I told her she shouldn't have acted like that and controlled herself better.
Wowwwwww
And with that, you sided with her rapist.
How to repair what I done?
Well, you wait for her to decide whether or not she wants to be with someone who, when she defended herself from her attacker, basically said that she shouldn’t have done that.
The ball is in her court. Don’t push her for a decision on your timeline.