I really despise periods.

Evolution took not one, but two MAJOR steps backwards with women- why tf do we have this?? I didn’t ask to have a uterus or bleed every goddamn month or to fucking buy $20 worth of tampons and pads. I don’t fucking care if my body is angry that I’m not pregnant, why would I want to bring a baby into a world where we don’t even have control of our bodies??? On top of that we have to deal with literal butthole and vagina cramps along with several other fucking problems like higher chance of infections. And the fact that we can’t call off work or be excused from school because of the pain??

This shit makes me wanna fucking d!e so fucking bad bro. Might fuck around and get a hysterectomy, I’d be perfectly fine with adopting if my state or doctor LETS ME. Genuinely. I believe this even when I’m not on it, especially when it’s not THREE FUCKING DAYS EARLY

Whatever bro.

[EDIT] I mentioned hysterectomy out of pure hate and anger, I wouldn’t actually get one, I just don’t want to have cramps, periods, or other problems I have currently

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graythrowaways

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Period poops are another story too.

GreyDay100

don’t even get me STARTED on those holy crap

boferd

more like unholy crap, they're the worst

GreyDay100

UNHOLYYY 💀💀💀

birb-brain

who needs childbirth when we have period poops T.T

chaotic214

Jesus I hate these so bad

pavlovs_pavlova

I started my period 2 days ago and this evening I was explaining to him about period poops and more frequent peeing. He still wanted to give me big cuddles and told me I was sexy at the time I feel the least sexy. I'm so lucky he's not put off at all.

trxnkxtty

you have a great partner 🥰

molvanianprincess

Period diarrhea and always with depo shot pelvic pain.

April2o11

Or being on your period and having the stomach flu.

pennyrose247

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i hate periods as well. i hate it even more when people romanticize it as a "beautiful" part of being a female because bleeding uncontrollably from your genitals is anything but beautiful. taking birth control has helped minimizing the blood quantity for me, however i still bleed (much less than before, but still) for about 5 days. it's better tho. i think a hysterectomy is a bit too extreme if you have a problem with bleeding only, maybe see your doctor and ask her about birth control pills that cut or minimize the bleeding

GreyDay100

I do want to find a birth control that minimalizes the bleeding and the pain, but I’d rather not get on some that requires me to remember to take them, considering I’m sexually active and very forgetful. I have a 5-6 year IUD rn and it was supposed to help but it didn’t at all

squeenyluini

I had the implant and that made me bleed literally every day, no matter what, and so instead a doctor told me I could get an IUS, which is an IUD variant. It’s basically a coil which is made out of the same stuff as an implant, lasts for 8 years, and normally I have a very heavy period but this coil has stopped it completely. Hope this helps, I highly recommend doing some research around it.

GreyDay100

Will, do I’ve heard of the regular IUDS but never this variant, thanks for the advice!

squeenyluini

Yes me too, I wasn’t taught about it in school and even after seeing several doctors there was no mention of it until one lady handed me a leaflet that had the IUS on it. I think it’s relatively unheard of but has worked magic for me.

Charming_Garbage_161

You could possibly have endometriosis. I found out from my gyno that the crotch lightening feeling is nerve pain from endo lol menstrual cups are a good alternative and helped my major cramping issues bc tampons would for some reason make me hurt and both tampons/pads gave me yeast infections even if I was super careful on time management. You can also measure how much you’re actually bleeding with a menstrual cup to see if your flow is heavier.

GreyDay100

Well the doctors never said anything about endo, but I do know for sure I have fibroids

SuccubusSins

Uterine fibriods are often a symptom associated with Endo or pelvic inflammation,which could point to a more serious, long term issue. Definitely worth a few blood tests and a visit to a reproductive endocrinologist. Most people think they are just to help people get pregnant, but in reality, if you need surgery for endometriosis, they are more likely to just do it versus obgyns who try to put it off until you need most of your organs removed from the effects. This is NOT an issue to wait on! A young person having their ovaries removed has been proven to lead to brain damage EVEN WITH hormone replacement therapies. By young I mean anyone under 45. Get help if you can, finances willing.

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trekqueen

A lot of docs don’t know much about endo nor talk about it much, which is really disappointing. Reading in the endometriosis subreddit is story after story of women getting crapped on by doctors not believing how bad their situation is.

I always assumed I had it after my regular family doc mentioned it when I was 18. My new obgyn in my 20s shook her head dismissively when I brought it up. My new docs and nurse practitioners I got when I moved cross country were also no help, those were my 30s. The latest doc I saw, older fellow closing in on retirement listened to me on my issues and I had an ablation done and also a tubal ligation, that’s when he saw the endo … this was the week I turned 40. It was the first thing he mentioned when I was waking up from surgery and I declared, in my semi sleepy stupor, “I KNEW IT!” Took that long.

GreyDay100

Endometriosis is understudied. Like- it literally has not been studied enough and people don’t care enough to do so

Basicalypizza

I’m on nuvaring and I’m doing a 21 days cycle instead of 28 because my periods would come in anyway.

It’s been working really well for me

slutty_pumpkin

As a woman with endometriosis, I second the nuvaring! My periods are very light and mostly pain free with this method, unlike with any pill I’ve been prescribed.

disclosingNina--1876

I've been thinking about how I can get the doctor to perform an ablation of the lining of my uterus.

