My (26F) BF (34M) of almost three years just said he doesn’t want to marry me. Now I’m heartbroken, but don’t want to break up with him, what should I do?
My bf didn't want to get married, and I was unsure.
He told me that if it was important to me, he would be happy to do it.
I wound up deciding I didn't want to, but he 100% would've done it if I went the other way. The unwillingness to do something that's important to you is a problem. Especially if you want the wedding as well - that is something you should not give up. That's a major life milestone that many people really want, and I think you need to find someone who has the same vision.
(I should also note that marriage doesn't give additional protections where I live - if you live in the US, my understanding is that you should definitely get married.)