok
|gave them all to her in a time of need|
And this is how she repays you? You’re both adults and if she is blind to how she’s acting then idk. My mom’s almost exactly the same way lmao.
I’m fine just living
Why do you live with her when you are 22. Move out.
i dont have the funds but thanks
You might not have the fund right now but you can start preparing. It doesn’t take a million dollars to live on your own. Just start something to prepare to live on your own. It is hard to be independent adult being when you are financially dependent on your parents. As long as you are living with your parent’s money, they control your life. Get financially independent. Pay your own stuff with your hard earned money. I am not blaming you for your mom’s unfair treatment. I am saying that you have the power to get out of there and live happier life. Your mom sounds really stressful and you don’t need to put up with it. I want you to realize your power to discern other people’s behavior and put some boundaries around you. You are an adult and you can use your personal agency to get what you want.
im working on getting the funds right now we’ve had alot of financial stress. i understand what you mean but you dont know peoples situations to be saying things like “why do you live with your mom at 22” if I had the money I wouldnt still be here if I had the means to leave.
So, get prepared to leave. You might have a situation now but it is all up to you. You cant just sit there whining about your mom. If you have time to watch movie, work and earn more money in that time. If money is such a problem between your mom and you, maybe she doesn’t want you to spend ANY money because she is stressed. I didn't mean why do you live with your mom when you are 22 in a demeaning way to blame you. I meant you have an agency to move out. It is not that hard to earn money and live on your own. You are not obligated to financially support anyone but yourself. Here is the famous quote from Oprah Winfrey. She also used the sentence “why do you have to be shown 29 times?” but it doesn't mean she is blaming anyone. I don't blame you but you have a power. https://youtube.com/shorts/AaHYkpANxYI?si=-2kO93E5MNKraNDz
My mom’s the same way, I just ignore her remark’s and/or change the subject. If she tried to keep bringing up the passive aggressiveness then she’s striving to give you a hard time and you should try to move out.