I'm done making babies, after all.

prosperosniece

Best thing I ever did!

pennyrose247

maybe an implant would do for you? and as far as being forgetful goes i'm one myself but i have 2 daily reminders (one at 7:00 and another at 7:30), my birth control itself has an app that sends me reminders every half hour until i register the pill was taken on the app.. so those tools help. i've been on birth control (qlaira) since dec 2022 being sexually active as well and i've had no issues so far.

SakuraFerretTrainer

I have the implanon implant that lasts for three years, but I change it out every two and a half. I get the occasional spotting, which is very light and lasts maybe a day or two which requires only a pantry liner changed twice or three times a day (and more so because it just gets bunched up and I like to feel fresh). Other than that, I don't get period's at all. I'm 35 and I haven't had a period for about 11 years now. Hoping I can keep it up until menopause.

GreyDay100

I’ve heard those ACTUALLY stop periods, I’ve heard personal stories and a close relative of mine said she hasn’t had a period in a while either. As scared as I am of needles, the implant actually sounds like heaven

SakuraFerretTrainer

They put local anaesthetic into the underside of your arm via shallow needle to numb it first which stings fairly badly, but only lasts ten, fifteen seconds tops? They then put the big needle which has the implant inside it (the implant is the same size as a matchstick, but plastic and bendy) and put it just under the skin so it doesn't go into the muscle or deep or anything. You just feel a bit of a tugging and pulling sensation, but no pain, still a bit icky mentally though. This takes literally seconds. They usually don't need to put in a suture, just a steri strip, a small dressing barely bigger than a band aide and a bandage to apply pressure to reduce bruising. The anaesthetic wears off after an hour or two and it's a bit sore, but no worse than having a flu jab. I sometimes have a bit of bruising, but no more than a few centimetres around the insertion site. After three years, they can literally make a small incision and remove the old implant and the vast majority of the time they can just stick a new one back in the same spot.

GreyDay100

Wait they don’t put a shot in your body for every replacement?

SakuraFerretTrainer

Yes, they put lignocaine to make it numb and it's usually mixed with a bit of adrenaline to vasoconstrict the local blood vessels to control bleeding.

Affectionate-Taste55

I got an iud that stopped me from having periods. It was great. I went 10 years with no periods.

Ok-Outcome-5557

I have nexplanon, I once went 8 months without a period. But I’m currently on week 3 of consecutive bleeding. So it flip-flops whether you get no period or a really long period

Equal-Brilliant2640

Have you tried the Nuva ring, you put one in for three weeks, take it out for one and then insert a new one. You can leave it in for four weeks and then just swap it out for a new one. I used to do it all the time. I fucking hate my period. I started skipping it years ago, I was going to a medieval war for 10 days where I might not have regular access to a shower or indoor plumbing. thankfully the site I stayed at had showers, but using a portopotty for 10 days while on my period? NOPE NOPE NOPE

Idi get the odd bit of spotting every so often (like once or twice a year?) but it’s not even enough for a liner most of the time

HungryLilDragon

Just in case you want to give it a try, I've been on Cerazette (a mini-pill) for 3 months and apart from some spotting, my periods have completely vanished. I don't even buy pads anymore lol.

Fall2valhalla

I have an IUD (the Kylena one) and I stopped bleeding pretty much. I used to take pills, but I'd forget and because of some clotting issues, I had to skip sugar pills months at a time so I wouldn't get my period every month. I went onto depo and it made it worse. Now I have an IUD and honestly it helped so much. That and free bleeding. I don't get the bad cramps or heavy bleeding anymore

QuitUsual4736

Look into an abalation. Stops periods forever

gothskies

I feel the same way. I hate when people try to romanticize having a period like how you said. I got mine pretty early, and it wrecked my childhood. Then to have to take a pill every morning that makes me feel shitty, but at least I don’t feel as shitty when I get my period now.

pennyrose247

yeah i had my first period really early too.. it still makes me feel like a part of my childhood was stolen from me and to this day it makes me sad if i think too much about it. my family somehow assumed i was a teenager already after having my period despite being 10 or 11 at the time. also kids shouldn't have to deal with periods :(

SnooRadishes8979

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feminine tax aside, it’s actually despicable that we aren’t able to simply call in sick for our pain, and that we’re constantly being patronised!

SimplyPassinThrough

Yall I 100% call in. “I’m sick, hopefully I’ll be in tomorrow.” If you have PTO, use that shit! What “sickness” you have is none of the bosses business smdh

TheMess669

Yeah, except most people dont have enough pto to do that monthly, or even get pto.

lacypaisley

The patronization just makes it so much worse than it has to be and sometimes it's when I don't even have a period! I'm upset and actually spoke about it? "Are you on your period?" No, but even so why would it matter??

AverageDazzling8594

I remember how my manager said that im grown and i should be over that “sickness excuse” by now. Like damn why so miserable

theseboysofmine

I really don't understand how humanity even made it this far. If I have cramps I'm going to let that lion eat me.

2michaela

This! And the sharks in the ocean, just find me when I am bleeding again and eat me

InternationalAnt1026

to be fair evolution doesn't work that way. Since we don't encounter sharks and lions on the daily, our genes don't care to adapt ourselves to avoid vicious predators. It's partially why animals don't have periods since the smell of blood will draw the wrong organisms and also the pain would hinder their abilities. Still,,, fuck periods

2michaela

The pain also hinders my ability 😭 where is my DNA evolution 😢 Okay I’ve noted, a) get a lion, and b)swim in the Red Sea “pun” /s

InternationalAnt1026

if humans had to deal with them we'd have bigger problems than periods 😭 but at least the burden is shared by men if we all had to fight off sharks and lions lol

MountainStorm90

I've wondered a few times what the fuck is up with that. With evolution, wouldn't periods leave us vulnerable to animal attacks back when we were living in the wild? So then we'd be more likely to get killed because we were bleeding all over the place? It fucking sucks.

multifandomfreak46

I don’t think there’s many other options for mammals or human genetics simply didn’t stumble into thrm

lifelikefantasy

The fact that I almost fainted at work last monday due to period pains. I had birth control for years and I felt awful thanks to the hormones. I don't even want kids, so I'd love to let them take everything out, but I'm "too young". Yeah, love to be a woman...

