My boyfriend (28M) lives in another country and long distance is very difficult with him, because he's too good with words but when it comes to action, it doesn't reflect. Everytime I bring an issue, like he's not doing bare minimum, not writing me in the morning, he just says he has some health issue, for example his nose is bleeding. I'm not saying he's lying about it, but then all my issues go unaddressed, and when I try to bring it up, he says whole relationship is just about you. I don't know how to tackle this situation, because I don't know how to react to such situations.
I (28F) is in long distance relationship with my boyfriend (27M) and everytime I bring an issue, he gets sick, what shall I do?
uhm how long have you guys been together? he is acting so childish. i used to be like you with my ex bf until i get tired and overwhelmed
We are together for two years now, all time long distance. But I do tell him this is childish, he doesn't understand neither wants to change until I say I will leave you, then blame me that he's scared I will leave him
You’re wasting your life. He’s lazy and can’t be bothered because you’re not a priority in his daily life.
You don’t have a “relationship”, you have an online friend who doesn’t prioritise you.
He does love me, and I do too, but everyone thinks these are so tertiary things, and can be changed, so I need to be patient
He can be the sweetest and most loving person ever, but if he doesn't follow through you're wasting your time. You do not need to wait until he learns how to follow through. You can cut your losses at any time.
The thing is, he says see how I act when we are together, I always listen to you and there are no problems, all problems are because of distance, and then I told him now we are in long distance that's why you do those things when we meet in person, but that will fade away too when we start living together and he says do you think that about me ? I said no, I'm just telling you fact, and then he says if you think like that what can I do?
How long do you anticipate before you are no longer long distance? Are the things he's not following through on delaying when you'll no longer be long distance?
Even if he's the most amazing person in the world when you're together, that doesn't mean that you're compatible for a long distance relationship.
He doesn't have to agree to break up. Relationships are a two person yes, one person no thing. If you want to break up, break up. There are so many fabulous people.
I'd start all my mornings with are you nosebleeding today?
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