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I’m (24F) asked to coffee by a married man (32M). What should I do?
I definitely would not get a coffee with a married man as his wife would not likely be comfortable with that. Especially as you are like 10 years younger than her. That's a married womans worst nightmare.
He’s married. He knows that you know that he’s married. So very likely he sees you as a friend and enjoys chatting with you. That being said you don’t need to go out of your way to get coffee with him. If you happen to bump into him at work, sure get coffee.
- I am not sure why you need to ask what to do here as the answer is obvious unless you WANT to get involved with a married man
If it's a coffee and a catch-up at work, I personally wouldn't read too much into it.
But if it's a coffee and a chat outside of work, I personally wouldn't do it because of how it could look.
Does his wife know he asks you out? Is she okay with that? If any of these two are no, than avoid.
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I mean there's nothing wrong with being friends with a person of the opposite sex. Just tread lightly here, especially if there's attraction. Soon to be fathers may sometimes do stupid things and you don't want to be a homewrecker. Make sure you're on the same page with his wife.
Bloody run a mile ,it's a disaster waiting to happen. He's probably just after a side piece..🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️
In all my years, I have never had coffee with a man (other than family) alone except the one I was in a relationship with. I don’t want to look like the other woman.
Now, I’m sure there are exceptions, but I have yet to find a reason just yet.
I've taken work buddies, men and women, to get lunch during our break times. None of us were ever looking for anything other than a distraction from work.
Your coworker suggested having a conversation at work over a cup of coffee - that’s not exactly an invitation to sin. I think you’re letting your own attraction convince you there’s something happening here that isn’t actually happening. It’s fine to have coffee with a coworker.
I mean coworkers have a coffee together time to time to talk work stuff. Doesn’t have to mean anything. It could be something but until it is I wouldn’t read into it too much.
The main con I see here is that you are already attracted to him. Of course men and women can be friends. But they can't if sexual attraction or romantic feelings enter the mix. Don't get coffee alone with this guy, you will end up heartbroken. That's my advice.