Yoyoma1119

felt. my periods were so bad they were almost ruining my life. during my period i was literally so limited in what i could do during that time because i bled so much. and i’m talking like soaking through a super plus tampon every hour. the amount i bled every month was so severe i had dangerously low iron.

last september i got a mirena IUD and it literally saved my life. it has made my period stop all together. i haven’t had one nice november and my quality of life has improved drastically

ABadMagician

The iud saved my life too- I’m stuck in a place I hate with people who hate me and I know for a fact I’d be fine again if I were on birth control.

industrial_hamster

Same but it’s the pill that saved my life. My periods were so bad they were making me suicidal. It took years and multiple different doctors before someone finally fucking took me seriously and I was diagnosed with endometriosis. I was filling up a menstrual cup in 30 minutes and my period was coming every week and a half to two week and lasting for 2-3 weeks at a time. Like I’d literally bleed for 3 weeks straight, stop for a week, then start again for another 3 weeks. My fiancé and I were going months at a time without having sex because of it and I literally did nothing but lay in bed and cry and want to die.

disclosingNina--1876

Every month, I think to myself, the fact that every woman hasn't killed any and every man in their path is a testament to the strength and resolve of every person born with a vagina.

aryadrottningu97

Good luck getting a hysterectomy before 35, i live in texas and asked about one and they -first asked what my husband thought and continued, asking if I was “sure” he didnt want kids even when I indulged her ignorant question and said “we dont want any” when I shouldn’t have had to say that in the first place- then she told me “well we really wont do them for women under 35 unless theres some life threatening issue, bc you or your husband might change your mind”

GreyDay100

It’s so stupid, last time I heard about that stuff, you had to have 2 kids AND approval from your husband, but is that actually a law or people just decide for you whether you should have kids or not?

electromouse1

If you do, keep your ovaries. You do not want to go through menopause. It wrecks you, and estrogen supplements can cause cancer and strokes. Periods are a necessary evil that keeps our bodies strong. Once estrogen and other hormones slow, your ability to heal, strengthen muscles, and bone density go out the window. Not to mention changes to your appearance when your skin loses elasticity. Damned if we do, damned if we don’t.

GreyDay100

Tbh I said the hysterectomy out of pure anger, but I’ve never knew THAT about hysterectomies that’s very scary, I should probably ask my mom about it because she never talked about how she went through her menopause after a required hysterectomy

moonweasel906

This is unfortunately true OP, and a big reason why many docs won’t grant hysterectomies to younger women, its not just the child bearing consideration. I saw my gyno at 35 for a possible hysterectomy and she informed me of this - said if it was a full hysterectomy with ovaries removed ot would affect my heart health and other things.

Women’s health is so under-funded and under-researched that I don’t fully believe that taking your uterus out and leaving the ovaries is harmless either - its all connected in there by nature for a reason.

Of course sometimes it’s the only plan of action and CAN provide a ton of relief from what Ive seen other people say while doing my own personal research.

ABadMagician

It’ll be law soon.

GreyDay100

I’m not surprised, women already don’t have a say in anything

Take_away_my_drama

And then, at 35, should you choose to start trying, you will be referred to as a 'geriatric pregnancy'. Fucking joke. How about we just do what we want with our own bodies, and accept any consequences? Crazy idea!

Emkems

At least at my OB they call it AMA now (advanced maternal age). That feels a lot kinder than geriatric

aryadrottningu97

I use the nuvaring to skip my periods for 2-3 months at a time bc I legitimately cannot function having one every month, I get terrible pre-during-& post symptoms, so there would literally only be 4-5 days of me feeling normal if I did have one every month 🥲

GreyDay100

I didn’t know the ring could stop it holy

moonweasel906

Hormonal BC doesn’t actually stop menstruation, it inhibits ovulation, which is the reason you don’t bleed. The period week on a hormonal birth control pill pack is comprised of placebo pills to make it feel like you’re “having a period”.

Emkems

My GYN told me once that the placebo pills are only a thing because some man decided women would still prefer to have a period. She said no medical need to have one.

genuine_questioner

I want a hysterectomy so bad. There's no good reason for me to have a period. It's some serious unfair bs

FewWrangler5475

I hated my periods so much I did get a hysterectomy at 36 and let me tell you I do not miss it!!!! It's honestly my biggest flex and I love shouting FUCK NO I DON'T when women ask me for feminine products. No kids and no regrets. Loved learning I also had undiagnosed endometriosis and my chronic back pain was actually just my damn uterus my entire life.

So yeah, you're not wrong in your feelings. Develop a relationship with your primary Dr and gynecologist. You too can rip out your uterus and stop the misery!!!

Ordinary_Trip4098

Hate them so bad that I love when they don’t come for a few months (even though I’m sure it’s not healthy because stress 🙂)

Senju19_02

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Yeah,one time mine skipped whole 6 months. Pure bliss.

