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I’ve been like severely depressed because I’m so exhausted. I don’t have family, friends, interests, and hobbies. I don’t know myself outside of being a mom and wife.
Where do you live if you live near me Vancouver Canada I can spare some time in summer 9-330 to lend a hand ,sahm but my littles going to daycamp
Omg i’m going through the same thing !
One. We know how hard this is and you are not alone and justified in how you feel. It is exhausting. Doesn’t make you a bad parent. We feel you and have been there. Two. Remember, this stage won’t last. You’ll need to enforce some good behaviors and habits so she can learn and self soothe. Others have suggested, “mommy be right back” and play peek a boo with this phrase and let it stretch out to few seconds to a minute and then some. Also try playing hide and seek and start counting. They play and learn the same time while doing something independently. Three. Don’t take it personal. Don’t that it personal, you are her lifeline and also goes for your husband. Many children cling to one parent over the other until they are old enough to understand. Four. Socializing at the playground or park as she sees other children playing independently can also help. Children learn quickest from watching other children. Five. It goes get easier and it will get better. Hang in there. I just gave birth to my 3rd baby 3 weeks ago and have two rambunctious 4 and 2.5 yo boys. At night I sing and lay with them but I tell them “I’ll sing you 5 songs then we go night night.”
Have you tried putting her somewhere safe and saying "Mommy will be back in 5minutes" and... leaving for 5 minutes?
Yes she'll scream and cry, but she's nearly 2, she will understand your words even if she doesn't like it. Better to do it controlled in this way than losing your shit, walking away and feeling guilty about it.
I'd do it 3-4 times a day of 5mins, maybe in the crib woth a pile of books and toys, maybe in front of the TV with the door shut IF IT'S SAFE. Do you have a stair gate between rooms? Get one. Put her on one side of the gate, shut the gate. She might scream through the bars, just keep telling her "mommy has 5minutes to do washing", 4, 3, 2, 1, then go to her again, this means she'll be able to see you the whole time.
It might sound a bit mean, but what you're describing is unsustainable and at nearly 2, you're not neglecting your baby by doing this, you're creating a system to save your sanity.
O dear...please just plop her in front of tv fr a while. I hope then u can catch a break. Do this fr Ur sanity every day fr an hour or 2
I’ve been utilizing the tv but it doesn’t help at all, she still wants me to hold her while she watches it. I know she’s teething with her canines and molars coming in so she’s in a lot of pain and needing lots of comfort but it’s been so rough.
I was in the same boat with my last pregnancy to a T And my baby now is currently almost 2, my son is almost 4. And she is that level of clingy. It’s the age I think. Once the baby came my son clung to his dad instead, so it wasn’t as bad as i anticipated. But for after birth (if you husband goes back to work early) I’d get baby gates everywhere. My son kept running away getting into things during the worst moments. Ms. Rachel and Blippy got me through the first few months, and I previously had stated my kids would not watch those shows lol.