For the past 20 years of my life, I have battled with depression. It has been a constant shadow following me, no matter what I did or where I went. I have seen countless therapists, doctors, and medics, hoping that someone could help me find a way out of this darkness. With each visit, I received a new diagnosis and was prescribed different medications, but none of them seemed to work for me.
After many failed attempts at finding a solution through traditional methods, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I thought that no one knew me better than I knew myself, so I could surely figure out how to overcome my depression on my own. I tried various self-help techniques, from exercise to meditation, but nothing seemed to make a significant impact. I tried everything even unconventional methods, but all I did was trick myself into believing I could find my cure. It was a constant cycle of trial and error, and each time I failed, it only added to my feelings of hopelessness and despair.
As the years went by, I became more and more frustrated with myself. Why couldn't I just snap out of it? Why couldn't I find the strength within myself to overcome this? These questions consumed me, and I began to resent myself for not being able to fix my problems.
But little did I know; that this journey of self-help would eventually lead me down a path of self-discovery and recovery.
I started by making a phone call for help since I hit rock bottom, and no longer had an unconventional desire to "cure" myself. I began researching different methods for managing depression. Slowly but surely, I began to understand that there was no one-size-fits-all solution for mental health issues. What worked for others may not work for me, and that was okay.
I also realized that my self-help approach was flawed. Instead of trying to heal and improve myself, I was constantly looking for ways to "fix" myself. This mindset only added more pressure and negativity to my already fragile mental state.
So, I decided to change my approach. Instead of trying to fix myself, I focused on accepting and understanding myself. I started journaling and reflecting on my thoughts and emotions, trying to figure out the root causes of my depression.
Through this process, I discovered that my depression was a result of past traumas and unresolved issues. I had been ignoring these underlying problems and burying them deep within myself, hoping they would eventually disappear. But they didn't. They stayed with me, causing me pain and suffering.
It was a difficult and emotional journey, but with the help of therapy, I slowly started to confront and work through these traumas. It wasn't easy, and there were many setbacks along the way, but I kept pushing forward.
I also learned that self-care is crucial when it comes to managing depression. Taking care of my physical and emotional well-being was not a selfish act but a necessary one. I prioritized getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that brought me joy and relaxation.
As I continued on this journey of self-discovery, I also gained a new perspective on life. I realized that my depression did not define me; it was a part of me, but it did not have to control me. I started to see myself in a more positive light and recognized my strengths and abilities.
Of course, there were still days when my depression seemed to take over, but now I had the tools and knowledge to cope with it better. I no longer felt like a victim of my mind; instead, I became the driver of my own life.
Looking back at the past 20 years of my life, it's hard to believe how far I have come. From feeling like there was no hope for me to now being in a place of self-acceptance and growth, it has been a long and challenging journey.
But through it all, I have learned some valuable lessons. First and foremost, mental health is not something that can be fixed overnight. It takes time, patience, and a lot of self-compassion. Second, there is no shame in seeking help and support. No one has to go through mental health struggles alone.
And most importantly, I have learned that sometimes, the "wrong" way can lead us to the right path. If I had never tried to help myself in my way, I may have never discovered what truly worked for me. It was through my mistakes and failures that I found my way to self-discovery and recovery.
If you are struggling with depression or any other mental health issue, know that you are not alone, and there is always hope for a better tomorrow. Don't be afraid to seek help and find your path to healing. And remember, it's okay to make mistakes and take detours on your journey; they may just lead you to where you need to be.