I (23F) have been with my bf (29M) for almost two years, we met in college when I was completing undergrad studies and he was in postgrad school. We started dating, and continued the relationship even after graduation.
I am young and naive as I was back then. I thought it was exciting to be with someone different, someone smarter, and more accomplished than I was, so I started dating this guy outside of my age group.
We used to sleep together sometimes twice a day, but it involved me faking it to enhance his experience. I would scream, call him daddy, and the usual dirty talk, and that gave him the illusion that he performed really well.
I truly wanted to please him, and he was thrilled with our relationship because people around him labeled him as some kind of “sex god”, from his neighbors hearing my screams to his friends that he bragged to. I thought that one day it would get better for me as well since he would want to try something different eventually.
However, I have stopped faking it because I feel that he is not making any serious effort to please me in bed, and does not last long if I scream and do the dirty talk. Now, he complains that my lady bits have become loose and misshapen from too much action and our intimates moments are not the same as before.
He insists that I get Labiaplasty to address my so-called physical problems. However, the issue is that he never goes down on me for more than a few minutes and expects me to do all the work, how should I tell him that it's not me, it's him?
P.S. Sorry I can't respond to everyone individually, but I would continue to read comments.
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