If he hasn’t already after all this time and a baby, I think he will never marry you. I’m surprised that he’s avoiding those military marriage benefits, honestly. Don’t you get paid significantly more? People marry after only dating a handful of months; my brother married a woman after only dating for 8 months. I know the marriage is not out of wanting those benefits, but it definitely expedited the process. It’s like an open secret in the military that people marry fast because of those benefits