Tall_Living4010

Also have to deal with PMS and mood swings. And you can’t even control when they come. They always come at the worst times for me, like when I’m out traveling, an exam, an event, etc. I’d even throw up multiple times if the pain got that unbearable. And if we have to pay for the dam pads and tampons, at least there should be a law where we are allowed to take a day off work like there is in Japan.

GreyDay100

A LAW LIKE THAT EXISTS IN JAPAN??? I’d move there but they’re so racist they’ve normalized it, and I’m black 😭

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Numberwang3249

Your description is spot on.

I have found though that women can be even worse than men at understanding the pain, if they're one of the lucky ones that never get cramps. Often men just don't want to talk about it lol

anonymous42F

That's so true!

Paffles16

Besides the misogyny that comes along with being judged for having a period, as a person who’s known since 4 years old that I didn’t want to experience childbirth I feel especially cheated. I have no use for it.

GreyDay100

RIGHT?? And the fact that we can’t do anything about it because the system won’t even let us

Major_Bear3982

I hate it too. I’m 48 and my period is still going strong. For some reason I thought when I turned 45 I t would stop. Lol. Nope. Still regular. Ugh.

peachK82

So I’ve tried every type of contraceptive to try and control the bleeding, I regularly have to push out clots the size of my fist during my period, I’ve had ultrasounds and am taking the biggest dose of tablets that should calm the bleeding etc and nothing wrong can be found. Usually on day 2 and 3 I have to just sit in the toilet every 20mins to pass the blood cos no product out there can handle it. I’ve basically been told I’ve got to live with it. I can’t get a hysterectomy unless I pay for it privately which I can’t afford and also don’t want to run all the risks that come with having one so yeah… I’m over them.

Ukn0wn_3766

How much money would you pay to wake up the next day as a male so you no longer have to deal with periods but you're still living the same life?

GreyDay100

My entire life savings I’ve ever made.

anonymous42F

So, so much.

moonweasel906

Getting a hysterectomy unfortunately has a lot of negative side effects on our overall health. My periods SUCK, endometriosis and fibroids and PMDD. But without our estrogen our heart health suffers, its connected to a bunch of other stuff in our bodies. I feel you though. I can’t tolerate hormonal BC and I got a bad pelvic infection from my copper IUD - despite not having even been sexually active for an entire year before it happened. My fatigue during PMS makes it so I have to push through the week every three fucking weeks. And masking at work when you have mood issues?! Omfg

I agree - PERIODS FUCKING SUCK!!

anitxtina

Removing the uterus doesn’t effect hormone production.

peppertones

for fuckin real. totally loving the suicidal ideation that comes around like clockwork during my luteal 😍 pmdd so bad i had to get on ssri’s for it lmaoo!!! so fun being a woman!! 🤪 am currently in so much pain from cramps and ran of out my pain meds

Bluetenheart

Similarly, can we stop with the “periods aren’t gross” thing. what goes down there is absolutely disgusting. Now should they be stigmatized? of course not.

Lying-Lovely

the cramps hurts so bad plus I get so moody and lash out at everyone too.

Only_Diamond4751

Not me reading this as I’m starting mine today 🤣😭 I hate my periods so much, they’ve always been terrible and it took me 14 years of advocating to be diagnosed with stage 3 endometriosis, PCOS, and during my last surgery 2 years ago I had to get a sling implant for my bladder- it was adhered to my abdominal wall and C-section scar. My surgeon removed 5lbs, 5 FUCKING POUNDS, of scar tissue from my pelvis. I’m happy to say after taking a holistic approach my health my periods aren’t as severe but still pretty bad. I know I qualify for partial hysterectomy but that’s expensive lol

NegativeNic

I went on the rod due to potential endometriosis (not yet confirmed) taking me out of work every month, now I have spotting fucking everyday, my tits hurt and I'm putting 2kgs on every week. Being female is so much fun.

Kb3907

Yeah, it sucks :( personality it also makes me dysphoric because I'm a trans guy, but damn the pain is something else. Like sometimes I have to bite down on something when it gets really bad so I don't start screaming 🫠

nashebes

Thank you for this post!

After 30 years with 3-4 periods a year, I started getting regular periods monthly a few years ago, and it's hell!

It's painful, smelly & sticky! I hate it with every fiber of my being! The cramps, the cravings, the mood swings... I fucking hate it all!

regzm

i want my uterus gone so bad. my periods are so painful and i've never wanted kids. but my husband/male partner (that doesn't exist) has more right to my body than i do. smh

sevenheadedservent

Pro tip, if you get pregnant your whole life, you never have periods

GreyDay100

Get a man to make your period disappear for a while 9 months ✨

Glamrock-Gal

my nuvaring can basically get rid of my period. I can go months without it. however, every once in a while, I’ll have some bleeding. I usually let myself have a period for that month.

but hey, I’m only bleeding like a third of the year. Maybe a fourth? It is, however, birth control. Hormonal. I don’t mind because I am sexually active. My body doesn’t feel like it has changed much. Plus, I change it once a month. Not daily like the pill. You just have to keep a schedule, but you can always set a reminder for the day to change your ring.

I really like it. The periods I do have tend to be pretty light. Not much pain .. usually.

I don’t enjoy having a period, so I’m really glad I found something that protects me from getting pregnant AND helps me skip periods

No_Dark8446

I’ve been on BC pretty much forever because my cramps were so bad I couldn’t even stand up straight some days, and I would get dizzy/pass out just from walking up the stairs. In high school, I once bled through a tampon AND pad, through my jeans, and got blood on the chair. My friend and to let me borrow her jacket to put around my waist; my mom had to bring me new pants and underwear; and I had to clean the chair—in bloody pants.

