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I (22F) just learned my best friend (21F) has been domestically abusing her boyfriend (20M). What do I do?
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What you've just said is so so dangerous I just want you to know that. You've given OP a reason to believe her best friend's manipulation was repentance, when it very very clearly was not. You've given her justification she can use to go back and continue being manipulated and treated terribly if not abused herself by this woman.
She's "not hiding it anymore" because the secret is out. Did you not notice the "tearful confession" happened right after the secrets were spilled, which by the way was a night that ended in a life-threatening situation? And by the way, abusers continue to abuse the people who "try to help them get better". She doesn't have self-control issues, that's not what abuse is. You sound like you don't know anything about abuse and it is so frustrating to watch you just dole out really dangerous information because of it.
I'm not trying to suggest that OP can cure Chloe. OP absolutely should support Dan taking this matter to the police.
Chloe must get help, Chloe must face this as an awful thing she's been doing and agree to stop. If she does not repeatedly show behaviours that affirm her intent to stop them OP should make it well known that Chloe is dangerous and have nothing more to do with her.
However, if Chloe has realised that her behaviour needs to change, and has started taking steps on that path, she will need people to support her and hold her accountable.
And where do OP's needs factor in here? You're still offering her up to be a known abuser's punching bag and likely enabler. Chloe is not entitled to help and MANY times harsh lessons are only learned when safety nets leave, not when enabling continues.
At no point have I suggested that OP not take care of her own needs first. She should absolutely not be Chloe's punching bag. OP would not be wrong to abandon Chloe and if OP doesn't feel she can hold Chloe to account, or if Chloe doesn't seek and maintain the help she needs, or if Chloe is violent to OP, or even if OP just gets overwhelmed, OP should definitely abandon Chloe.
I'm not suggesting that OP forgive or forget Chloe's manipulation.
I agree, Chloe isn't entitled to help.
But people can abruptly realise they are fucked up and need to change without first destroying all of their relationships with everyone who cared about them. Can Chloe? I don't know. It depends on whether she actually is remorseful. Maybe she isn't. But if she is, having a friend who demands better from her, who warns future partners and ensures they know that they'll be believed, etc, along with extensive personal work that Chloe has to do for herself, will help.