Men are visual. In their mind, they have a fantasy partner and they are forever trying to get you to be like her. I’m 52, small and in good shape. My husband is forever trying to get me to dress like I’m 20, in tank tops, tiny cutoffs, bodysuits and bikinis. It’s nice that he likes my body but In the end I dress in what makes me comfortable. Sometimes, when I think it’s appropriate, I wear what I know he wants me too. You can try a similar strategy.