I have asked every single gynecologist I’ve ever been to about permanent options to get rid of periods (I’m also adamantly child free and have been forever). Every single one told me that “I might change my mind”, so being in debilitating pain for 1/4 of my time is ok. My latest one in Germany said I should keep getting IUDs until I hit menopause. I’ve been looking into medical tourism to get a partial hysterectomy.

Periods are 638295725% bullshit.

Impressive-Living-20

I just had a 46 day period. I bled for 46 fucking days in a row. I was ready to get a hysterectomy after day 20. I just got off it on June 19th and who’s bleeding today? I am. I’m so upset. Luckily I wasn’t PMSing so I don’t think I’m back on my period but I’m so tired of bleeding.

GreyDay100

Uhh you might have to get that checked out? Last time I heard someone was bleeding for months, they had dangerously low blood sugar levels, but is that normal for you? Have you got that checked?

Impressive-Living-20

I already did and it’s just my birth control. I would love to not be on birth control but can’t for multiple reasons.

Designer-Bass-8440

You can take your pill everyday (so leave the ones out that are "empty" if you use those 28 pill-pakets, with the "empty week" to keep up the habit of pill-popping). You won't have a period then. And that's okay. Even medically. Most my gynos told me I could if I wanted. I just didn't, because I already had a pregnacy despite the control and I want to "see" I am definitely not.

I am now using a gold IUD, and still have a period, which as explained I want. Now I can at least have my Real period-length of about 7 weeks (Yes, that's real. Yes, both sides work.) instead of 4, less money for pads and stuff. But there are IUDs without a period, I think it was the hormonal ones.

Yes periods suck and are way too romantized and the possible pain downplayed. But just be open about it. Helped me a lot in my workplace. When you look as miserable as you actually are, people become very empathetic very quickly. And putting on a brave face isn't helping with the prejudice of "you're overreacting".

I tell my colleagues straight up. Don't mind anymore.

Me streching and massaging my lower back

"All good?"

"Oh, just someone turning a big knife they stuck in my back"

"What?"

"I am on my period and it feels like a machete was rammed into my back and then starts turning. At least right now it's only one, but still. Fun, right?"

"Oh, so sorry. If you want you can leave early, you know. Don't force yourself. My SO has those problems as well. Maybe you want something that helps their SO with the pain?"

"Thanks a lot. X doesn't work for me/already tried/did Something similar already. I will probably go home with lunch break, just need/want to finish this before."

Dependent_Top_4425

I had the Nexplanon implant in my arm and I didn't get my period for 4 years! It was great! Everyones body is different though so, there are no guarantees.

Sunlover823

I was on the pill most of my life so I haven’t had a period in years. I hated having my period so much I was happy it worked. I read somewhere the pill can increase your risk of breast cancer. I had breast cancer in 2022. The treatment was brutal but I feel the trade off for not having periods was totally worth it.

XenaLouise63

Some bc pills completely take away periods- you just take the pill continually. I've been on one of these for years and cannot recommend it highly enough.

Fuck_me_up_daddy

I thought I was the only one to get whole ass vagina cramps. My labia even hurt. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I mean the whole ass too but I digress.

I have really bad PMDD.. I choose to skip my period using my birth control as a tool and I have done so for 3 years. Im on low dose and it’s worked like a charm. If you look up PMDD, I have all of the symptoms and BC has helped all of them. I’m never having a period again as long as I can help it. With my experience with pmdd, is that it exaggerates mental illness.

I hope you feel better 💋💋💋

awithered

earlier this week I was looking at every man at work with the eyes of death bc i was so pissed they don't have to experience something like this every month

GreyDay100

At this point all men can do it shut the fuck up about it 😭 no hate but still so infuriating when they fucking say shit like they know shit about periods and the pains 🙄

lavender_and_sage

Okay not the answer you want but hear me out: menstrual disks. Nixit has changed my life, no longer schlepping out tons of cash and gross waste products with tampons/pads. Plus once you get used to it it’s so easy to maneuver. Highly highly recommend. Can also buy charcoal fabric panty liners(pads to!) for super light days!

GreyDay100

I’ve tried a cup, and it’s really hard to target the cervix, but I’ve been doing research and been trying to figure out how it works still 😭

escribbles_thefirst

I’m in no way trying to sound mean, but are you a teenager? This sounds like how I dealt with my periods as a hormonal teen and they do get easier. And if you’re okay with the risks that come with birth control there are ones that stop your period. But it will be very hard to find a doctor that would give any healthy woman a hysterectomy, let alone a young lady with no kids. It’s stupid and it’s sucks but it’s one of those things where if you don’t have a period there may be something much worse going on that you can’t see so I would at least take solace in that. I’m sorry I don’t have better advice but you can 100% call out from school and work, I did all the time, it’s a sick day

GreyDay100

I’m 21 and 3 years into the mirena IUD, and my job has its ways to where you can’t call out, it’s stupid. I work at Walmart

industrial_hamster

Same and it’s even worse because I have endo. I don’t fucking want kids anyway so WHY do I have to suffer like this????

NFIdotcom

Diva cup.

I refuse to spend any more money on sanitary items!

TumblingOcean

The fact my vulva actually physically HURTS so bad like someone punched me? All day? I'm out. Let me go. I wanna go.

