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‘20F’ kissed ‘40M’ married coworker. Should I tell my boyfriend?
You are the other woman in any situation where you are engaging inappropriately with a person in a committed relationship. You made an assumption that what he told you about his marriage was truthful. However, cheaters lie, often. They manipulate situations for their benefit. You liked him and were willing to believe what he told you without even confirming his story, because you liked his attention. It seems you have matured now but, anyone willing to cheat on their spouse should automatically be treated as someone who is also willing to lie to get their way with you, their spouse, whomever.
This is something you probably just need to deal with Ideally with therapy if you can. You are realizing you may have gotten taken advantage of or maybe you're not the person you thought you were and are troubled with morals you wouldn't normally break. It happens.
Sure if you feel you need to tell him then sure. But really there's no need. It's entirely a you problem. If you want to share it with him you can.
Look you might feel a sense of guilt for it but we all make mistakes and I think that if you can look past that as much as you can you’re doing your best. You might try and get therapy or talk to a psychologist about it if you want to. Were you dating your boyfriend at the time? If you weren’t then he doesn’t need to know unless it’s bothering you that much. The reason why I say he doesn’t have to know is because whilst it is part of your history you have no obligation to tell him because you weren’t together. If you were together then you should probably tell him in a gentle manner.
Ew. Not really, but you were flirting with becoming the other woman.
I'd go with disgust, but it's in the past. It was 5 years ago, sis.
No, you don't have to tell every embarrassing mistake you made in the past to your boyfriend.
This is completely up to you.
If you still work with the old dude, then you probably should tell your boyfriend so he is aware.
If not and you don't work with or interact with the old dude anymore, leave it in your past.
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