Also the fact my sex drive is increased by a thousand. I already have hypersexuality but it's horrendous on my period. Like all day that's all I wanna do. It's not fun. It's annoying.

NightmareKingGr1mm

most of these issues ($20 products, lack of slack from employment, lack of abortion rights) are societal not biological

ngng0110

Have you thought about getting on hormonal BC to avoid having them? It’s a relatively simple fix for a younger person which I am getting the vibe you might be a younger teen.

darksoulbi

But that also comes with tons of side effects 😵

ngng0110

It’s a possibility but so many women use it with zero issues. If you haven’t tried, I would say it’s worth a shot.

StatisticianNaive277

Depends on the woman. Some feel amazing on birth control. Some lose it.

Hormones do things to bodies and brains

moth_girl_7

Can confirm, I felt amazing on a specific brand, then my insurance stopped covering it so I had to switch. The first brand they switched me to made me feel awful. Suicidal, actually. (Junel for anyone wondering). So they switched me to another brand, which works better for me.

Overall, I feel better on birth control. I sleep better. My appetite is better (I struggled with low appetite). I did gain weight the first year I took it, but it’s since leveled out.

That being said, everyone is different. My mom couldn’t take it because it gave her headaches. Some side effects are normal in the first few months of taking it when your body is adjusting, but obviously if it’s unbearable you probably just aren’t compatible with it.

Delouest

Definitely depends on the person and the meds. I was on BC primarily to reduce intense, heavy, painful, and long periods. It helped calm my body down and gave me a 3 day cycle every 28 days and made me my body and brain much more regulated. The thing about hormones is that some people need more, some less, some are fine without messing with them, so it's not a one size fits all situation.

Lovely_Roses_089

i just started Opill, they were the first like only online brand no prescription. i’m on month two and it’s lowkey fire, my period lasted 3 days, light bleeding and my only side effects have been my normal pms symptoms but ZERO cramps not even one!

GreyDay100

I’m 21 and I’m 3 years into the mirena IUD, and it’s never helped, but I’m really considering other options tho but I’m scared of the side effects

ngng0110

Mirena didn’t work for me either - the periods were gone but so was my sanity. I was legit batshit crazy on it. It was scary and I would have yanked it out myself if the doctor didn’t believe me. She was skeptical but I was back to normal within two weeks of taking it out. Periods returned with a vengeance though.

I would 10/10 recommend an ablation but I have no idea if they would do it on a 21 year old. I had to fight for it in my early 40’s because “what if you decide to have a baby”. Even after I told them at least two dozen times that the baby factory was permanently closed.

twistyfizzypop

I'm so sorry the mirena hasn't helped 😔 I kn9w it doesn't help everyone. Deffo read up about endometriosis and possible pcos, my friends daughter is only a bit younger than you but the pain she was having (that left her writhing it was so bad) was not what the Dr's said - normal cramps, it was actually cysts bursting.

GreyDay100

Doctors haven’t confirmed PCOS for me but for sure I have fibroids. And I’m sorry about your daughter, I only have a record of me getting 2 ovarian cysts in my entire life and the first one bursted and it was already bad enough, I can’t imagine that. And it’s usually the doctors that don’t know what they’re talking about for some reason because my second cyst was there but doctors kept on saying it wasn’t it when it was 😐

Emkems

agreed! I’m considering getting pregnant soon and I’m not on any BC. As soon as that’s over/if it doesn’t work out I’m 100% going on continuous birth control aka skipping the placebo weeks.

jutiperr

I stopped using common pads 4 years ago. Now I just use reusable pads. So comfy, don't smell at all. I got shocked at how much the common pads makes the blood smell so much more. I have severe cramps that make me vomit and not be able to walk. Sometimes, I might pass out from the pain. That got a little better since I started eating more healthy. It stills fucks me up, but insted of 4 days of pain, I got a day or two.

Senju19_02

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What the hell are reusable pads?

jutiperr

Oh! They're awesome made of cloth and waterproof. Some people use it cause it's sustainable and eco-friendly. I just use it cause it's so comfortable and you don't waste lots of money for montly normal pads. You use it, wash it and it's ready to use it again! Pretty awesome.

ABadMagician

I hate that I can’t afford period products

ladybollymunster

If you can afford a diva cup, it is a one time purchase that can last 5+ years. I believe some women's shelters/charities can help if you are unable to purchase one.

kam0706

Same. But since I got Nexplanon I’ve barely had 2 in 2 years.

ShamelessFox

Fwiw. I got an IUD and mine stopped.

GreyDay100

Mbn, I still bleed and my cramps are still bad on the IUD

sadanonymous51

As same one her period right now, same.

twistyfizzypop

I have a mirena iud, and have had them (and before them a copper coil) for over 20 years. I have not had periods since I started using them. They are painful to have fitted and to be removed but way less painful than periods or childbirth

GreyDay100

My cramps get so bad, I didn’t feel a thing when I got the mirena, but sadly I’m on year 3 of it, and I still get periods and cramps 😭

twistyfizzypop

Oh no 😢 I'm so sorry. Definitely go back to your gynecologist. For the pain try something like naproxen, that's the only thing that helps my friends daughter when she has the crippling pain.

Routine_Mix_7536

I hate that, tha’t why I have an IUD, the hormonal type. I’ve been free for 3 years now

ms_emily_spinach925

Hey, butthole cramps can be (though are not always) an endometriosis symptom. If you’re getting those a lot and especially if you also have other endometriosis symptoms, it is probably worth mentioning to your practitioner

GreyDay100

Endo doesn’t run in my family, but fibroids and cysts do (not specifically PCOS)

-KPinky-

I hated having my period so I got an IUD and haven’t looked back! No more pads and tampons and less PMS symptoms. I know people like to judge birth control methods because it’s interfering with Mother Nature. Blah blah blah, do what’s right for you! But look into IUD’s and talk to your doctor, there may be one right for you and if you are in Canada there are government funds that can help pay for it if you don’t have the $400…but between the pill and feminine products over 5 years the IUD is cheaper. Look into it if you hate your period so much

GreyDay100

I actually have the mirena iud, and it’s actually made things worse 😭 but still doing research and considering other methods

FabulousPossession73

Get a menstrual cup. It saves lots of money.

GreyDay100

Still doing research on that, I have one but I messed up on my first use, I’ll have to figure out how to use it but idk if an IUD string would effect it in the long run

gracefulpelican

I feel this. In fact I actually posted not long ago about it too! I’m desperate to make them stop. I can’t deal with any of it anymore. The sensory issues it gives me are overwhelming on top of everything else. Ugh.

aurorapowerpuff

same! mine just started yesterday💔💔💔i want to rip my uterus out!!!!!!!

BlondeBabe242

Yeah it's awful. The worst days of my life have almost all been period days. I feel like my body is trying to torture me evilly, laughing at my agony. It's a real —rhymes with itch— to be a woman sometimes. No biological man will ever know truly what it's like. Your emotions are out of control, you're hungry but food doesn't look appealing, you're angry, horny, sad, in writhing abominating pain, like a tent peg ramming through your back and pelvis and vagina. The aches, the bleeding, the anxiety, reflux, ect pms is straight from hell. I spend two week in pain, angry and hysterical in tears. It feels like a curse. I want babies someday but so many times I have been tempted to try to get a hysterectomy. I think the US should make it a law that women get 4 days off a month for periods. Every woman, even if they don't have pms like me, should get 4 days off.

NaturesVividPictures

Yeah I wasn't super happy to have it but I've hit menopause so I'm thrilled to death at this point. I'm one of the women that didn't even know they have their period most of the time. I rarely got cramps. Heck half the time I'd forget I was having my period And I'd be like oh crap cuz I'd start getting it when I was out somewhere. So I did learn to carry tampons and a liner or something with me at all times just to be prepared. Had them in my glove box in my car or in my purse. Don't have to do that anymore. Real drag though as all women can relate to. Yeah as I got older it would get pretty heavy for a day or two and then taper. Was on birth control pills for about 12+ years. Yeah definitely isn't fair that women have to deal with all this shit and men don't have to deal with anything except prostate cancer and no wine like crazy when they have to get it checked. I'd rather have that done and have a metal speculum shoved in me every year. Oh and don't get me started on mammograms. I'm flat chested they hurt like hell. I'd rather have bigger boobs, sure it's a little bit easier for you gals to have it done but I'm sure it hurts just as much.

Happy_fairy89

I hated them too. Mine were horrendous. I had a traumatic birth with my son, which basically was like a bomb went off in my pelvis. I had three operations to fix the damage and I had to fight for a hysterectomy as part of that because and I quote “you’re too young for a hysterectomy” I was 31 and my freaking uterus was slipping down. My bowel had caved in on itself so I couldn’t shit and my uterus squashed my bladder so I was peeing constantly. Having that all repaired / removed was the best thing I ever freaking did ! My quality of life has drastically improved !

theglorybox

I had to get a hysterectomy and no longer get mine. It’s been the best five years of my life.

InternationalAnt1026

I agree. We were cursed at birth just for being female and there isn't the strongest evolutionary need for it to be this horrible! Only a handful of mammals experience menstruation and it's to a much smaller degree to how humans deal with it so why is it so horrible for us? No one takes me seriously when it hurts so much I physically can't walk and I'd still be hopped up on loads of painkillers which does nothing in the way of muffling it. I wish it was like back in the day when we could take time off work to recover (even if it was in response to being shunned, or like a bad omen or some other stupid mysogynisitc reason to hide away during periods).

Fuck evolution, fuck the female experience and fuck capitalism for making us pay to bleed.

delilahdread

Dear ladies/folks with uteruses who are either done having kids or who are sure they don’t want any, please look into endometrial ablation. I have Novasure. It was the very best money I’ve ever spent on myself and mine “failed.” I went from having horrifically heavy periods that lasted 9-11 days to having super light periods that last about 4 days. Mind you, I still cramp and my hormones are still stupid every month but I don’t bleed like I used to and it’s amazing. My aunt had it done too after I did and she hasn’t had a period at all since. Highly recommend!

iLliteratEkn0t

It’s the flow, I could deal with everything else but having to pee with a plug in then trying to remove said plug to empty bladder but plug is dry.. 😩

and all the other nonsense that comes with tampons.

MarieRich

I am with you. Got Mirena and never looked back. Thought it would be weird not having one, but I love it. I am now 50 and have no idea if I'm going through perimenopause or not

Spoonydoo

It is not for everybody and it hurts like hell but I got an IUD (hormonal) and now I don’t have “periods”. I still go through the monthly hormonal changes but at least I don’t bleed. If it is possible for you maybe you can consider it. Not a magical wand but it solved some of my problems.

GreyDay100

I’ve had the mirena IUD for three years, and I still bleed, and sadly it’s made my problems worse

papichula2

Initially they were ok. Then came pain. Then came bloating. Then came less days and cycle change. Leaking. Rashes. A patch of endo type pain. Nausea, consti, fear, sleepless nights

Now pms and scantiness and horrible side effects on body.

Not able to do anything for the whole week and the fear of early periods fk.

And there are some for whom it's a breeze. I feel accursed

nerdinahotbod

Nothin like trying to lead a team of while I’m simultaneously getting cramps that go from my uterus to my asshole and down my leg 😃

pavlovs_pavlova

On the brighter side, I've bought myself some period knickers and they are the COMFIEST things in the world! Highly recommend. I know it doesn't take away the pain, but it's saving me money in the long run, plus not feeling like I'm basically wearing a nappy. (I have a bit of a phobia of tampons.)

Bizarretsuko

I mentioned this in a recent post, but apparently we’re twice more likely to develop an anxiety disorder and multiple psychiatric disorders than man. Yay.

GreyDay100

Huh, the explains why I have such terrible anxiety and most likely other disorders

Original_Thanks_9435

The one thing I love about having aged! NO MORE PERIODS!!! lol

abijoo

as a trans man, I get it 🥲

AbrahamLingam

Commas are where it’s at.

reasonablepisodes

I have genuinely considered since I was much younger because of that, also because I know I would not make a good mom and I don't want kids anyway. But the thing is my country has this bunch of rules and stuff about it. And it also leaves a surgery scar. So I just prefer to have a rage attack every month. I feel you

hayden_or_satan

So I’m not a woman but I used to bleed. I am a little over a week post op of my hysterectomy and it was THE BEST decision of my life.

Fall2valhalla

I have PCOS, Endo, and an IUD lol I free bleed now too (I dont have a heavy period anymore so its a nice thing to not have to use products. My periods used to be 1 week on 1 week off. On repeat. And it was 1 week of pure heavy bleeding. No light days or spotting) I did notice a huge change when I started free bleeding and stopped using products. Any sort of product caused irritation and cramping. So when I stopped, I stopped getting bad cramping. The IUD helped regulate it more too. But uh. I've only had 1 period this year 😅 I get the symptoms of a period (get a little moody. Get a little crampy. Get overly hungry for no reason 😩) just no bleeding. Im just thankful ive been able to do this. I hate periods and genuinely wish I didn't get them ever ever.

kellyatta

Me too except I actually want a hysterectomy.

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GreyDay100

Isn’t that basically what a pad is? 😂😂

fourTtwo

i hate them too, idk why we havent evolved into having one a year or maybe every two years or just when we wanna have a baby 😜🤷‍♀️ it doesnt get any better either, just to mention, years and years of it and i still despise it

RadishCultivator

PSA: If you’re passing out from bleeding or in so much pain you can’t work, go to multiple gynos until someone takes you seriously. My gyno ordered an ultrasound and I had massive fibroids. I was brushed off for so many years by drs and I really feel like my gyno saved my life.

I’m 4 months post-hysterectomy at age 36 and I’m so glad I cut it out. Reading these stories makes me so happy with my decision.

impressionistfan

Wait till perimenopause where you still have all the PMS symptoms without the period. Very frustrating

No_Ball4465

I feel bad now.

CauliflowerOk3993

This was me several years ago. I hated having periods because of the mess and the intensely painful cramps. My cramps often had me on the ground in pure agony, and I bled quite heavily. Getting the mirena was the best decision I ever made. I often wished I could get a hysterectomy or take testosterone to stop my pain. Anything. I’d advise finding a sympathetic gynecologist who can put the mirena in. It saved my life.

EDIT: I have seen in other comments the mirena hasn’t helped. I would at this point advise you to go with more drastic routes to stop the bleeding.

daydreaming-g

That’s why I’m on depo no more periods anymore

human_to_an_extent

thank goodness my periods stopped since going on T i'd literally kms if i ever got pregnant so i don't need them i want to yeet all my junk

ponyboys_bff

Reading this while im going through a cramp thats making me wish i was born a man

Baileychic88

Eve. I'm told we can thank Eve.

Backbackbackagainugh

And that's just NORMAL fucking periods!

If you don't want kids, conisder an endometrial ablation - I had one and it changed my life. Turns out all my hella painful periods were caused by polyps in my endometrial lining. I haven't had a period in over 8 years - I'm only 38. I still have all my hormones, so no early menopause, and I occasionally get pain with ovulation or cysts, but I don't spend 2 days a month alternating between the bathtub and the bed, puking, crying, and sleeping anymore.

No-Special-2075

Yeah, me too. I really hated it when the first day of my period coinsided with the day me and my family left for a trip to Disney world, which is already a tiny hell on its own. I think I'm getting cramps just thinking about it.

OliveLively

I love the weight fluctuations and the bloating. I just love waking up in searing hot pain unable to function at work all because of a reproductive system I had surgically removed from my body anyways :)

FunnyGamer97

Yeah. Fuck commas too! And semicolons! Let’s start an anarchy! I HATE THEM ALL!

humanityisnothumane

I have stage 4 endometriosis and PCOS, diagnosed at 19. I finally had a hysterectomy at age 45, it was glorious lol.

kitkatkirk16

Two words: endometrial ablation. If you don’t want kids or are done having kids, look into it. Did the trick for me and helped me avoid about 15 YEARS of heavy monthly bleeding. No more ruined clothes and bed sheets! No more feminine products. It had virtually zero downsides for me. Wish I had done it 5 years sooner.

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